Sleep Anxiety

Hi A., You are right to be concerned about the way you are feeling. It would be a good idea to talk to your doctor about this. Probably every new mom worries and checks on her newborn's breathing, but losing sleep and constant worry isn't good for you or your baby. It is important for you to take good care of yourself so that you can take good care of her too. Don't put it off any longer and think it will just get better one day, when a visit to your doctor can help you right away. By the way, stop watching t.v. and reading about scary things; this only makes things worse. Ask God to take away the fear and bring you His peace. Saying a prayer for you today. Ginnie

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I have had the same issues. I am a special education teacher and have seen many children with problems.
Now I have discovered a way to get a great night sleep without taking sleeping pills, I drink 1 ounce of Xango juice before bed and this lets me sleep soundly. It contains the fruit of the whole mangosteen and other natural friuts. I think it helps my body feel balanced. I also find that when I wake up during the night, I have a second shot and a graham cracker. I fall right back to sleep. It will help with depression and anxiety and any discomfort you might have.
I used a baby monitor right by my bed so that I could hear if there was a problem. This reduced my need to watch them sleep.
The one thing I regret is keeping night lights on all over. Research tells us that darkness is necessary. It is even being linked to some breast cancer research. Please, keep a small flashlight by your bedside to guide you when you must get up. Your eyes will adjust to the dark and you will sleep better.
Any questions on getting xango juice please email me ____@____.com. I will send you a free sample.
I also have used music relaxation program to help me get to sleep. This works on nights when my mind will not stop. I focus on the music and I sleep.
Sweet dreams!

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A. I know How you feel I am a new mom too my daughter is now 5 months old and she still sleeps in our room in her crib but in our room I was just like you checking her all the time to make sure she was breathing I even woke up my Fiance one night cause I had a nightmare that someone came and took her away so its really pretty normal I think for new moms and first time moms to feel this way if you really feel anxious about it talk to your pedi and have them reasure you that the baby is fine nothing is wrong with her and also you can check her breathing without disrupting her sleep just lightly place a finger under her nose and if you feel air you will Know she is breathing it will soon change and you just need to relax yourself before you go to bed take a bath read a book not about babies either if you want to talk further e-mail me at ____@____.com ok

That post pardum stuff is rubbish, I don't believe that for a sec.

It's ok for you to be that afraid, I was too, with my first son. All I can say is, try not to drive other people crazy with it, but don't ignore that mommy feeling. It's your job to worry and make sure that the baby's okay.

A.,
There are TONS of things that you can do to help these feelings. Increase your Omegas (omega 6 & 9) - these can be found in flax, various fishes, Borage and Primrose oils. These can help with the post partum and the anxiety. There is a wonderful oil that Young Living has called Peace and Calming. This helps to calm your anxiety. Educate yourself as to the cause of SIDS. I will not go into my belief of the cause as I do not want to cause a debate but feel free to contact me privately. I hope this helps.
-Dr. Heather

i got 4 kids myself & i still check on them a cpl times a nite.But its great to chat with other moms & get the support in time it will all get better (((hugs))))

Hi,
I have 4 weeks old son and even i get up in the night to check if he is breathing.So many times he will be sleeping but i will get up to check if everything is fine.I think as a mother we r overprotected.

The most important piece of advice I think I can give you is it will eventually go away. I think that it is natural part of being a mom you instinctively worry about every little thing. I slept with my hand in my daughters bassinet for about 3 months. Than when I put her in the crib I think I went in there about 6 times during the night (not including before I fell asleep) to make sure she was ok. This went on till she was about 10 months old. Now I still go in before I go to bed and if I happen to wake up at night to go to the bathroom or something I check in on her again. POstpardum is the hardest part b/c your emotions are on a massive overload. You are filled with so much feeling that you just don't know where to focus it. Just relax a little and except that it is perfectly normal to worry about all those things it may seem worse b/c TV doesn't help. It will eventually pass along with the postpardom emotions. And if it doesn't there are plenty of resources out there be it counseling or some kind of supplements. Good Luck and congratulations on your little girl.

Hi! I am a 29 year old mom of a 9.5 year old daughter, 16 month old son and we are pregnant with #3. I think many of the issues you have mentioned stem from your postpartum issues. I suffered from severe PPD after the birth of my last child, and was on medication and in a support group until he was 1 year old. I have done and still so much research on this,as until I was diagnosed, I never really knew much about it. I now speak very openly about it, as I believe more people need to be aware of it. We stopped meds when we decided to try for this last one,(with dr. support of course) but will start them back up again immediatly after delivery to help manage PPD this time also. Are you on any anxiety meds? It sounds like you really need soemthing just to calm yourself down. I would call or make an appointment with either your OB or the babys' Ped, for some support. They can help you deal with all of this. Your not crazy though, it is part of PP. Good luck.

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Go to that webiste and check out her products. There's one there called "Tranquility" that might help woth your sleeping..or lack thereof. But please talk to your physician before trying that product. I have not tried it so I can't tell you what it's like but I've heard great things about all of her products.

I too am a new mom and even though my daughter is 4 months old now, I still get up every so often throughout the night to check on her. I think it's very natural for you to want and need to check on your daughter every 10 minutes, especially as a first time mom. I even have a baby monitor on my night stand. It's a TV screen that shows me a very good picture of her, and the sound is awesome. I can hear her breathing as well as I have a great visual of her too. I'm at work right now but later if you want to know the name of the monitor I can let you know. Msg me back if you're intersted and I'll email you the info. I give it a million stars!

A., I have four children and I guess I had some of those kinds of feelings when they were born I think it is a normal but after my son was born he spent 5 weeks in the hospital because he would stop breathing and they could not find a reason for this. So when he finally stopped I had to bring him home. I was checking on him every second driving myself crazy. But I did start to feel better as the weeks went bye. You should speak to your doctor about your feelings because it has been 13 weeks. Also, I found taking a deep breath and telling myself that he is fine would help....

hi, I just read your old request and read throuh the responses. everyone seems to give great advice, but the one thing that i did not see and would suggest is that if you have the money to get a monitor called The angel care monitor. its a senor pad placed under the mattress and detects movment. when the baby is breathing you can hear a tick for each breath she takes. which may calm your nerves to actually hear her breathing but you can also turn off the ticking. when no movement is detected for 20 seconds an alarm goes off.(whether you keep the ticking on or off,but in your case as well as mine it might help you to sleep better knowing that she is constantly being monitored. my daughter was born 3 weeks early plus was 3 weeks behind gestationaly, so was born at only 4lbs. so you can imagine mine and my husbands fears of her being so tiny and premature. we are both emergency medical techs and know what to do but it lets us both sleep better. when she was only a couple weeks old she was put back in the hosp for an infection and the whole night my husband and i took shifts to stay awake and hold her so we knew that she was still breathing. this thing is the greatest thing, or so i think. its about $100 but worth every penny and it works well after they are out of the SIDS scare. A friend of mine uses it on her toddler when he gets out of bed the alarm goes off and wakes her so he is not roaming the house unattended and getting into trouble or hurt. if you have any questions feel free to write back. my daughter is around the same age as yours. she was born on 9/12. good luck hope this helps and i can almost garuntee you will get a better nights sleep.
T.