Some One to Understand What I Mean About My Pregnancy

Hi C.,

Don't feel guilty. Many women don't like being pregnant, it doesn't mean that you don't want the baby. I was so sick during my last pregnancy, every day I would wake up and not know how I was going to get through another day.

I also have experienced miscarriages and you probably are feeling a lot of underlying stress because of your previous losses. That may be why you want people to leave you alone about the pregnancy. You might subconciously not want to jinx this pregnancy by talking about it and thinking about it too much.

I think you are absolutely normal in your feelings. Just try to focus on the day when you have your daughter in your arms. You will get through this! :)

C.

I didn't enjoy being pregnant with either of my kids. So I know how frustating, painful, and uncomfortable it can be. There isn't much you can do except take it day by day. Every pregnancy is different and unfortunately you are stuck with discomfort and odd feelings about being pregnant. I know my first one was the worst and I didn't think I could make through another day, but of course I did. Because it was so aweful I didn't think I would be attached to him once he arrived. I WAS! So just know that all of this will pass eventually and you'll be able to enjoy your beautiful little girl. I have 3 year old son and a 12 week old daughter. It's exhausting for the first three months. Don't fret though it does get eaiser after the first three months, I don't think the exhaustion will ever go away though :)

Listen, You need to breath slowly and calm down.
Look deep inside,even though you are happy about this new other child, is there some other reason why your feeling blue?
You hormones are so out of wack right now.That is probably the main reason.
Being 5 month along,your almost there.
Now is the time to rest and mentaly prepare yourself.
You've got so work ahead of you.
Ask for help with the 3 yr. old. Take time for you.

I completely understand what you are feeling. I am 38 weeks pregnant and am completely over being pregnant. I read a article the other day that put it perfectly. It is like your own identity is gone and you dont get it backuntil you have the baby. You are just "prego" for nine months and that is what almost every conversatin you have with people is about. I dont think you should feel bad about it at I think it is a normalcy. I know for me it has come in waves there are times when I love being prego and then there are times when I am just so ready to have my body back to myself. It is really great that youare talking about it, and if i can be any help just let me know !!

Sounds like you're having a rough time C.. I too am pregnant with my second child...though I am due in 2 weeks. I think you're going through normal emotional changes right now. I have had similar feelings throughout this pregnancy. I have been irritable with friends and family and even with the baby...who seems to love keeping my up late into the night. Have you talked to your OB about your feelings? They can usually reccommend things that you can do to help yourself feel better. Also, what kind of support network do you have? Like friends, the baby's father if he's around, family, etc...If you let them in on some of what you're feeling, they may be able to do something to help you out. Even if it involves just helping you be as comfortable as possible. Also...with the fainting, have you been checked for anemia? With both of my pregnancies, I had problems with fainting, lack of energy, and just feeling really poorly in general. Both times, I was anemic...turns out baby was taking all the iron my body was taking in. I got onto iron supplements btoh times and felt an enormous difference within 3-4 weeks of starting the supplements. Although the pills are not exactly appetizing and can cause some other bodily cahnges...the overall benefits are definitely worth it.
I hope that you are able to get through this rough spot. If you ever want to talk, send me a line. I love being able to talk with other preggos like myself! Take care of yourself and try to relax!

Maybe your dealing with some feelings of depression. I would get together with a good friend and a cup of tea and talk about what could have caused this change of heart.

Just to let you know I absolutly hated being pregnate!! I love my child but I hated pregnancy! you still need to becareful it may be depression though. But if it isnt you are not alone alot of women dont like being pregnate! I was so happy when I went into labor because I knew I wouldnt be pregnate after the night.

Dear C.,

You should find out if you are anemic. Fainting can be caused by anemia. Are you eating well, taking your prenatals, etc? Any actions to keep yourself healthy should be doubled because of the baby. Maybe you should try protein shakes and lots of healthy foods? You also needs lots of calcium and magnesium. Baywood makes a cal-mag drink that is called cal-mag fizz. Tastes great and is not expensive. Calcium and magnesium help the nerves, tired muscles, etc.

Your body is under quite a bit of stress and a good nutritional program will at least help your moods.

Deb

i went through the same thing my last time bein gpregos. you kinda just have to deal with it and pepople make ya mad tell them to leave you alone. your pregos so when you snap at people they blame hormones anyway =)

HI! I am due tomorrow with a little girl. Though I already have 2 boys, 8 and 17, I have had 3 births at 6 months that didnt make it, and I am older now. I am very thankful but being pregnant with a girl must make your hormones double. I am able to stay very active but i tell you what I am grumpy and moody. Your right everyone wants to touch you or talk to you. I think it must be all the female hormones I just want to scream sometimes. Hang in there its almost over.

I will give you a good reason to be happy about your new baby girl. Last week I was 22 weeks pregnant with a baby girl. I have a 2 1/2 year old son and I just turned 24. I had a difficult preg. with placenta previa. I was on bed rest for about 2 months. As hard as everything was, I was so looking forward to having a new baby. Last week I was rushed to the hospital and lost her. I just want you to know how lucky you are and I know preg. is hard, but you will be so happy when you see her. Good luck with everything!!

C.,

It sounds like you're experiencing some of the typical pregnancy mood swings. Happy one day, irritable the next. Don't waste your energy feeling guilty! You can't control how you feel. While I love my daughter, I HATED being pregnant. You're sick for the first few months and then, when that clears, you're getting so big you can't do anything comfortably anymore. Also, the whole world seems to think that they're your mother now and can tell you what to do. I can't tell you how many times people told me I couldn't or shouldn't do something b/c I was pregnant. The pregnancy also becomes the focus of every conversation people have w/ you. It's like they forget you're an intelligent person w/ your own personality just b/c you're growing a baby! If you don't want to deal w/ people, tell them you need some quiet time. They'll just put it off to horomones and you'll get your rest. :) Good luck and just remember that this is a temporary state.

J.

I am 27 weeks pregnant with a 1 yr old. My first pregnancy with my daughter was amazing, I loved every moment of it. This time around I am extremely tired and exhausted having to be pregnant and take care of a 1 yr old is so hard. I have trouble keeping up with my daughter and her energy, I have a tough time getting up and down, I hate being outside because I can;;t stand the heat and of course my daughter loves it. I can’t wait for this pregnancy to be over but everytime I feel my baby kick I am in such amazement about the life that is growing inside of me and how special that is. Yes, I hate running to the bathroom every second and I can’t go anywhere without having to stop but I have never hated feeling my baby kick or move. It's movement is what reassures me he/she is healthy and growing. I would think with the failed pregnancies you went through you would feel the same way, knowing this baby is healthy and doing well. I think you might be suffering from depression or the change in hormones are affecting you. I would mention these feelings to the Obgyn and relax and hang out with some friends. I really can't imagine how you are feeling because yes I am sick of being pregnant and breastfeeding, it will be 3 yrs before I can drink or have a coffee but feeling my baby has never made be upset even when it is slightly painful. I try to imagine what he/she is doing or thinking at that moment and knowing the baby is awake and moving makes me feel closer to my child. Maybe my feeling of beauty in the making of a life stems from the fact that I spend 7 yrs trying to conceive my daughter so I have a profound knowlegde of how precious life actually is and how hard it is for some people to even be able to experience a baby move inside of them. The most devasting thought I had when we were going through infertility treatments was never knowing what it felt like to have a child inside of you. I never cared if I had to adopt or have my own all I wanted was to experience pregnancy and childbirth. God has truly blessed me and anyone that is pregnant. When you feel depressed or upset just take a relaxing break and think about how blessed you are and how short 9 mths actually is compare to the lifetime of love and happiness your daughter will bring you. Congratulations on your pregnancy and good luck with everything!

I am no expert so I would suggest next visit with your OB/GYN tell the Dr. how you are feeling. I only suggest this because you may be showing early signs of depression. I know they say you can get depressed after a baby is born but sometimes women can get depressed during the pregnancy. Just a thought