Stage 2 Breast Cancer

I was about your daughter's age when my mom was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer. What everyone else is saying is correct. Your daughter doesn't want to upset you, and may be wondering if this is what is in store for her future. Contact her, howver you can and just let her know that you want and need to she how SHE is doing, and that you need to do this before you have your procedure.
My pray for her is that she comes around to you.
My pray for you is to heal quickly, physically and emotionally.
My the surgeons hands be steady and strong.
My G-d watch over all of you and lift you up during this time of need.

Your daughter is probably as scared as you are, and is just having a hard time talking about her feelings. I think a letter or email is a great idea. You are in my thoughts. :)

I'm sure your daughter doesn't want to face the situation. She may be worried of talking with you about it because she doesn't want to burden you with her fears and feelings. I agree with these people, I would write her and let her know the things you want to say. This may help her realize you need her right now. As for her talking about her feelings, maybe she just isn't ready. She will when she is ready. You are in my prayers. God Bless.

K.-God Bless you and your family thru this dificult time. Your daughter just isn't ready to face you mortality and maybe her own. She'll be there for you! Just give her time. She'll come around. H.

Dont let it bother you! She is probably scared and handling it the way she thinks is best. Perhaps after the surgery and all is well with you she will come around.

K. my name is P.. I just read your comment and I just want to say that your in my prayers. I have gone through some breast scares and they still don't know what it is and right now it has gone away hopefully for good. In a way I can understand your daughter and that shes very scared and doesn't know how to react. Be strong and put on your good face and maybe she will feel a little safer knowing how strong you are.

Hi K.,

I am sorry to hear about your diagnosis and the procedure your going to have to endure. But, I would ask you about how your handling this situation and when you speak to your daughter possibly she is picking up on your fear and anxiety about what is going to happen going forward with you and your health. I would recommend that if she is near you physically.. get her with you in person and just put your heart on the table and have a true heart to heart.
If she isnt near you physically or your relationship isnt a very close one where you can have a heart to heart and discuss how your both feeling and work through it in a positive fashion then I would say that writing your feelings down about everything your going through, and how you feel about the whole experience can be very beneficial to your healing and help her know where you are emotionally and physically and not feel the anxiety of discussing her fears with you one on one until she is ready.
My heart goes out to you and I hope she opens up her heart and steps outside of her box and you two can become closer with this experience. Many blessings and health wishes for a long happy and healthy future and know that you have lots of women cheering you on during your fight ~ Please know that you can reach out and be received in a loving embrace by women who've been affected by this cancer in some fashion. take care...

Hi K.

Just wondering how things are going since two years ago! I too am a breast cancer survivor. Just checkin in on you!

S.

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I think she is scared of talking about it because she thinks it's gonna make you upset and she does not want to hurt you anymore then you already are. I think maybe you need to start the conversation with are you ok with what's going on with me? do you have any questions about it? let her know your here for her and you'd be happier if she'd talk to you about it. tell her you NEED her right now. and It would make you so happy to have someone to talk to about it. Maybe she'll open up. Make sure you stress the fact that your relaying on her for support and that you need her.

What I think is that your daughter is hesitant to talk to you about how she feels because she knows that you are scared. I believe that she's trying to be strong for you. Also, I'm sure she is very worried and scared herself. Maybe ask your husband to tell her how much you would like her to be with you during your surgery. Either that, or write her a letter. That might be easier for the both of you, as you aren't face to face. Be strong, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I know that we've never met, but let me know if you need anything. Email me, if you'd like. Even if it's just to vent.

I would recommend writing her a letter about everything that you would like to say to her. I know that a letter, to some, may be inpersonal, but if she changes the subject that fast, then I believe it would be the right way to go.

GOod luck and my prayers are with you.