what's more important -- the safety and happiness of you and your children? If your family loves and supports you, why wouldn't they help you make a change now? Can the job you're doing now be done somewhere else? If you wait until your son finishes school, can't he be registered in another school? Are you afraid that you'll fail if you move somewhere else? If you think that, then what's to stop you from failing at other things if you stay in a relationship where you are unhappy? Also, by you staying, what messages are you teaching your 10 year old son -- that he doesn't have to love and respect women, that he can treat them any kind of way because they will take it? Do you want your son to grow up and be like the man who makes you unhappy now? Because trust me, your son is watching everything. Another question is why you think that you wont' find another man who will love you, care for you and make you feel safe? Better still, don't you know that you deserve to be happy? Most families help out alot, have you been honest with them about why you want to change and why do you think they would turn their back on you now? If you've burned bridges with them, then it's time to mend them. If there's work on yourself that needs to be done, then it's time to stop making excuses and do it. Life is too short to be miserable all the time. Ask your family to help you find a lawyer, or a social services counselor to help take you through what steps you need to move and make a safe break, a new change.