Way late in responding, but Nursing Mothers Council is a wonderful resource for breastfeeding. Their phone number is (650) 327-MILK. Anyway, you are definitely not alone! Even someone like me who has been around infants, kids, babies, etc pretty much all my life and was actually fairly prepared for the life change a baby brings.... It's quite a shock when it's your baby, and I would find myself holding my son while looking at the front door wondering when his parents were going to come pick him up!! I can laugh about it now hahaha
My son & I also had MANY problems for the first few months because he was tongue-tied. After we got his tongue clipped (@ 4 mo and 4mo too late!), it was smooth sailing, and he still nurses at night at 2 years old. We never had the nipple confusion problem, and when I was ok'd to go back to breastfeeding by my doctor and lactation consultant when he was 2 1/2 mo, he went right to the breast and like I said, has never looked back!!
I would say EDUCATION and RESEARCH are keys to anything we do in life, and having a baby is no different. The one thing that frustrates me most, however, is how dishonest most new moms can be. "Oh, yeah, my baby sleeps through the night, and he's only 4 weeks old!" "I feel great!" "I'm getting plenty of sleep!" These are only a few examples, and they can be VERY discouraging to a new mom, especially if this is her first. I think it's a great service we can give to moms-to-be, and postpartum moms as well, when we offer help and encouragement as well as education. That being said, though, we can only educate so much before the mom-to-be has to actually listen and be realistic about how things are going to be. Hope this helps! Let me know if there's anything I can do to help!