Well, it's not your fault because you were caught off guard, but the reason he was affected so much is because of how you reacted to it. You said "we ran ran downstairs and I finished getting his boots on.....I very quickly ran around the house and triple checked...both got in the car and got out....called hubby right away......" You really scared him. I think that as moms, we have to remember that if WE are calm, our kids will be also. If WE are freaking out, so will our kids. My son had a HORRIBLE bloody nose one day about a month ago, and it was really scaring him. I was scared too, wondered if I needed to take him to the ER actually, but the whole time, I was smiling and talking calmly to him, and telling him stories about when I'd had bloody noses. I explained to him that every single person gets bloody noses, and so they were no biggie. It lasted about 15 minutes, so we had plenty of time to talk. I was talking about playing a game later, basically just talking to him about whatever came to my mind. Now, if I had been freaking out with him on the outside, like I was on the inside, he would've been super freaked. There have been times when we've had tornado warnings too, and the first time we had one, my kids were being babysat by my in laws while I was visiting a friend in FL. My MIL was scared, and watching the news and saying they needed to be ready to get to cover. Well, next thing I know, my daughter calls me all freaked out. So, the next time we had a warning, I sat her on my lap and explained to her that although tornados are dangerous sometimes, in my whole life I had never seen one, so we can't worry about something that will probably never make it anywhere near us. Our kids feed off our energy. If you're grumpy, they will get grumpy too. If you're happy, they will be. If you're scared, they will be too.