B.H. asks from Thompsonville, IL on March 10, 2008
P.G. answers from Dayton on March 16, 2008
Get the book, "Baby Wise" as soon s possible! It works but you will have to be consistent.
K.B. answers from Indianapolis on March 10, 2008
13 month olds are very ready to sleep through the night. Both of my children started around 5 months actually.
Sounds like he hasn't been put on a consistant routine, he's so young still though so better now than later when it is even harder.
Do you have a night time routine?
I have done the same with my kids and it works perfect.
Dinner 5:30, bath 6:30, bottle or glass of milk at 7:15, 7:30 reading downstairs.
Once I lay them down awake, they're done. I may go in to soothe if they fall asleep and wake up startled or can't find the paci. I do not stay up, I do not talk, I give the paci say ssshhhhhhh, cover them and walk back out.
You may have (or her) to do this for a few weeks since he's a bit older for him to get it.
How much is he napping during the day?
If he's awake at 3 am then he must be sleeping way too much during the day.
Hope this helps some, it is really simple if you follow the routine consistantly. Remember, schedules and routines aren't for you or her - even though you're sleep deprived - They are for the CHILD. It builds structure, disciopline and security.
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G.H. answers from Cincinnati on March 11, 2008
Sounds like your grandson is addicted to Mommy's hugs! The best way to teach some independence is to have some set times for Mommy to have downtime when she is not working. Play with her son when she first gets home from work, but also have "quiet time" when Mommy gets to retreat to another part of the home or even go out for a bit while baby plays, colors, reads, or maybe watches a DVD/video with grandma.
Not that Mom should ignore him, but she also needs to set limits as to when she holds baby. Snuggling is a great thing, but not constantly. It is very difficult to eat, for instance, with a toddler on your lap! Mommy needs to set limits with her son as far as when it's okay to sit on Mommy's lap and when it is not, and stick to them.
Does your grandson have a highchair or a playpen? These are great for times when baby can learn to be independent yet still close to Mommy while she is home. He can do his own thing (color, look at picture books, play with toys) and still spend time with Mommy nearby while she gets the freedom to do dishes, eat, read the paper, or watch TV. He may not like it at first, but your daughter will find he will get used to it and be okay. It is not mean to set limits. This is the perfect age to introduce rules and limits.
As far as 3 a.m. playtime, just keep in mind that diaper changes and sips of water can be given in the middle of the night without engaging play. Keep the lights low, keep talking to a hush, do what needs to be done, give a kiss and a hug and say night-night. Leave the room and don't look back, even if he cries a little. Wait about 10 to 15 minutes and see if he quiets down. She will soon find that he will figure it out--Mommy is not going to play with him--and he will go back to sleep. You all need your sleep so you can play during the waking hours. If she spends enough time with him and has a nice sleepytime routine before bed (hugs, cuddles and a short book), maybe then he will have enough Mommy time and not feel the need to keep you all awake. Still, it will take sticking to her guns to set any routine. Some rules are made to be broken, but getting enough sleep is important for everyone's health and sanity!
Enjoy your rambunctious grandchild, and make sure you give him plenty of opportunity to let out his extra energy. He will sleep better if you play a lot of hide-and-seek and other games to wear him out!
P.S. answers from Cincinnati on March 11, 2008
First what is his schedule? Who watches him while you at work? I was just talking with a mom of a 10 month old who says she gives her son power naps. She works at the office with me and her sitter makes sure he sleeps maybe one short nap during the morning hours if needed, then a nap in the afternoon for only an hour but no more than two. After 6:00 p.m. the 10 month old does not lay down until they are ready for bed. He is given a bath, they make some great Johnson products for soothing, and then put to bed shortly before the rest of the family.
T.B. answers from Muncie on March 11, 2008
Hi....oh my, sleeping through the night? What is that? I am a mom of 5, and 3 are under age 5....I haven't had a decent night's sleep in...well...that's another story...re: your 13 month old not wanting to sleep....some things that worked for me was: letting my daughter (who is 3 now and very rambuctious as well) go ahead and get up and play....I leave on a little night light that is a dim light and she plays quietly with dolls or books or stuffed animals til she gets sleepy again then goes back to bed herself. This may be harder of course with a 13 mo of course. The other course of action is to simply continue putting him back to bed (not talking or playing) each time he wakes up. We had to do this with our (now) 6 year old....and it took almost THREE agonizing weeks of CONSISTENT "back to bed" when she woke up...and let me tell ya....this was when she was almost 3 and I had an almost 2 year old and a 1 year old and I was a walking zombie.....but it was worth it as she now sleeps through the night. It's a habit as much as it is her expectation of what is the "right" thing to do and what will get attention. Make sure your daughter starts by saying, "tonight we are going to do something fun and different." Make sure she has a routine...dinner, play time (together), then mommy has her "quiet" time, bath, then mommy and jr. read a book together, then brush teeth and bed. Whatever the routine, just make it a routine. He'll fuss and cry and throw a fit....but stick to the routine, esp. in the middle of the night.
T.J. answers from Dayton on March 11, 2008
why not trying to wear him out and not allowing a nap and keep him up as longgg as possible even if he wants to go to sleep fight to keep him up,and do this for a week straight. you may not get much sleep for a week,but it sounds as if your nut anyway. he will soon fight you to let him get rest
C.B. answers from Columbus on March 11, 2008
I hear you with needing a good night's sleep. My youngest (he's now 15mo) took forever to sleep through the night. I turned to the one person I knew had good advice - my mom. I'm the oldest of 6 kids so I knew she'd had lots of experience. It really comes down to setting boundaries for the child. He needs to know and realize that when he gets put to bed it's time to sleep, not play. When he gets up in the middle of the night, you should put him back to bed and firmly, but kindly, remind him that it's sleep time not play time. He might cry and fuss but stick with it - it will work in the end! You may still be sleep deprived for a bit but he will eventually realize that you are serious and start sleeping through the night.
I also totally agree with giving him a bedtime routine. Kids LOVE routine! My husband and I do the same thing everynight with our kids before bed. My 3 year old no longer even needs to be told what to do - she's got it down pat! Make it fun and something special he can do with mom and maybe he'll look forward to bedtime.
R.L. answers from South Bend on March 14, 2008
My advice is to make a consistent routine and stick to it (dinner, play time, bath, story time, bed.) Also maybe find something that your grandson finds comfort in and have it around at bed time (a stuffed animal, music, blanket, cup...anything for comfort.) Stick to your routine.
L.W. answers from Indianapolis on March 11, 2008
Do not get him out of bed no matter what. Answer his cry by going in and letting him know you are there. You do it one night and daughter do it the next night. Lay him back down if he is standing. Tell him night night however you usually do, pat him on the back or bottom afew times and leave the room for five minutes. If he is still crying, go back in after the five minutes, let him know you are there, lay him down and pat him on the bottom use your soothing voice, tell him night night again and leave the room. Repeat until he finally goes to sleep. If he doesn't cry, but he is awake, let him be. Finally, he will go to sleep on his own.
Be perservering and consistant! I hope it works for you.