T.P. asks from Keller, TX on December 17, 2008
Sleeping in Bouncy Seat
Okay...I just HAVE to get feedback from you Moms on this one!! My daughter is 4 mos old and has not slept in her crib or bassinet yet. She had a heart murmur at birth but we ruled out that was not causing her any discomfort when on her back. She has always cried when placed on her back to sleep. She will lay on her back on her play mat and kicks up a storm, but when placed on her back to sleep, she screams. When in her deepest sleep and placed on her back, she is awake within minutes screaming. Part of me thinks she is now accustomed to being in a womb position. Her legs may feel too "free" when she's lying on her back...almost like she's falling.
So...here's my dilemna: She takes her naps and sleeps in a Fisher Price bouncy chair. (I'm hoping it's not going to cause any permanent spinal issues, as it resembles a hammock in shape). My daughter is a VERY happy baby. She eats very well, smiles all day long without any fits, and most amazing of all....has been sleeping 12 hours every night since 3 months - in this chair. I figure "why mess up a good thing?" but as you can imagine, her pediatrician thinks I'm asking for trouble. I can't imagine I'll have a daughter that needs to sleep upright in a chair at the age of 10 and on her wedding night! When she's able to sit up on her own I figure she'll be more apt to lie down on her own, roll over, etc. Is it acceptable for me to wait a bit longer before enforcing the lying position when sleeping? Oh, I forgot to add: When she is on me and dozes off, she will sleep with her face smashed into my body.....she doesn't turn her head. Of course, having her in the bouncy keeps me from worrying about SIDS, too! I'm very torn on what to do as many Moms will say "If she eats well and sleeps well and is happy, that is all that matters right now." Thanks, Moms!
D.J. answers from Amarillo on December 19, 2008
I wouldn't worry about it. My son and the daughter of my babysitter both slept in a swing until they were almost a year old. He transitioned into a bed well enough, and does not seem to have any lasting damage.
T. answers from Dallas on December 18, 2008
I personally think it's just fine. My daughter had reflux when she was an infant so I think it affected how she slept on her back. She ended up sleeping in a rocker swing until she was maybe 6 months old. We did eventually have to make the transition, and we had to let her cry it out. But that only lasted a few days, and she was just fine after that. She is now 3 1/2 and doesn't have any problems at all from it. I have to agree that it is important that she sleeps well, so you also can sleep well!
J.K. answers from Dallas on December 18, 2008
Well if she isn't comfortable sleeping on her back I'll try letting her sleep on her tummy. The first month is when you have to worry about SIDS.
A.D. answers from Dallas on December 18, 2008
Like you said, if everything else is good, don't worry too much. Have you tried putting her on her side? She may like that better and the SIDS risk is minimal, especially using a positioner. It may be less a position problem and more a bed preference. My daughter very early picked one bed that was her sleeping place and NOWHERE else. I don't know how she could tell but she would only sleep in her bed.
A.H. answers from Dallas on December 18, 2008
Have you taken her to a pediatric chiropractor to see if she has a spinal misalignment that is causing her discomfort? It sounds like she doesn't want to move her neck or extending her back straight. Alot of babies undergo alot of spinal trauma during the birthing process and it may be a simple fix that a chiropractor can help you with. I can refer you to a good one if you would like.
T.T. answers from Dallas on December 18, 2008
Both my kids slept in their bouncy seat for a long time. My first until he was 6 months (he rolled over late and had reflux) and my 2nd until almost 4 months. Both transitioned fine to the crib and have always been great sleepers. Just follow your little girl's cues. When she seems too crowded in the seat or starts sitting up in it, it's time to transition. As for now, just enjoy the good nights sleep!!
L.G. answers from Dallas on December 18, 2008
When my son was born he had issues sleeping on his back b/c of allergies. When laid on his back he couldn't breathe well and his doctor explained he didn't understand to breathe through his mouth. So his nose would stop up and then he would start screaming. My dad bought him a bassinet that can be adjusted into a reclined position. It was a travel bassinet but we used it daily. Talk about a life saver!! I could buckle him in so he didn't side down and he would sleep for hours. Eventually he had no problems sleeping on his back. I wouldn't worry too much. All my friends ended up borrowing the bassinet. In fact it's the only thing I saved!
C.T. answers from Dallas on December 18, 2008
Both my sons napped in their bouncy seats until about 6-7 months-both were well over the weight limit, but as long as the thing still moved, who cares! They did sleep in their crib at night most of the time, but some nights when they just wouldn't sleep, we put them in their bouncy and they slept the rest of the night. That is probably why both my sons sleep so well in the car-2 minutes and they are out! I say as long as she is healthy and everyone is sleeping, why worry about it now. She will transition to her crib when the time comes. When will that be? You'll know. Enjoy your new daughter!!
J.M. answers from Dallas on December 18, 2008
Tracy--If she likes to be on her tummy and you are concerned about SIDS--you could always get a bed monitor--BabySense baby monitor is what we used for my son--until he was like 2! It allowed me to sleep at night and not worry that he was not breathing. Another thing to worry about with the baby in the bouncer or swing or carrier to often--is that it can cause plagiocephaly, which is a flattening of the head and requires a DOC band to help round it out. We encountered this too--and it was a difficult couple of months--but so worth it!
J.G. answers from Dallas on December 18, 2008
My son is almost 4 months and have yet to sleep more than an hour or 2 in his crib. He sleeps in his car seat or in our bed. He awakes very quickly when in his bed even when nicely swaddle. I think if she is sleeping that long at night than don't change it. My son sleeps very little during the day and wakes a few times at night. I have a friend whose daughter is 9 months and still sleeps in her infant car seat. As long as the baby is safe I wouldn't worry too much about where she is sleeping. My middle son didn't sleep through the night and was in our bed quite a bit and is now 5 and sleeps in his own bed and has no sleeping issues.
A.B. answers from Dallas on December 18, 2008
I say do whatever it takes to get some sleep until about 4 months. It may be easier now, but even though she probably won't have to sleep upright as an adult, it will be a problem you'll wished you'd taken care of sooner than later. Get the book Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. It was a lifesaver for me. I did let both my boys sleep on their stomachs. I tried for weeks w/my first and then just let him sleep how he was most comfortable. I don't know a lot about sids, but I just think you have to put it in God's hands. I have a hard time believing that much of what we as parents do could cause this horrible thing to happen (you know what I mean). Anyway, good luck to you and even though she may not need the seat at 10, can you really stand to be dealing with this at age 3, 4 or 5? Enjoy your sweet girl...it will get so much easier, well this part will at least :)!!