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LADY, are you INSANE??!! ATTENTION??! Her parents arent' involved -duh!!! They have a REAL funeral to plan, this is for the peers!!!! How many more ways do you want to make this memorial sound "wrong, at fault, unworthy, and unimportant"?! What if it was for attention? (preposterous but OK) Kids are hurting. Look what happens when kids feel ignored and unimportant? SUICIDE perhaps?
Really??! "fashion show" "HOURS and HOURS of work?" "local businesses?" HELLO! Your daughter is going to remember this suicide for the rest of her life (I probably will too) and how you were against the memorial led by students because it interfered with her dance team thing. Which she probably wouldn't otherwise remember when she's an adult. And you're already sending the message that these kids are annoying attention seekers, lots of whom didn't even know the girl and don't have "proper" permission to gather and leave mementos for a human who dies a week AGO....HELLO!!!! If she's like you, she'll look back scoffingly that the silly memorial almost derailed her dance recital. If she's not like you she'll be abhorred at how you acted.
Sounds like your daughter already doesn't care and is following your lead to care more about her own dance thing. Good job. Sounds like a nice student body at a great school. I actually find it terribly sad only 70 students may show. I hope there are many more and they block the entrance, since most local people probably heard about this on the news and would understand completely seeing the kids there. I cant' imagine how I would feel at that age if this happened. A girl I didn't know died suddenly of a brain aneurysm in my high school, and the entire school respected her and everyone was shaken up. The whole town (air force base) was reeling. The grocery store she worked at flew flags half mast for a long time, kids were breaking out in tears all over, even ones that "didn't know her" (including me) the base church supported her family for all costs. Not even the lowest jocks and mean girls were aloof about it.
Is this how high school kids are today? "My important dance recital can't be postponed"??!! With parents who think that's OK? Remind me not to send my kids. What is wrong with you.--And Jane M-standard practice? Hasn't prevented numerous suicides in your school, despite the "ignore it so as not to encourage others" rule. What a wake up call this post has been. So freakin' sad!
WOAH!! FASHION SHOW?! Ick. Should be canceled.
Memorial should take priority and be arranged by school with the students who started it at best possible time for the memorial. Or at very least rescheduled by school and students together to hold memorial at different time than dumb fashion show.
With such an impactful tragedy having happened to one of their students, to bulldoze the mourners with business as usual corporate fashion event seems super callous. Even if it was already scheduled.
Talk to the principal, be sure he reaches out to students and does right by them.