S.S. asks from Winnsboro, SC on February 13, 2008
Seeking Some Good Advice for Potty Training!!
My son will be 3 years old next month and we are having a hard time potty training him. He knows where the potty is and that mom and dad put their pee-pee and poop in the potty but he likes to put his pee-pee in the bathtub and he WILL NOT poop unless he has a diaper on. When he's finished he says "Boo Boo stinks mama" and I change him. I've put underwear on him and pees right in them, I put pull ups on him and he does the same thing. I even got a rubber duckie that squirts water out and I squirted the water out over the potty to show him where the pee-pee goes but he just laughs. I am at my wit's end and I don't know what to do. All suggestions, advice, etc. is appreciated.
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I just want to thank everyone so much for all the great advice. My mom and I are going to get together and try the different ideas. If one doesn't work then we'll move on to the next. Hopefully I'll be able to give you all an update soon, but I promise to be patient!! THanks again.
M.S. answers from Sumter on February 14, 2008
I actually had one I had to let run around without a diaper or pants. They were WAY less likely to poop or pee on the floor than in those protective panties!
D.C. answers from Augusta on February 14, 2008
S.W. answers from Atlanta on February 14, 2008
I have three boys 6, 5 and 2. They will do it when they are ready. I would put it off until he is 3. Some don't train until they are 3 1/2. This has been my experience.
He's just not ready. When they are ready they will do it in 2-3 days!
E.S. answers from Atlanta on February 18, 2008
I *just* finished potty training my 2.5 yr old girl. Pull-ups were no different than diapers for her. What worked for us was doing it the old fashioned way and letter her run around with nothing on her bottom. I had to just be on the ball and take her to the potty every couple of hours to "try" to pee pee. When she'd need to poo poo she'd say "Mommy I need my diaper on" - so that was my cue to put her on the potty with a book. After a few days we progressed to panties. There were a few accidents and I'd just be dramatic "Oh no! Princess Jasmine got all wet! She doesn't want to be wet! Make sure you tell mommy next time so Princess Jasmine doesn't get wet!" I'd say within a week she was fully potty trained.
Another trick I figured out for poopoo...when she was in diapers she'd always go hide in one room. I moved her potty chair in that room and that did the trick, she started pooping on the potty. Turned out she wanted the privacy. So I'd sit her down with a book and told her to call for me when she was done. Not long after, she wouldn't even get me to help her, she'd go in the room pull her pants down and poop and then call for me.
I wish you the best of luck, have patience and it'll happen! You just have to figure out what works for your child.
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B.F. answers from Atlanta on February 24, 2008
I didn't think I would ever get my son potty trained. We finally resorted to letting him go naked at hame. If he had on underwear or a pullup he peed in it. If he was naked he used the potty. Go figure! A friend also told me to put Froot Loops in the toilet to aim at. Good Luck! B.
A.B. answers from Atlanta on February 14, 2008
Hey S.! Don't get too discouraged. I have potty-trained two boys, now 4 and 5 years old. My oldest boy was a cinch to potty train. My sister also has two boys who are a few months older than my son and when he saw them pee-peeing in the potty something clicked in him that that was the way it was done. Then came my second son. We tried many times to potty train him, but he has a very strong personality to say the least. We tried everything from giving him money to giving him candy, but his personality is stubborn and he just does not respond well to incentives like shiny quarters or m&m's...go figure! The turning point for him was the week before he turned 3 years old and I would take him to the bathroom every 30 minutes, kicking and screaming all the way until he finally decided that he was not going to win and I was not going to let him pee in his underwear! (We also put a childs potty in the living room and made him sit on it every 30 minutes while he watched his favorite cartoons...we watched a lot of TV that week!). I believe this all was this combination that worked for him. Now onto the poo-poo. My son would wear his underwear around until his tummy began to hurt. When he thought he might have to poopy, he would run to his room and get a pull-up. Although I knew that HE KNEW what he was doing, I gave into him because I was exhausted from it all. Finally, after a week I said to him, "you need to poopy in the potty, because I am not going to put a pull-up on you again", and let him see me put his poopy from his pull-up in the potty "where it is supposed to go." I would then place him on the potty and he could not get up for 3 minutes. After a week or so, he got it and has wet the bed only one time since. Hope this helps, Good luck! -A.
J.S. answers from Atlanta on February 14, 2008
I had some similar issues with my daughter. She would pee pee in the potty, but insisted on a diaper to poop. We did what the doc recommended...always offer the potty, but if she requested a diaper, put one on her. We then explained that she must poop in the bathroom. We started with letting her stand, then she had to sit (where was her choice...she chose the bathroom scale most of the time). The next step was to sit on the potty with the diaper. She did this for weeks, but we couldn't get past it. We cut a hole in the diaper and she did that, but refused to try pooping on the potty without a diaper. She even announced one day, "I'm never pooping ever again!" Well, she did hold it for two days...she has amazing bowel control! She would even hold her pee for fear of pooping. We didn't want her to hurt herself so we tried giving her a diaper again, but she refused. Finally, one afternoon my husband took her to pee and the poop just came out. She's been out of diapers completely since then. Everyone kept telling me you have to just wait until they're ready. I know it's hard to hear (I heard this for 9 months), but they were right. You can't make them do it. Of course, you have to teach them where and how, but then you have to just offer the potty and wait for them to be ready. Good luck!
L.K. answers from Atlanta on February 13, 2008
As I mentioned before I edited this, I like to let children potty train at their own pace. However, since he has to be potty trained for the program you want to put him in,...I'll see if I can give you some useful advice. It sounds like you are doing all the right things. Don't give up. For my oldest son, I set a timer and took him to the bathroom to try (every time it beeped) even if he didn't think he needed to go. It was tedious to take him so many times, but it helped him stay aware of his potty training. If possible, have your mom let him go naked from the waist down during the day (and stay in rooms with easy to clean floors). He will become very aware very quickly of his potty needs. You could also try rewards like a trip to McDonalds or the Dollar Store or the park (etc) if he poops in the potty twice. You could give him stickers on a chart (or M&Ms) each time he attempts to use the bathroom, even if he is unsuccessful, and of course, make a big deal out of any successes. That's all I can think of right now. Good luck.
A.M. answers from Jacksonville on February 14, 2008
I am going through the same thing with my 3 year old. She does great when we aren't at home, but at home she pees in her pants. So yesterday I tried the M&M suggestion someone put on mamasource the other day and she stayed dry all day yesterday! I hope she will keep it up! Good luck! I know it is so frustrating!!!!!
S.S. answers from Atlanta on February 14, 2008
I would start by taking a break from any mention of potty training for about a month. Your son is getting a lot of attention from his misbehavior over all pottying issues and he could be continuing the behavior exactly for that reason. He should only be in diapers. No pants or pull-ups. Those are for big kids and he is not one yet.
Boys are typically slower at potty training than girls. However, boys want to go to the bathroom on their own at some point - don't forget this. Something is going to come along at some point that he will want to do. It will be something that you can tell him only big boys get to do. Like wearing pull-ups. Like wearing clothes without buttons in the crotch. Like many activities. When he wants to move forward in these other areas I think you and your dh should sit him down and tell him that only big kids can do this or have that. And that he has shown you he is not ready for this or that because he is not using the potty and that is what babies do. Tell him you know he will be ready for this or that when he starts to use the potty. And leave it at that.
Every time he comes up with another request that a big kid would get to do, sit him down again and tell him about the potty issue. Also tell him that as soon as he is ready to go to the potty he can. It is up to him.
Don't let this become an all-encompassing issue for your family. Kids, even little ones, tend to dig in when they feel they have no choices. Hope this helps, S.
L.L. answers from Atlanta on February 14, 2008
The book "Toilet Training in Less than A Day" (about $7 at Borders, etc)was recommended to me and I used it, and in one day....done! Every person I have recommended the book to has had success. It is a rough day, but worth it. The book was written in the 70's so it is a little funny to read in today's time, but do exactly what it recommends and you will have success. I know so many that have used the book and I know of no failures. You will need to buy a doll that will wet. And some techniques may seem a little rough, like making him practice pulling pants up and down that are wet, but THAT is what makes it work. Good luck!