Shhhh.... I'm Trying to Make Baby #2

Wow, you sound exactly like us! Only I work and my husband stays home. We want to try for another after our son turns 2 in December. My family doesn't want us to have another because of income too. We should meet up hehe.

I personally don't care what my family thinks. My husband and I want another baby and we are going to try. I don't think you should hide it. Are you able to confide in your mom or sister (if you have any) and get support from her/them?

If you ever want to talk... e-mail me!
~B.

I just wanted to wish you luck. Families mean well, but sometimes they have to stop talking and be supportive. Only you and your husband know what you can handle and support with your finances. Best of luck and continue to be patient and relax and you will find yourself pregnant soon. :)

So how's it going for you. I hope you were able to conceive. Maybe just the strees of wanting a baby so bad hs made it harder for you this time around.

Hi T.,

I don't think it matters what anyone else thinks. If you and your husband want another child then other opinions shouldn't way in. I think the price of a family is more important than things that can be bought. with hand me downs and second hand stores children don't have to cost a fortune. IF worse comes to worse you can take in a few children for daycare or get a job. I wouldnt hide the fact just don't broadcast it. Good luck!

R.

I just wanted to let you know that for my husband and i making baby #2 was way harder then making baby #1. Baby #1 was made on our first try. Baby # 2 was a lot harder. Now we are 5 months pregnant, so don't get discouraged it will happen when teh time is right. From what I understand that is very common. Yes we also kept it a secret from family, but for the opposite reason of you. Everyone was pressuring us to have another and we just felt it was our decision to make when the time was right. We just didn't want the whole family asking every month are you pregnant yet? It was stressful enough without adding that into the mix. So yes we kept our a secret too which was very hard fro me. I just shared the news with my 2 best friends and that was it because I had to tell someone. good luck sincerely, M. B.

My oldest is now 11, and my twins are just 2. When my (then fiance) husband and I talked about kids, I wanted one right away. We kept very quiet about it, because we knew our parents wouldn't approve. I got married when I was 6 months pregnant, again, a conscious decision. I think I was several months out before we told our folks, my oldest was actually the first person I told. Then at 19 weeks, we found out it was twins, so when spilled the beans with everyone one else.

Good luck with number 2!

As long as you have enough income to sustain the four of you, I don't think it matters what anyone else thinks. It would be another story if you are struggling to provide for yourselfs and your daughter.

Children need love not stuff.

My husband and I also had to keep making baby #2 a secret. Some family members have been wanting us to have another one for quite some time since #1 turns 4 next week, but others have been very vocal about wanting us to keep it at just one. Their reasoning is that my husband and I are both trying to finish college, he works full time, I don't work at all, and we just bought our first home last year (which has turned out to be more of a fixer upper than we originally thought!). Now that the baby is coming and they realize they have no choice in the matter, all family members are just excited and can't wait to meet the baby. Now they are trying to make sure we stop at 2 kids...I just tell them that I'm still young and we are going to go one child at a time. Bonus: now we have the added joy of driving them nuts by not telling them what it is!

Good luck! I agree that your family's opinion shouldn't matter. You are the one that is going to raise this child. Not them.

How is the clomid working?

Hi T.,
I kind of know the situation you are going through. We have a 2 yr old and we're trying for #2. We had to try for 11 months to convieve my son and for #2 we're now going on 8 months. I was told that after you had one baby it would be easier (thats not the case so far anyway!). One thing that people keep telling me so I'll reiterate to you as well... we need to just relax and have fun and try not to worry to much about if it happened or not. Keep trying and hang in there.

As far as keeping it a secret because your family doesn't approve... as long as they don't have to raise the kids it shouldn't matter to them. But thats my opinion. We don't make enough money either and I'm sure that my in-laws don't want us to have another baby. However, I'm not worried about spoiling my kids, I want to make sure that they are loved and have a good life with the best that I can give. You don't have to be rich to have a big family... you need to be smart with finances and good with coupons! Good luck!