S.L. asks from Aptos, CA on July 10, 2010
I am a very pale, very freckly woman in my late 30s with strawberry blond hair. A few years ago, I stopped wearing shorts altogether. Too many people commented on my bright white legs, and I got tired of it. I still go to my community pool with my daughter, but mostly because I know everyone there so I am not as self-conscious. However, I have decided that enough is enough. I have very pretty, very shapely legs, and I want to start enjoying summer dresses again, even the short ones. Besides, I want to show my daughter how to be a confident woman who is comfortable with herself, and how can I do that when I am hiding my legs in jeans, no matter what the weather? I was wondering if anyone can recommend a good self-tanner. I have some spider veins, just small ones, here and there that I'd like to camouflage a little. And, I'd like to try to get my legs to at least match my arms, which have gotten slight darker over the years from sun exposure. I tried several tanners last summer, but always came off looking orange, even from the ones that say "for fair skin." Any recommendations out there from fellow pale girls who got results they like? I am not looking to get a deep tan look, just to take the glare off and match my arms and legs. Thanks, ladies!
So What Happened?™
When I said that people commented on my legs, I meant complete strangers would come up to me and act startled and amazed and ask a ton of questions. Yes, it was rude and I tried to have snappy comebacks or walk away, but some people would persist, my husband would get mad and it always ended up in a scene. Since years of a retail job in college gave me spider veins, I figured jeans or pants or maxi dresses were just easier when I was dressed casually. Maybe it's because I live in a California beach town when tan is the norm; maybe it's because people are jerks. lol! I have ventured to the beach in capris or shorts or even a bathing suit several times since my daughter was born, and the comments have started up again. She is old enough now to realize that people are being rude and it makes her uncomfortable, as well, so I am hoping that tinting my legs ever so slightly might at least decrease the attn I get.
That said, I think I tried the Jergens a few years ago and didn't like it. I'm going to give it another try since that is, by far, the one most recommended. If I end up with orange legs again, I'll just look into getting rid of the spider veins, bring out my stash of shorts and sundresses, and be done with it. It'll be a good chance to brush up on my classy comebacks and set a good example for my daughter. Any suggestions for comebacks? ; )
S.M. answers from Sacramento on July 11, 2010
I've been using a self tanner made by Jergens, just to even up my legs w/my arms/shoulders. I've had good results. It's subtle and doesn't look orange when the color develops, and it's cheap. Besides that, a friend/coworker of mine is very pale and has done the spray-on tan at the salon. It looked great and lasted for about a week.
R.W. answers from San Francisco on July 10, 2010
I use Jergens Natural Glow moisturizer, which is a gradual tanner. I use their face product (the same stuff but with sunscreen) every day and have not found it to be orange at all.
To be honest, I don't do my legs often and they are pretty pale, and I am okay with that. I have had people be rude. A coworker once said something to me, and I know she meant well, but it sounded offensive to me. This is my SKIN color. I think it is like racism---insulting someone's natural skin color as inferior to your own skin color, trying to make someone feel bad about the color of their skin---I just don't understand how people can think that those kinds of comments are acceptable much less funny.
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D.K. answers from San Francisco on July 11, 2010
I am also very fair. Forget the tanning lotions and be the color you were meant to be. I wear dresses, shorts, etc. I just use sunscreen to prevent burning. I also use a sun umbrella at my kids soccer games. It covers more of me. Other cultures find our pale skin desirable. My husband is from Japan. When I am in Japan I always get compliments on my skin. It's amazing to me that wherever we are people are uncomfortable with themselves. I hate to say it, but if you allow people's comments to change what you do, you are teaching your daughter to do what other people want. Not what she believes is right. Our actions as parents are very powerful. That power can be positive or negative. Good luck!
S.S. answers from Cincinnati on July 10, 2010
I am also real pale (irish heritage) and I found the best thing is jergins tinted lotion. it slowly builds a tan that looks natural and doesnt have the bad self tanning smell
H.P. answers from Sacramento on July 11, 2010
I've never used a self tanner, so I don't have any suggestions for products, but I have heard that you should exfoliate before you use any such products so you're tinting new skin instead of the old dead skin cells that are just waiting to slough off. So maybe trying a good scrub on your legs just before you self tan will help?
Good luck! I'm going to have to get me some of the Jergens and see how it works for me, since I'm in a similar boat to you!
V.B. answers from San Francisco on July 12, 2010
I have used several products out there and I like the Jergens and Mary Kay for the price. I found if I exfoliate before it seems to last longer and look more natural. (The product looks darker in dry skin areas if not exfoliated.) After I exfoliate, I went to a spray tan booth got a light tone and continued with the self tanners. This method works wonders for me.
J.M. answers from Fresno on July 12, 2010
If you are in shape and have pretty legs you are way ahead of most women, Whoever said something mean about the color of your legs is probably jellous. Show you daughter that you are proud of your natural beauty and put on sunscreen skip the fake tan.
E.M. answers from Bakersfield on July 12, 2010
L'Oreal makes a gel tanner. I used it for 3 days in a row on my shoulders (because I am ghost white). I waited until it started to fade to use it again. If I went more than 3 days, I started to look fake and baked. I have tried lotions, sprays, etc. This gel is the best. I put it on at night (because no self tanner smells that great) and watched some tv or did some housework. After a few hours, I went to bed, and showered in the morning. By day 2 I noticed the "tan look" and by day 3 I was happily summer-ified. It's also pretty inexpensive, so you haven't wasted much if you don't like it. It was my favorite out of what was available at the local markets.
Hope this helps
Y.G. answers from San Francisco on July 13, 2010
i recomend u 2 buy tanning locion and get a sun baht on ur back yard a cuple of times until u grt the color u want or in thw pool if u like.