T.B. asks from Chicago, IL on March 23, 2006
Does anyone have any advice for how to get my 3 month old to sleep in his crib? Ever since our baby has been born, he's been sleeping on my chest for every nap and at night. When I put him in his crib, he startles himslef awake and can't get back to sleep. I've tried swaddling with a regular blanket and the SwaddleMe, nothing works. Any ideas?
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G. answers from Chicago on March 24, 2006
I went through the same thing. It took a long time to get my son to sleep in his crib and not on someone else. I just had to let him scream for awhile. Not for too long because it broke my heart. Then I would rock him to sleep. It took about a year for him to sleep through the night. He is now 3 1/2. I know that is not much advice but I wanted you to know that you are not alone.
A.M. answers from Chicago on March 23, 2006
Wow, that sounds really intense... You must be going insane! Do you use a pacifier? My daughter had some similair problems, and my doc said to just let her use it for a few months (I took it off her at 7 months when she started eating more). She told me that my daughter just couldn't learn to soothe herself and that the pacifier would help...and it did.
C.P. answers from Chicago on March 23, 2006
My advice is to read SOLVE YOUR CHILD'S SLEEP PROBLEMS by Richard Ferber. You are going to have to break the association. We had similar issues with our now 1 year old, and I spent way too many nights awake with him on top of me or rocking him to sleep in the rocking chair. Ferber's book really helped. BUT his solutions are really for babies that are 6 months old. According to my good friend, Dr. Catherine Pines, who is an expert in early child development, babies are not capable of falling asleep on their own until 6 months of age. I do know other mothers who used Ferber's methods around 4 months and had success. We didn't start until 6 months. It can't hurt to start trying now though. The Ferber method really works. It's like a miracle. Good luck!
M. answers from Chicago on March 23, 2006
As tough as this may sound, you just need to let him cry it out. I know its hard, but it will work, I PROMISE! My daughter is almost 7 months and she was a tummy sleeper from day one! Well, we she started to roll on her back, she would startle herself as well and would cry. For awhile, we kept going in and turning her over, but every time she would roll, this would happen again. Finally we said enough is enough. we let her cry, and she loves her crib now. Just an FYI... My sister-in-law had the same problem and now her son is 51/2 andhe still sleeps with mom and dad! No fun!!
Hope this helps!
S.R. answers from Chicago on March 24, 2006
My son did too. He slept on my chest until he was 6 months, then he went in the crib no problem. Sorry I can't be of help. It is nice to know our family is not the only family co-sleeping.
M.T. answers from Chicago on March 23, 2006
I hear you. I did some bad stuff like that too with my son. My son actually slept in a bassinet through 6 weeks and he had trouble transitioning to the crib too. Here are a couple of things that I did: I slept on his sheets, I put him on his side with a rolled up towel or receiving blanket behind him as well as sideways in the crib on one end (so the crib doesn't seem so big). If your baby falls asleep on your chest then I would try to put him/her in the crib. Keep trying and eventually he/she will figure it out.
I loved when my son would sleep on my chest too. But I knew I couldn't do it very often. Hope that helps.
N.O. answers from Chicago on March 23, 2006
Hi T.. Have you tried letting him sleep in the swaddle blanket in his crib IN HIS CAR SEAT? I know it sounds nuts but it worked for us. That's what I ended up doing until my daughter was about 6 months...I then weened her one by one...out of the car seat but in the swaddle then out of the swaddle. She slept like a rock instantly and I finally got some sleep too. She's now 15 months and has been a rock star sleeper all along..I was afraid she'd never sleep out of the blanket and car seat, but she's just fine...10-12 hours a night and one of two naps...good luck...
J. answers from Chicago on March 23, 2006
I found the book "The Baby Whisperer" very helpful. She stresses bedtime routine and has good strategies for helping your baby learn to fall asleep on his own. She does not talk about 'crying it out.' Which I just could not do. You can probably get it for a good price on half.com.
K.K. answers from Chicago on March 23, 2006
Put something you have worn in the crib next to him. He is used to your scent. My daughter was the same way when I finally kicked her out of my bed. She was a bit older, but the same rule applied. It's what my mom and grandma told me to do and it worked like a charm. Eventually she didn't need my pajama's anymore ;).
K. answers from Chicago on March 23, 2006
He might not be ready to sleep in a crib. For advice on co-sleeping and transitioning out of the family bed, Dr. Sears books are great. We coslept with our daughter for 18 months and she made the transition first to a mattress next to us and then to her own bed very easily. It was the only way I could get any sleep that first year.