So Not PC - Anyone Dislike Being Pregnant?

Hi J., I do feel bad for your particular situation. I told myself at the end of my pregnancy 'at least i didn't need bed rest' - but you can't say the same. for me, it was just the simple fact that i was not ready to be pregnant AGAIN (#4 was an 'ooops' post vasectomy and i had a 4 month old when we got pregnant again - my son had reflux, i wasn't sleeping more than 5-6 hours a night and not continuous either, for a greater portion of my pregnancy with #4 and when i did get my son to start sleeping thru the night, i was up every two hours to pee again - i had what seemed to be continuous round ligament pain on my right side (later found out that this was my ovary twisting and untwisting) i was suffering from horrible post partum depression from #3, and then had to go off my medication because of the new pregnancy. What i really wanted more than anything was to re-live a fantastic weekend i had up in wisconsin about 10 years ago, partying hard with a big group of friends, sleeping in tents, boating, drinking and laughing ALOT... you know... not having to worry about diaper rash, rocking a baby endlessly in vain only to have them wake up the second they hit the mattress, not showering in two days because the baby doesn't want to be set down...and then somebody has the frickin nerve to ask how you're doing and it takes every ounce of willpower you've ever mustered to say 'fine' and not tear their head off...

i guess all we can do is try to remember it could be worse, and this must be God's way of keeping us humble and making us appreciate the smallest of blessings when things just plain suck.

Keep your chin up darlin! keep chanting 'it could be worse' :)

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Don't worry you are not alone. I am 12 weeks pregnant and I have an 8 month old son. I have been extremely sick since week five. Is there Joy being pregnant because I don't remember it with my last and I am sure as hell not having fun with this one. And the worst part for me is one of my best friends just fond out she was pregnant and she is doing great and doesn't understand why I don't want to do anything!

Hang in there. I wish I could tell you someday it gets better but I'm still waiting for that someday!

If I could have skipped the past 34 weeks I would have been more than happy. I don't know if I'll make it to the end! The only thing keeping me sane is when my guy moves around (minus the rib kicks and use of my bladder as a trampoline of course). Mine hasn't been as rough as your two pregnancies so I can only imagine how much harder it must be on you physically and emotionally - all the while chasing a toddler this time and working! Remember to take time out for yourself even if it's just an hour nap or going to get a pedicure. I find the smallest indulgences now make me feel a ton better!

It is okay not to like it, just watch who you say it to. So many woman would do anything to get and be pregnant and would find every ache and pain a blessing. So yes vent, because it isn't that fun and definitely not glamorous, but just know who your venting to!!

Also it is going a lot quicker the second time and you don't have much time not to like it b/c your so busy. I am 17 weeks and time has flown this time.

oh my gosh I have been so criticized by my family for this, but YES I HATE BEING PREGNANT. I'm not saying we weren't happy to learn we're having a baby, I'm not saying babies are bad. But BEING PREGNANT SUCKS and anyone who actually ENJOYS throwing up, seeing a vagina doctor every month, and not sleeping and all the other caviots that come with it-- is sicker than I am! I do not actually understand how you can ENJOY being pregnant. And I don't like that moms who haven't had any sickness or problems look at us like we're complaining party poopers. Ya know what? They have no right to talk cuz they don't know how it is. It's horrible. I am curious to meet my baby and see what it will become in life, but right now it is not making a great first impression.

Just a quick note of sympathy - of course you hate being pregnant - it sounds miserable! Those of us who love being pregnant have had pretty good experiences with it - feel good most or all of the time, etc etc.

I truly hope you're not put on bedrest this time around and that you start feeling better soon! I know you know it's worth it (or you'd not be doing it again) - if it's any consolation, a friend of mine just had baby #2 and she said her second labor - fast and easy - must have been a make-up for her first labor (rotten and painful). :)

i would do anything in the entire world to be pregnant i have had 4 miscarraiges. I have one daughter 4 yrs old, i puked the entire 9 months and loved every minute of it because i'd do anything to have kids she is my miracle baby and i hope to do it once more.

I remember wanting to "love" being pregnant with my first baby over 5 years ago. It took me a long time to realize that it was okay and actually normal to not enjoy being pregnant. Don't get me wrong, there were some cool moments that I will always cherish! Now, I am not so patiently waiting birth of baby number 3 literally this week (FYI my son just turned 13 months). Every contraction brings back those horrid memories in triage just waiting to be admitted and longing for that epidural. But then again, there is that moment when baby is lying on your chest and you think to yourself, I might actully do this again! Best of luck!

please. which is better, the many new moles or the hemmroids? I'm due in 6 weeks. Its not the pregnant i like, its what comes from it. sorry yours is so tough!

I am pregnant with #3 and due around the same time as you. I love being pregnant so I can't relate to that, but I don't think you're "naughty" for hating being pregnant. I just happen to be lucky enough to have easy pregnancies- I probably wouldn't love hemorroids or backaches either.

Just a thought- are you happy with your care provider? If not, a switch to a doctor or midwife you mesh really well with might help you feel better.

Barring that, a massage or girl's day out never fails to make me feel better. Or maybe a baby shopping spree? Have a health few months.

I know how you feel. With my first son, I was in so much pain I couldn't stand it. I was in and out of the hospital every other week, and ended up staying for one to two weeks at a time, but I had plecental abruption so... With my second pregnancy, i had back pain out of this world, but then again I gained 85 pounds with my son... how? NO IDEA... i ate all fruits... exersiced ... I did everything the doctors told me to do, and still gained double the amount of weight your "supposed" to gain with a baby... I felt like i was having twins, and then my son was born... little 6 pound baby... I couldn't believe it. I thought if i wasn't having twins i was just going to have one GIGANTIC baby.... but nope... little tiny 6 pound monster... ha ha.. he's my little monster... i love him so much, and ya know... after he was born all the pain and everything i went through was TOTALLY WORTH IT!!!

J.,
You are just keeping it real! My first pregnancy was a challenge. I was working and I didn't like the way my body felt. My boobies felt wierd. The second pregnancy I was already a SAHM. I thought because of this, the pregnancy would be easy. I couldn't keep my eyes open! Thank God I didn't have to drive to work anyone. I would get showered for church, eat breakfast and dose off at the table. Never making it to church. I had to pee like it was my third trimester when I was only 2 months. So when it was bedtime, when I should have been sleeping, I was either in the kitchen finding food or in the bathroom. I slept well and never ate late at night with my first pregnancy.

Yes, I've heard others say they loved being pregant. Every pregnancy is different so every person is different so don't feel like you're not being PC because of your own personal exerience. It does not mean you don't love your baby...you just don't love the process. Everyone that knows me knows that if my 2nd girl had arrived before my 1st girl, my 1st girl would have never made it here. That's how bad my pregnancy was.

Good luck hun
~M

My first child was 6mon old when I found out I was pregnant again and I was hysterical. I was on bedrest with my first for the last month. Listened to my Dr at every visit say how I should be going any day now she was surprised I made it this far with all the complications ect. ect. ect... Only to be induced at the end which was absolutly horrible. Then to find out 6months later I had to do it all again. I can understand how you feel because I hated being pregnant again and then felt guilty for feeling that way which sent me into a depresion. So trust me you are not the only one who has these feelings and won't be the last. I hope things get better for you.