Sharing the News

Hi L.~
There's no magic about being 3 months along. A m/c can happen at any time it just takes on a different name. Sure it's much more unlikely later on, but either way you'll need the support. I, too lost a baby early in a pregnancy, but I was very glad that we shared the news of the pregnancy so I had all those people to lean on. I felt like I would be disrespecting my frienships if I didn't share the great news and allow my friends to celebrate with me. A m/c is hard no matter what, not having to explain it to people doesn't make it easier. Of course, that is just my opinion but I say celebrate the ENTIRE 9 months...you deserve it. I would seriously re-evaluate the friendship of those who make unsupportive remarks...is there a touch of jealousy there? The people who matter to you will be happy for you, and the others shouldn't affect you. If you come across a comment you dont like, smile and say "well I knew my friends would want to share my excitement. If something does happen, I will need them." I think that will silence the hecklers!
Congrats!
~L.

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Congrats!! I can't believe you've gotten rude feedback!!! This is my third pregnancy, and with everyone, I'm so excited and share with EVERYONE immediately!!! What I would say to someone with a negative feedback - "I can't believe you'd say that to me. I'm only telling you b/c I'm so excited and you are an important person in my life, so I thought you'd share the same excitment with me!" Just ignore the negative comments and enjoy being pregnant!! Good luck with the next nine months : )
~L.

Hi L.,
I never could wait until 3 months. We told everyone right away. I always figured if I did ever miscarry I would want my family there for support so I would want them to know. Congrats. Good luck with everything.
Chris

Hi L., I can understand why you may want to wait, as well as wanting to tell the happy news. If it would feel better to you, and make your day why not share the news! I am happy for you. I have had 2 miscarriages one before I had any babies and the other after I had 2 of my four children. I can't say I wasn't upset b/c I was. I shared the news with my family and friends both times and they we very supportive, especially the second time. If you decide to tell everyone thats great I would just refrain from telling your daughter. Just incase, its hard to explain to children. Hope this helps you, and let me know if I can be of any further help to you. Take Care, and CONGRATULATIONS! J.

It's your choice. You've had to do it both ways, just be prepared that you may have to give bad news if you tell everyone. We only told immediate family about our pregnancy with Evan because the first time around we told everyone and then lost it at 10 weeks.
Your comfort level dictates your action on this one.
Good luck deciding-
C.

I guess I would ask you if you waited 3 months to tell anyone about your pregnancy, and you did (God forbid) have a miscarriage, would you tell anyone about it?
If you would keep the miscarriage a secret then I would wait the 3 months to tell anyone. If however, you would still tell your close family and friends about the miscarriage (which would be understandable for emotional support), then I would tell them now.
Just make the decision that you can live with.
Congrats on the new baby, and good luck!
And God bless!

Well imho I'd wait til you're about 3 months along. If you've already been through the loss of one baby and the situation of having everyone know about it. Good luck whatever you decide.

Congrats! I would tell your family that way if some thing bad does happen you will have the support you will need.
I'll keep you in my prays. keep us posted on how you are doing.

L. -

I think it is great that you shared the news. I completely agree with Christine...if you tell people and something does go wrong, they will be there for support. Whatever you decide is the right choice.

You are excited about your new baby, any new Mom would be! I don't even think you need to waste your energy defending your decision to share the news. It is your WONDERFUL news to do with whatever you want. I am sorry that you have to deal with such rude people during such an exciting time!

Congratulations and good luck. I am sure this pregnancy will ne wonderful!

Yahhhh...congrats on the + PG test!!!
As for telling people...it's up to you. When I found out...I just waited for the blood test to make sure the numbers were strong. But...if I were to get pregnant again...I don't think I could wait:)
Have fun telling the Family:)