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Should I Be Concerned About Sharing Lip Balm and Spreading Cold Viruses?

I suppose this question stems from my own ignorance about what cold sores are and how they spread.

I recently saw my mother-in-law shared her lip balm with my daughter and am concerned because she gets cold sore outbreaks every few months. I haven't said anything to her about my discomfort with sharing lip balm 1) because I don't know if that is really how cold sores are spread and 2) wanted my husband to initiate the conversation.

My daughter who is 2 loves hand-cream, lip balm, body lotion and anything that smells good. She is cared for by her grandmother two days a week and they simply adore each other so I want to be careful about how I navigate this without exposing my daughter to a life-long health issue. Any advice on how to navigate this is welcomed.

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I will pick up some lip balm for my daughter to use exclusively. She is going to love the idea of having her own and you are all right. The same rules apply to everyone - no sharing lip stuff. The consistency will alleviate any gray areas.

Thank you for the feedback.

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My sister-in-law likes to kiss my kids on the mouth. I HATE that. I love to kiss my kids, but not on the mouth. I made up an excuse that if they do it once they they want to do it with other kids that they meet. (my child actualy did kiss a little girl on the lips). Could you lie and make up a story that she saw a kid with lip balm and was trying to use the kids lib balm???? Just a sugestion. Good luck!

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Buy what you want your daughter to use and give one to your MIL with your daughters name on it. Tell her you want her to use her own and this is one especially for her to keep for your daughter. Before you do this you may want to Call the nurse at the pediatricians office and ask her. She will tell you yes, you can spread cold sores. Then you can tell you MIL that the doctor told you your daughter should not share. Be sure to tell your MIL how much you appreciate her and you hope she understands. Most MIL's listen to doctors, and it will be off of you.

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Cold sores are the manifestation of HERPES, pure and simple. Herpes is contagious, and sharing lip balm, toothbrushes, etc...are a sure way to spread HERPES (among several others), in my opinion this should be addressed in an honest way. You may want to say to your MIL what HERPES actually is (a virus that once is transmitted stay in your organism lifetime and it causes very uncomfortable symptoms) , and I am sure that she won't her granddaughter having this problem, especially a little one. Just let her know in a nice way what it is and that you would greatly appreciate she does not share with your daughter anything that contributes to spread the virus (cold sores are very painful, and when they disappear, the virus is always there,dormant)
It is better for you to be more concerned with your little one health than your MIL's reaction. I am sure she will understand, just be nice when you talk to her.
Good luck

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Each family member should have their own lip balm. We write our names on them. Also, they should be replaced after being used during a cold or strep outbreak.

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yes, if your mil gets cold sores(herpes type 1), she could very well pass it to your daughter by doing that. i would say something or have your husband say something IMMEDIATELY. even beyond the cold sore issue, that's just nasty, but i'm one that doesn't even share drinks lol!

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YIKES!!!! Absolutely tell MIL not to share lip balm! Cold sores can be spread that way.
I would hope that your mother in law would be gracious about this. I am kind of shocked that she hasn't thought of it already.
No matter what, it has to be dealt with, your MIL sounds really sweet but her feelings don't matter as much as your daughter's health and well being.

I like the suggestion of buying them their own. You can buy each of them the same flavored kind. I would suggest to your MIL that your daughter might have a cold and for her not to share as she doesnt want to spread germs . I would also mention that the Dr. suggested that your daughter use her own. but make sure you say this nicely, Maybe even adding some lotion to the pack. Its so nice they adore each other.

I hate when things are shared that is gross(my opinion). I have taught my kids not to drink from others or use personal belongings such as lip balm drinks food etc.I would buy your daughter her own smell goods put them in a lil purse & send them with grandma when she goes over there you don't need to bring up the subject of her cold sores because this will get her attention.I have done this or I have also gave back the chapstick that was handed to my kids to use & simply say we don't share.My girls are 3 & almost 1 yr.& I already have a collection of purses for them to use with their own items it is fun for them as a girly girl.

The nurse in my pediatrician's office told the children very young what's ok to share and what's not. Regardless of the cold sore issue, no one should share 'lip stuff' (as my daughter, now 7 called it.) Explaining this made it simpler and alleviated the issue of hurting people's feelings. My daughter and her friends share body lotion & hand creams, which they all bring to school ... but know to not share 'lip stuff' because 'the nurse said we could get sick.' I've used this explanation to adults & teens saying that we don't want to confuse my daughter, or have her do something opposite what the nurse said. So far so good in our world, hope it works in yours.

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