Seeking Wedding Etiquette Question.....

I think if that is what she wants GO 4 IT! It is her wedding. I was in a wedding where there was 10 of us bridemaide at first did not know that the dresses we selected came with gloves along with scarf it was no the plan to where the gloves but once we all had it own it look very elegant and the bride loved it. She did say that she did not want to wear gloves. I will also share this the long gloves pass the elbow did look better than any other size. So if she wants the gloves tell her its her wedding get the gloves!

I think as the bride, she should do what makes happy as long as it isn't hurtful to others. Tell her to relax and have fun, the day goes by way to fast.

After all of the weddings I've gone to or been in in the last several years I've come to the conclusion that when it comes to bridesmaids and what they wear that it's entirely the bride's choice. I don't think it would be weird at all to have the bridesmaid's wear gloves and not the brides. My feeling personally is that there are no wrongs in your own wedding. Just a personal example, we had 7 ministers. Obviously not the norm but with growing up in the UMC, we had a lot of minister's we were close to and it was important to us that they all took part in our wedding.

If it's important to her to have her bridesmaids wear gloves than that's exactly what I think they should do.

I think that would be fine. I personally think other than the dress there should be other differences between the the bridesmaids and bride...for my wedding, I wore my hair down so I wanted all my girls to have their hair up...things like that. If she's worried about the bridesmaids looking more formal than her, she can increase her formality in her hairstyle and jewelry or decrease the formality in bridesmaids' hair and jewelry. No matter what she chooses, everyone will think that everyone looks perfect...especially her :)

Hi HC,
In my opinion, it's the bride's judgement call: not an issue of etiquette at all.

I wanted to wear gloves at my wedding, but didn't want my ring-finger covered (even with removable-finger gloves), so I decided against... it was also HOT summer, so no one wore gloves.

I say: her choice.
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I dont see why not.

And I just saw the comment on the groom not getting a vote - excuse me but disrespecting his feelings & opinions is a very good way to get to go through another wedding!

First of all, since when does the groom get a vote? If her experience is anything like mine was (and every other bride)then she's got enough people telling her what she should be doing w/out adding the male perspective to the mix. Here's the bottom line: it's HER day and she can do anything she wants. Etiquettte notwithstanding, the bride should have things exactly as she wants them. It may not seem like it when you're planning a wedding, but it's about the bride being happy and no one else.

best wedding advice ever is..... THE BRIDE IS ALWAYS RIGHT! good luck, and have fun!!

I've never seen a bride that did not look beautiful! She will be even more beautiful if she knows she is making her groom happy. It is usually best not to bother the groom with details of the wedding unless she plans on abiding by his decisions. Example: mistake to ask him about gloves because now you know his answer and it would be rude not to please him.

Hi HC, Since I'm getting married in October, I'll put in my 2 cents. I think it's nice that the bride is considering the grooms thoughts on what he wants her to look like on THEIR wedding day. It's NOT all up to the bride! And in the big scheme of things, I don't think anyone will notice (or really CARE) if the bridesmaids have gloves and the bride doesn't! The wedding is a celebration of their love and committment to each other, everything else is just a little factor in the big picture! Good luck and have FUN!!!!