Sex and Intimacy

I wish you were my wife. She only wants to have sex once a month, and I have to beg her for oral sex,usually to no avail. She likes to cuddle and kiss,etc., but only in non-intimate environments. She believes that is being romantic. However, I really do enjoy giving her oral sex.

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I don't think your weird at all and your situation sounds similar to me and my hubby. Sex is the ultimate form of intimacy. After so many years and a lot of growing up, the "romantic" type isn't always necessary. And, lets be honest, there is rarely time for all of the romance and foreplay!!! Men just want to get to the main event, too.

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If you're happy, and your husband is happy, that's all that matters! Most men hate feeling that they have to woo an unwilling partner, so most men would be delighted by a wife who doesn't want a song and dance routine before she's ready.

J.,
I read everyone responses and they are all correct.. If you are happy and so is he. Then that is all that matters...I have leard that if my husbands is missing something in our intimate times he will tell me and VS. I think that after so many years together we know what we want and what we like and we just go for it.

The one thing that I have learned about men is that they will say what they mean and mean what they say...therefore stop beating yourself up and go with what he says... but dang are we opposites! LOL

As long as both you and your hubby are satisfied, that's all that matters. My hubby thinks it's strange that I'm not all touchy-feely and am the first to admit I would rather just roll over and go to sleep. But after years of convincing him that I'm not like the stereotypical female, we're doing what works best for us. That's what you should do, what's best for you guys.

I know exactly what u mean. I enjoy sex with my husband as well but, I don't like to kiss him while having sex. I'll kiss him before and after but not during, I don't know why. I also enjoy snuggling and kissing separately but my husband interprets kissing as a signal that i want to be intimate which sometimes upsets me. so we don't kiss and flirt too much because of that reason.

You sound JUST like me!! Does your hubby complain about it? I mean if you're in love still having sex and still have the intimate parts outside of sex as ling as you're both happy than what's the problem? Some people would love to have the relationship you do!

OMG I could have written this post. I feel the exact same way and it does bother my husband (he has told me several times). I don't know what to do about it. But I think if really did bother your husband he would tell you.

honestly, you sound like every man's dream. really. no forplay, good sex, etc., no cuddling. really, he's not upset, its like a dream come true for him.