L.H. asks from Cincinnati, OH on February 27, 2008
Swing Sleeper
My son was a great sleeper until he recently came down with a bad cold. His nose was super runny and it was hard for him to sleep while lying down so I let him sleep in the swing. I still put him in his crib every night but ended up putting him in the swing to fall asleep because again he was choking on phlem ect. Now he is doing better but hates to sleep in his crib. He falls asleep in his swing at night and then I move him to his crib, then he continues to wake up and cry until I put him in the swing. I don't want him sleeping in the swing all night!
It's only been a couple of days but the battle to get him to sleep in his crib is tiring. I am ready to give up and just throw him in there for some shut eye! I continue to put him in there for one good nap a day (he won't survive on no sleep) and try the crib for the other two naps.Anyone ever been through this or have advice? Thanks!
So What Happened?™
Thanks everyone for your advice and experience. I decided to start with night time sleep in the crib. He cried for an hour the first night before he fell asleep. When he woke up at night I went to comfort him and then I let him cry again. He is in our room so I thought it would be terrible and we'd be up all night but he only cried for about 10 minutes and it was more of a fuss than a cry. Anyway I worked on the naps too but only let him cry for a half an hour and then if he wasn't asleep I acted like it was time for him to get up, turned the lights on and got him up. For backup I went out for a car ride and he would fall asleep. Now, he is back to falling asleep in his crib by himself, his naps are usually only about an hour but at least he is sleeping in his crib, and his nightime sleep has improved a lot too. Yay!
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T.T. answers from Denver on February 28, 2008
Don't give in and put him in his swing! Pick him up to comfort him (I don't believe in letting babies cry it out) but leave him in his crib. It won't take long if you're consistent. Lay him down like you normally would, and comfort him when he cries. Rub his back or tummy or something at first, if he doesn't calm down, pick him up for a bit, then lay him down again. Stay with him if you need to, and eventually he'll get back to sleeping just fine in his crib.
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K.D. answers from Denver on February 27, 2008
He's a little old, but swaddling might help. Also, letting him sleep on his side. It's hard when they've been sick. I hope he gets back to routine soon.
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T.T. answers from Denver on February 28, 2008
Don't give in and put him in his swing! Pick him up to comfort him (I don't believe in letting babies cry it out) but leave him in his crib. It won't take long if you're consistent. Lay him down like you normally would, and comfort him when he cries. Rub his back or tummy or something at first, if he doesn't calm down, pick him up for a bit, then lay him down again. Stay with him if you need to, and eventually he'll get back to sleeping just fine in his crib.
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S.M. answers from Denver on February 28, 2008
You could purchase one of those reflux wedges - some have a sling to place the baby in to keep them in place. My daughter just had a case of croup plus a cold and she seemed to do well with one, although she is almost two. When she had colds as a baby we put a pillow under her crib mattress at one end, but she did a lot of rolling around, so it didn't help much. I think a wedge with a sling would be your best bet. I do think they are expensive, but worth it if you can get your son back to sleeping in his crib.
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K.H. answers from Salt Lake City on February 28, 2008
My daughter (now almost 8) had RSV when she was 2 or 3 weeks old. I had her sleeping in either her swing or car seat. When she was finally over the RSV, she didn't want to sleep in her crib either. I started out by taking her bouncer (with music and vibration) and putting that in her crib and turned on the bouncer. When she woke up at night, I made sure that I kept the room somewhat dark so as not to "wake" her up. When I put her back to bed, I put her into the crib without the bouncer. Another thing that might help to distract him is if you have a toy that has a light and music that attaches to the side of the crib. My daughter had an aquarium that attached to her crib. It lit up like a nightlight and also played music while the fish "swam" around.
I don't know if any of that will work but that is what worked for me. Hope it helps some.
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S.L. answers from Boise on February 27, 2008
I think I would do the opposite--have him master napping in his crib first. That way, you're awake the whole time and not so exhausted you want to cry and do anything to get him to sleep at 3 am. I know, I've been there! And if he's extra tired at night, he'll sleep.
I don't know how you feel about crying it out, or if it works for him. It was the best thing for my oldest, but my second just doesn't do it. He'll just cry and cry for an hour or more.
I've been trying this trick with my 22 month old, who is also in a bad sleeping habit because of a cold. When he wakes up in the middle of the night, I pick him up and cuddle until he calms down, and then a minute more, then put him back in bed and sit next to his crib where he can see me. He stares at me until his eyes flutter closed. The first night, he put his blanket over his head and every 10 minutes, he'd lift it up to peek out and see if I was still there. It took me 25 minutes of sitting, but it worked.
Now he isn't waking up anymore, but if he did, the plan was to sit a little farther away each night, until I was way over by the door and he could hardly see me in the dark. It's worth a shot!
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L.M. answers from Boise on February 28, 2008
My son was also a swing sleeper. He was the 5th of 5 boys - all the others slept peacefully in their cribs. I never have understood what made the difference.
But I would just use the swing as he needed it, then transfer him back to the crib each time I could. Eventually he started sleeping in the crib more and more and just made a natural separation from the swing, without any real struggle or effort on my part.
He is now 16 years old. He has no health or long term negative side effects from being a "swing sleeper", and he sleeps all night in a normal bed like all the other boys.
I say relax and don't worry about it. Let him sleep wherever it works best and he'll mostly likely grow out of it like mine did.
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J.C. answers from Casper on February 27, 2008
I think that where ever he can get some sleep is fine. Right now my 3 month old is currently sleeping in her bassinet, but that was after spending the first 2 months in the swing for the nights. The way that we transitioned was simple. I would let her start the night in the swing (ours is a winding one so it wouldn't swing all night) when she woke up for a feeding (I am nursing) I would feed her and then after she went back to sleep I would put her in the bassinet. Then she would tend to just sleep the rest of the night there. But I have had several of my 6 kids who wouldn't sleep in their cribs at all until they were 6 or 7 months old. Let him sleep where you will get the most sleep, because frankly if mom's cranky then everyone is cranky, and if mom ain't sleeping then she's going to be cranky. Good luck.
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J.H. answers from Boise on February 28, 2008
the trick with kids is to be consistant. If the rules are broken once then they can be broken again. It will be hard but you just have to be strong and consistant. No more naps or falling asleep in the swing. It will be hard on you at first but I promise that eventually he will figure it out and he'll be back in his crib. Kids are fast learners. Good luck and be strong!LOL
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