I.B. asks from Basco, IL on October 12, 2008
Support - Basco,IL
My beautiful 26 year old son was killed in a car accident on October 6th. I would like to talk to other mothers who have lost children.
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K.S. answers from Chicago on October 13, 2008
I haven't lost a child, but know others who have and I'm so sorry. I can't imagine the pain you are going through. Again, I am so sorry.
S.W. answers from Chicago on October 13, 2008
I am sorry for you loss. I know a woman who lost her I believe 22 year old in an accident last year. I will see if I can get you her contact information
L.I. answers from Chicago on October 13, 2008
I am so sorry and can say I know what you are going through--My sister in law was killed by a drunk driver and it is still hard for my mother in law each day. She was almost 30 and left behind her son. If you need to talk I can give you her email address. Just let me know
D.B. answers from Chicago on October 13, 2008
I., My heart goes out to you in your loss. I have never lost a child, but when I was in high school I lost 2 of my best friends in seperate accidents within just 6 weeks. One of their mom's welcomed all of her daughter's friends into her home. She let us hang out in her daughter's room, talked with us, and even shared some of her daughter's belongings with her close friends. We often went out to visit her grave and "party" with her. The other mom shut us all out. She was rude to us at the funeral and wouldn't even tell us where he was being buried. The girl's mom went on surrounded with people who loved her and though heartbroken was never bitter. The other mom was alone and very bitter and never seemed to find peace. My advice is to find a good support group and surround yourself with the ones you love, including your son's friends. They were a part of his life and you may enjoy the stories they can share with you and vice versa. Take care of yourself. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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A.G. answers from Chicago on October 13, 2008
I am so very sorry to hear that. I did not loose a child, but I lost my brother 14 years ago on October 1st. He was 16 and died from brain cancer. It truly was one of the most difficult times for myself, our family as whole, and obviously for my mother and father it was terribly tragic, and very unfair...it's just not how things are supposed to go, and as a mother myself now, I have an inkling of just how hard this must be for you and my parents as well. I can tell you this from my own observations...it takes time, a lot of time to work through it, and I think it depends on the type of person you are and how you process things anyways. My mother will tell you that all she could do was just try to get up and out of bed every day, no matter how hard that was, and just hope that one day it wouldn't hurt so much anymore. She also chose to go on anti depressants after a number of months with out them to help her cope and try to start living again. She remained on them for a number of years, and then decided it was time to get off. She will also tell you that for her it was the 5 year mark that was a huge turning point for her in terms of things, that each day got better and better for her after that, and that she could remember him and talk about him with out falling to pieces, that it made her happier to think about, though it is bitter sweet of course. I will also say fives years was a big turning point for myself, but my sister will tell you three was a big turning point for. My Dad however doesn't talk about it, or him, at least not to my sister and I, I have no idea what he says or doesn't say about things to my mother. What I can tell you about him is this...he lost his spark for a long time, but gradually the twinkle in his eye returned. They both try to live life to the fullest, have went on may trips, and seen many things that they have wanted to see since this has all happened. It has only made our family stronger and closer, and appreciate how precious life is. None of take anyone for granted, or anything for that matter. We will miss him forever, and it is not fair,but it just is. It will get better when the time is right for you, and do what you have to do to get through, not what others tell you to do. I am so very sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. May the love you have for your son guide you through your greif, and give you piece of mind.
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A.H. answers from Chicago on October 13, 2008
I cannot imagine what you are going through with losing a child, but would like to tell you I will keep you in my prayers. I lost my fiance in an accident after his bachelor's party and I remember how lost everyone was after his death. I subsequently went on to be come a psych nurse and facilitated a loss and grieving group for 8 years as a way to honor him. It is never easy and the only way out of grief is through it. Find loving friends or groups and talk until you can't talk anymore. One thing I have discovered is that just when you think you are beyond talking THAT is the time you need to talk to someone.
God Bless You.
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M.W. answers from Chicago on October 13, 2008
My sympathies to you and your family. I am very sorry for your loss.
M.M. answers from Chicago on October 12, 2008
My Dear I.,
I am so very sorry for your loss. I am amazed that just 6 days after this tragic accident you have logged on and are seeking info and support. Please check out Compassionate Friends www.compassionatefriends.org. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
With sincere regards,
S.N. answers from Chicago on October 13, 2008
I am soo sorry to hear of your terrible loss. I have not lost a child, but can not imagine the pain you are going through at this time. I will pray for you I.. Stay strong and rely on the Lord during this difficult time in your life.
M. answers from Chicago on October 13, 2008
I am so sorry for your loss. Many hospitals have support groups for parents who have lost children. Again, I am very sorry for your loss.
W.L. answers from Chicago on October 13, 2008
I lost my brother to cancer so my parents lost their son who was 29. They really found a lot of comfort in a support group called "Compassionate Friends." I think there are chapters all over the US. Good luck and I am sorry for your loss.