Stay-at-home Mom Title

I thought you mind enjoy this story!!!

Just a Mom?
A woman, renewing her driver's license at the County Clerk's office was
asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation. She hesitated,
uncertain how to classify herself. "What I mean is," explained the
recorder, "do you have a job or are you just a...?" "Of course I have a
job," snapped the woman.

"I'm a Mom." "We don't list 'Mom' as an occupation, "housewife covers
it," said the recorder emphatically. I forgot all about her story until one
day. I found myself in the same situation, this time at our own Town Hall.
The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient and possessed of
a high sounding title like, "Official Interrogator" or "Town Registrar."

"What is your occupation?" she probed.

What made me say it? I do not know. The words simply popped out. "I'm a
Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations.
The clerk paused, ball-point pen frozen in midair and looked up as though
she had not heard right. I repeated the title slowly emphasizing the most
significant words. Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was
written in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.

"Might I ask," said the clerk with new interest, "just what you do in your field?"

Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply, "I
have a continuing program of research, (what mother doesn't) in the
laboratory and in the field, (normally I would have said indoors and out)
I'm working for my Masters, (the whole darned family) and already have
four credits (all daughters). Of course, the job is one of the most demanding
in the humanities, (any mother care to disagree?) and I often work 14
hours a day (24 is more like it). But the job is more challenging than most
run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather
than just money"
There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she
completed the form, stood up and personally ushered me to the door.

As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career, I
was greeted by my lab assistants -- ages 13, 7, and 3. Upstairs

I could hear our new experimental model, (a 6 month old baby) in the child development
program, testing out a new vocal pattern. I felt I had scored a beat on
bureaucracy! And I had gone on the official records as someone more
distinguished and indispensable to mankind than "just another Mom."

Motherhood! .. What a glorious career! Especially when there's a title
on the door.
Does this make grandmothers "Senior Research associates in the field of
Child Development and Human Relations" and great grandmothers

"Executive Senior Research Associates"? I think so!!!

I also think it makes Aunts "Associate Research Assistants."

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The only people who get the vision of eating bon bons all day when they hear the term at-home-mom are the ones who have never done it!! Its not an easy job and those of us who sign on don't get enough credit. I've heard of people using the term caregiver,or homemaker... I myself prefer Domestic Goddess! Good luck, and remember that no matter what anyone else percieves your job to be or what title you have you are doing the most important job there is, and your kids are benefiting from it every day.

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caretaker?
I really don't see why SAHM isn't sufficient. Sure there are a few assholes who don't understand what work it is to stay home with children, but for the most part, people are pretty understanding of the "job".

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I put Domestic Engineer too.

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Hi K.:

I know exactly what you mean - I was a stay-at-home mom for 15 years and was proud of it; you should be too!!! I just recently went back to work part-time (although out of necessity) and am loving this new phase of my life.

As for your title, I used "Homemaker" - as we have definitely made a home for our families (in between sitting around eating the bon bons!!)!!! Then when I was being interviewed I would say I prefer the title of "Domestic Goddess" - they usually liked that one!!!

Good Luck!!!!

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You don't do that? Just kidding I never did either. If we were truly paid what we are worth we would be the top paying jobs. I joking ly say domestic Goddess or slave or even just Mom. There have been times when I thought of changing my name. Which actually did change now that I am mellower."Grandma"- "me ma" or maw maw.

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How about "Household Manager"?! I used that one time and they called me to confirm my position! lol

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Even though I have a Home Based Catalog Business I have always Put Domestic Engineer on forms. It throws younger people off But LOL We are a lot more then Bon Bon eating soap box watching yo yo's LOL
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K. how about stay home entrepreneur/mom!!! Wouldn't that put a signifcant concept to "STAY HOME" The mom part is just an added bonus to being where you live! It never gets boring...you can involve the kids and feel like you have a purpose while making a bit of an income and being home with your kids. If you are at all interested in knowing how this stay home entrepreneur/mom has made this staying home subject more interesting please get a hold of me and let's talk!!! IT'S PRETTY COOL!!
S.

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Domesticated housewife and mother, AKA chef, chauffeur, maid, housekeeper, social director, nanny, tutor, etc.

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I agree that the only ones who might think it's an easy life is the one with no kids. I recently bumped into an old friend from high school. He is some sort of environmental engineer or something. When I emailed that I was a SAHM, he said he had to look that acronym up. Then he commented that he didn't think he could do that all day long. My point is that even those men who have very technical jobs understand how hard we work, even if they have never heard the title before.

But, if it makes you feel better to use a different title, I vote for household manager or the CEO suggestions. =)

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I always put self employed.Because it is a full time job.And when asked about it,it makes for a good chuckle when someone ask what you do.I always say,oh lets see,I'm a maid,dishwasher,dry cleaner,cook,doctor or nurse and a therapist.Who says you need college just become a wife and mom and see how quick you become a pro at all of the above lol.But I wouldn't have it any other way.But that is a line you can play with on any form.sahm,housewife,self employed,the possible answer are endless.Goodluck and god bless all the wives and moms. K.

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I have in the past stated domestic engineer. That pretty much takes care of everythng. I have used that because in all actuality, we do it all. Laundry, dinner, dishes, accountant, dr, cater to our children, husbands, clean the house. run errands for everyone, run our children everywhere on a whim... I have actually used it when I have fone to the drs office and have to fill out new yr forms!!
Good Luck
J.

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i like to write mommy. when they ask for employers i write my kids names.

it's the most important job in the world. i wish we were more appreciated by the working folks.

i was talking with an acquaintance about being a SAHM-- she had recently come home to be a SAHM. she mentioned that it was a lot harder than she thought it would be!!... i wasn't sure if i should feel flattered or insulted! :)

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Ha! Ha! I always put domestic engineer;-)

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How about Domestic engineer, child care specialist, book keeper, accountant, party planner , chef, Coordinator.Chief cook and bottle washer. Waste disposal specialist.

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My personal favorite is CEO of (Family Name) Household. I heard it in the movie "One Fine Day" with Michelle Pfiefer (sp?) and George Clooney. It was before I had kids that I heard it. It rings in my ears and comforts me whenever I feel my occupation is being questioned.

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My friends always think it is funny and somewhat rewarding to call ourselves domestic engineers in the field of child development and research!!!

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I know it's an older term but I like it: Homemaker. You make the home work and run smoothly :)

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Hello, My friend always used the term "Domestic Engineer" I always like it.

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I'm a working mom and it is very hard to work and take care of a family. I wish I could stay at home so be proud of your title but my suggestion would be domestic engineer LOL!

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Try using HouseKeeper instead. Or Nanny.

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SAHM's have one of the hardest jobs around - Dr. Phil says it's the equivalent of 2 jobs because you're not only watching the kids (1 job) but your maintaining the house too (2nd job).

My next door neighbor watches our 2 daughters and would get SO MAD when her husband would criticise her saying that she "does nothing all day but watch TV" because we know that watching 2 kids isn't easy, and you can't just get by watching TV all day.

I've heard some SAHM's use the title "Domestic Engineer"; some have said they "run their own daycare" (nobody has to know it's just her kids!); how about "freelance home-care engineer"? or "Independent consultant" (you consult with your husband on what goes on with the house and kids, right?). Or maybe even Domestic Contractor (because you have to keep a tight schedule? "contract" with places like Schwan's to deliver food, or with the doctors offices for appointments, etc.)

Keep thinking about it - you'll find something that you can put down that won't make you feel like you sit around all day eating bon-bons!! :)

For what it's worth.....

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domestic engineer is great, often i just use self employed. After all what we do IS work, 24 hours a day 7 days a week, with no time off, no sick days and paycheck. not that I mind working so hard for hugs and smiles, but people who think this is easy need to actually try to do it for a week.

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I prefer Domestic Engineer. LOL.

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This is what I put for my occupation. 1.) Child of God, then 2.) Sam and Christopher's Mom. Anyone who knows anything about it knows that there is no bon-bon eating involved :-)

Many Blessings!

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The only one who would think you sit around eating bon bons as a stay at home mom is someone with no children!

I've put "mom" and "homemaker" before I began my own business and changed to "work at home mom." But there is nothing wrong with "stay at home mom!"

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A friend of mine refers to herself as a "household manager", I think, and she went so far as to make her own "business cards". They have her name and contact information on them, so when she meets someone new who she wants to get in contact with her, she just hands them her card. I may end up doing that some day, myself!

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This response is more for humor, but I have a good friend who refers to herself as a domestic goddess. Fits her perfectly.

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I have always wrote on that little line "Homemaker". Mainly bc during taxes etc when asked my occupation I say stay-at-home mom & they put Homemaker.

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Domestic engineer--saw that on my bank application. Cmon--wouldnt you crack up if you received a form like that?!

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just write domestic engineer

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That's a good one! I also like "Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations." Helps people appreciate how important the job really is.

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Stay at home mom's are often called home makers.

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Hi, I would say domestic engineer. There is always something to fix and it's in your domain. I' ve heard this before. That's what I call my self. Ya, people tend to look down on SAHM and think they just sit around all day, not in my house. I have 2 boys, ages 2 and 4 and I think none of use ever sit down. But being a Mom is the most important, hardest, and rewarding job anyone could have. Good luck with the employment forms!

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I go with the Domestic Engineer. I actually had business cards made up with my phone and email on it. It was a special offer for free cards, and they are great to give out whenever my kids need contact information or a parent who is taking kids, etc. I put my husband as the CEO. LOL Most people get a kick out of it and they tend to remember me! LOL

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