A.R. asks from Oxnard, CA on March 03, 2008
Suggestions on Feeling Good Again and Lose Weight While Being a Working Mom.
I have a beautiful daughter and a loving husband,but my problem is me. I was never a size 5 but I had lost a lot of weight prior to getting married. I really loved the place I was in then, but once I got married and had my daughter all just changed for the worst. I really let myself gain weight. I get into these depression moments to where I just sit around and cry. I can't look at myself in the mirror, I get very upset when my cloths show a bit of my rolls. I get upset with my husband when he wants to make love. I hurt all over emotionaly and physicaly. I can't be a good mother and a good wife if I don't like myself. I would like some suggestions on how to get back to my old self mentaly and physicaly so I could be a better mom and wife.
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Thank you all for all your advice. This is the first time I have told anybody how I feel and the first time I have tried something like this. I really like the support you all have given me. I will take a bit of everybodys advice and suggestions and I will start off new. Thank you for all the love....
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V.D. answers from Reno on March 04, 2008
Hi A., I am sorry to here you are having a hard time. I too have struggled with weight loss in the past. My husband and I have been on a low carb plan for 5 years now. He lost almost 60lbs in about 6 months and has maintained that for 5 years now. I lost aprox. 35lbs in the same amout of time. I have had 2 children sence them and of course my weight has flucuated alot. I am back on track now and Have lost 10 lbs so far. There is a good book out there that we follow called: The Protein Power Lifeplan By Dr.Eades He also has a website about low carb that my husband visits everyday. Everone I know that Has been on this plan has lost alot of weight. My sister was a vegitarin for over 20 years and always strugled with weight. She is now been doing low carb and has lost alot of weight. Her energy level is much better and she says she feels healither. I have not master the excercise yet so I have no advise on that. I do belive on the power of postive thinking though. Thought is so powerful. Good luck in your journey and enjoy the rewards of weight loss.
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J.S. answers from Los Angeles on March 03, 2008
N.S. answers from Los Angeles on March 03, 2008
I was in the same place as you recently and found a free web based weightlose community. It is called www.sparkpeople.com. I have had nothing but positive feedback since I joined. They have nutrition plans,calorie calculators,hundreds of great recipies and you can join multiple teams based on interest. I am a member of late life moms,inter-racial families and scrapbooking to lose to name a few. I have lost 10lbs so far! they also have great motivational quotes through out the site.
My favorite is:
It is impossible for me to lose 100 pounds, But I can lose 10 pounds, 10 times.
my goal is to lose 10 pounds 5 times!
Good luck to you!
M.B. answers from Los Angeles on March 03, 2008
A.,
honestly, it sounds like you have some symptoms of depression. your weight can make you feel depressed, and being depressed can make affect your weight. it's a vicious cycle.
my husband has been dealing with depression for almost 15 years and bipolar disorder for 7 1/2 years now. we have been married for 7 years and have 3 children. he has also complete dental school and is now working as a dentist. so you can see that you can be very functional. but it is very important to manage it the right way. this may mean medication or counseling or both. he has been using both and i also see a psychologist so i can support him the best way i possibly can.
once you get those needs established, i recommend a healthy exercise and nutrition regimen. we just joined bally's last week. mainly because of the child play center within the facility. our girls love the place too.
but the employees seem to be really dedicated to fitness as well as nutrition. we consider our membership there as one of our medical expenses. (obesity really is a metabolic disorder rather than a cosmetic issue).
the best of luck to you. if you ever need anyone to talk to, feel free to contact me.
S.S. answers from Los Angeles on August 09, 2008
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N.L. answers from Reno on March 03, 2008
HI A., I would highly recommend Weight Watchers. I've never been a 'skinny' person & have sort of dieted my whole life w/o much success. When my daughter was 6 months old I realized that this weight wasn't just going to magically fall off of me. Once I got over that I decided I needed to take action. I joined Weight Watchers & have been very successful. It's been a year now & I've lost 45 lbs, which is more than I was trying to lose. I've maintained my 'goal weight' for several months. I'm 20 lbs and 2 sizes smaller than when I got pregnant!! :-) I have to admit, I never thought that I could successfully lose weight, but I have, & it feels great! Of course, I exercise as well, but I really do feel like Weight Watchers has been the key for me. If you are in the right mental place and are ready to lose weight you can do it!! Good luck and best wishes.
S.W. answers from Las Vegas on March 03, 2008
Have you looked into gastric bypass or lapband surgery?
D.A. answers from Los Angeles on March 03, 2008
Hi A., Im sorry to hear you are having such a tough time. How old is your daughter? Are you currently exercising? How is your diet. I have been hosting a weight loss class the last few months and we incorporate some vegan weight loss products, along with exercise and a sensible diet which includes 5 to 6 small meals a day. If you would like to chat and go over some ideas let me know Ill send you my phone number. I am in Northridge. It helps to have a buddy to work out with and keep you motivated, even if its just walking or taking your daughter for a walk. We are much harder on ourselves and im sure your husband thinks your beautiful the way you are, but I understand that you need to start feeling good about yourself. Here is a free website you can go to for some recipes and meal plan ideas www.gofigure8.com. Hope you feel better soon..D.
www.dalex.myarbonne.com
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