J.C. asks from Overland Park, KS on April 07, 2008
Seeking Suggestions on a Stripper in the Crib Who Will Play with Her Poop
My request is going to gross many of you out. My 2 year old daughter is very good at removing all her clothes and diapers when she's alone in her crib for nap or overnight. Once she gets her clothes off, she often will poop and smear it EVERYWHERE and step in it and get it on her stuffed animals, lovey, blankets. Her clean diaper is flung from the crib. Onesies are not sufficient, she takes off her pants and then grabs the diaper and removes it from the side. I have a few jumpsuits and those she hadn't figured out a way to get out of them until today's nap. She first pulled it down over her shoulders. When I saw on the video monitor she was naked, I went in and re-dressed her, buttoning up all the buttons, and put her back down. Later I look up and can tell she's pooped and I go in and she's unsnapped her legs to get to the diaper, which is laying on the floor outside her crib, while her crib is a total mess. I tell her that playing with poop is gross, that we don't do that. She gets freaked out by dog poop in the backyard. She really wants it washed off as soon as I go in there.
So what's up? How do you get them to stop this? And what can I do to prevent it? If she's doing for attention, how do you NOT give her attention to this matter?
I've begun potty training with her. She pees on her potty while we run the bath at night and if she sits on the potty during the day, she can have one of her Easter eggs. But she only pees, never poops on the potty. Is this playing with her poop a sign that I need to potty train?
She frequently as bowel movements when she's almost asleep, relaxed, and then the poop wakes her wide awake. which is why we have so much trouble with poop during naptime. She had a poopy diaper this morning, but then still made another mess during nap this afternoon.
So What Happened?™
Thanks to all of you who shared your ideas and experience with this! Good to know this happens. I've started using duct tape over the tabs of her diaper, which keeps it on and also did the footless pjs with either fastening the zipper down or backwards. Works GREAT! Finally, she pooped on the potty today before her nap! Hooray! I'm going to start working with her on potty training more aggressively. And to the mom who suggested that I video tape this, so I'll laugh later, GREAT idea! I'll have to catch it on camera the mess and her explanation of it. Thanks to all you great moms!
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J.K. answers from Kansas City on April 08, 2008
I have a friend who has twins that used to do this. She would duck tape the diaper on. I don't know that I would have ever thought to do that, but it worked!! They stopped doing it all together after they realized they could no longer get their diaper off. Woth a try - good luck to you. Jennifer
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L.F. answers from Columbia on April 09, 2008
sorry if it's a repeat. but I have been through this. the worst was my now 3.5 yr. old. started at 10 months. Poo ALL over the entire crib hair and walls and the scrubbing of that carpet in her room was really getting old. I am so glad she grew out of it. It was stressful day after day. So, what worked was 1. duct tape 2. sleeper on backwards. (one without the feet.) . It's so hard and oh soooo gross! Good luck!
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R.V. answers from Kansas City on April 09, 2008
Ok, I had a 2 year old who did this same thing. We ended up Duct taping the diaper on her. It was the only thing that would keep her from taking it off. After awile she stopped. It was completely gross and this was the ONLY solutions we found. It was just around her diaper, NEVER touched her skin so it was completely harmless to her. It just kept her diaper on. Good Luck!
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J.K. answers from Kansas City on April 08, 2008
I have a friend who has twins that used to do this. She would duck tape the diaper on. I don't know that I would have ever thought to do that, but it worked!! They stopped doing it all together after they realized they could no longer get their diaper off. Woth a try - good luck to you. Jennifer
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S.P. answers from St. Louis on April 09, 2008
It is a phase that is normal is some kids ok a lot of kids. Mine has done it many times, my neices and nephews have done it. A friend of mine called me just the other day and said her 10 month old was playing in her diaper and ATE POOP. My son was the worst. He would smear it on everything. The walls, the carpet, the toybox...all within my 10 min shower. I actually bought a toothbrush just for these times. Don't panic, the toothbrush was to clean under his nail because a regular nail cleaning brush was to hard on his little fingers. That is when I started doing arts and crafts with him. I guess I figured he liked the texture of poop (i know that's gross) I let him start finger painting and playing with playdoh, with me around of course. He did in fact stop playing with poop, he would ask me if we could do art. It made for a much better painting. Good luck to you though.
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S.S. answers from St. Louis on April 09, 2008
Dear J.,
2 Years olds are not dumb--LOL. She is getting 'something' from this lovely little thing she does. It has been a long time since my kids were 2--but I did not have _M_U_C_H of a problem with either one in the poopy dept. I would sit down with her.. and talk to her.... not beg, not bribe, but TELL her... THIS is the way it is going to be! You WILL poop in the potty, and you will NOT take your pull-up off. That is it. When she has no other option, things will change. When she does things right.. praise--"I am very proud of you"--hug, kiss, very good! Until she does this...you may have to stay up later...maybe even all night once or twice. I assume you are a very good and loving mother. I cant figure out when we as a society started giving our toddlers so much power over us---not that you are doing this -I dont know. But I do know-- that if you are Firm but Fair, loving, yet consistant...and IF she cries....LET HER... If she protests , TELL HER---"you can cry all you want but this is how it is going to be"! You will NOT be being mean! She understands a lot more than you may think.. so tell her at breakfast,, "tonight--YOU WILL NOT take your diaper off". etc. I can almost guarentee that after a couple days and nights this will end....It may seem to be cruel to be kind--BUT it is gonna be better than cleaning SH__ up time after time. She will respect you so much more for being firm! It will be so worth a couple of sleepless nights-maybe try it on days you dont have to go anywhere the next day. GOOD LUCK!!!!
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Y.B. answers from Kansas City on April 09, 2008
Yes! She's ready to be potty trained...she's screaming for it actually. Your more than half way there. Try to use safety pins to make her clothes fit & more secure so she can't get out of them. You need to put her on the opt every hour & especially when you go. Make her area a fun spot like put her some books there, give her a bell or some sort (so she can let you know she's done). It might be a little difficult at first but don't get discouraged. Enjoy your time at home with her, it's most precious. If you ever want to do something else & still be a sahm look into Mary Kay, it's a wonderful opportunity & you can work around your daughter & "The Rock" of your life:-). You do it at your own pace. I wish the very best of luck & God Bless!
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E.D. answers from St. Louis on April 09, 2008
The only suggestion I have is to place her diaper on backwards at night. They seem to have a harder time getting it off. I used to also put one of the zip up pajamas on backwards.
Hope this helps! E.
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E.M. answers from Lawrence on April 09, 2008
If it were me, I'd push her nap until later...after she poops. Since she's on such a regular poop schedule, I'd try getting her to go on the potty before her nap. We did tic tacs, one for pee, two for poop. But we didn't have the stripping problem. That happened once, and thats it. Good luck!
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M.G. answers from Kansas City on April 09, 2008
J., we has similar problems with our #2 daughter (we have 4 girls). We tried the clothes, and that didn't work. We finally went to taping her diaper. We did masking tape, duct tape...whatever tape we had handy. We wrapped it around her to make sure the diaper was secure --- AND NOT TIGHT -- and that seemed to work. She couldn't get the diaper off, and after a couple weeks, she quit trying. It meant sissors had to be handy for most of the diaper changes (masking tape was easy to tear). This was the best solution we could come up with, as she was only about 12mo, and not ready to be potty trained.
I would also recommend trying her on the potty chair BEFORE naptime. Maybe even watch her get naked on the monitor, and snatch her away to the potty chair, since you know that is the immenant sign! Each of my girls had their "poop place": under the table, behind the rocking chair -- those were where a couple of the girls would go every time they needed to poop. That made recognizing the signs easy so that we could WAIT, and then snatch them off to the toilet.
I hope that helps!
M.
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J.J. answers from Kansas City on April 08, 2008
J.,J., J.
Oh my, your bringing back some not so fun memories, but laughter to my heart all the same!!!! Filming this is important for you, just so you can look back and realize what a great job you DID...and to show her later on how patient you really were... My oldest daughter now 20 years old, did this very same thing when she was about 14-15 months old. She had just started walking so I didn't think she was ready to be potty trained, so I spoke with my MOM about it. She suggested that I try and keep Gabrielle up after lunch as long as I possibly could and to put her on the potty before and after each meal for at least 5-10 minutes and then to reward her should she go potty in the toilet. I sat her in front of her favorite show on the potty and if she did anything I would reward her. I have to say, I don't remember her ever having a BM in front of her favorite show, but she was very private about going potty. She not only pooped in her bed and decorated the walls with it as well as everything else, but from a very young age she would poop in the bathtub almost immediately after hitting the warm bath.... Your little one may be trying to tell you she is ready to go potty. I used mm'ms for Gabrielle and she got 2 for number 2. As a nurse I would recommend a regime that you potty her before and after each meal, especially 30 minutes following the meal... I'm sorry that this is such an ordeal for you, but I can assure you that one day you will look back and smile..... You might try putting her in panties when she lys down or panties during the day and she may surprise you, by not wanting them to get dirty...She's pooping all over everything anyway....so what's the difference!!
Good Luck! It gets better...it just takes a while... J.
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