L.G. asks from Madison Heights, MI on August 01, 2006
Seeking Moms Who Know About Asperger's Syndrome
Need someone to explain to me what this is in simple terms. I was just told that my son (8years old) most likely has this and I am having a real hard time figuring out exactly what it is. Need help on how to handle a son with this illness. What needs to be done at home? School? On top of it all he has a potential sleep problem not associated with this.
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K.A. answers from Detroit on August 03, 2006
My nephew has something like this right now. For overviews you can read all about it by going into WebMD.com I use it all the time. It's a very good reference for everyone.
J.E. answers from Toledo on August 02, 2006
L. answers from Detroit on August 02, 2006
I didn't know anything about Asperger's Syndrome, so I thought I would look it up too. I really like using webmd.com. I thought this was helpful, but it may be too basic for what you are looking for...
Within that site they reference OASIS (Online Asperger Syndrome Information and Support) at http://www.udel.edu/bkirby/asperger/
Good luck hope this helps....
A. answers from Detroit on August 02, 2006
Hi. I am a high-school special ed. teacher, with some experience teaching students with Asperger's Syndrome. First of all, it is not an illness. Your child is not sick. Secondly, early detection helps you and your child learn to live with the disorder. It is categorized as a pervasive developmental disorder, which sounds scarry, and it is actually a form of autism -- high-functioning autism. This means that your child will be able to get along in society. Usually, Asperger's presents with similar characteristics as Autism, like inability to feel compassion or to empathize with others. This trait is the most difficult to handle for those around your child. The best thing for you to do is recognize that it is nothing you have done as a parent. When he has tantrums, the best thing to do is back off or restrain him until it is over. Let him have his space. He really does need it. His senses may be hyper. He may get extremely irritated by certain sounds or textures. This is real for him.
Never directly address a problem behavior with him. Instead of saying, "You shouldn't play with matches," say "No one is allowed to play with matches." This semantic trick can help defuse potential tantrums. There are many books out there on the syndrome and books written by parents as well. Check out your local book store or Amazon.
I have a friend whose son has Asperger's and he is now a student at Univ. of Michigan. He will always be different but he is a productive citizen. I've always felt that kids with Asperger's and Autism are a step ahead of evolutionarily in some ways.
One of my students who has Asperger's graduated this past June. He did better in alternative schooling (late high school) and in emotionally impaired classrooms (early high school). But as a senior, he had grown and changed so much that you would never know that he was diagnosed with Asperger's at all. You would think he was a bit eccentric. Our school social worker has known him since 6th grade and worked with him through much of his social conflicts. He remarked at how changed he was. I say this to warn you that there will be many tough times, but in the end your diligence and consistency will pay off.
As for school, many students with Asperger's can stay in the regular classroom, with special education support and social work time. Your son should have an IEP (Individual Education Plan) done. This will ensure that he receives special services at a public school, and the team (of which you are member) will determine what those services should be. I'm not sure where you live, but there is a school in Ann Arbor, called Ann Arbor Academy. It has an amazing staff and several Asperger's students. It is geared toward students who learn differently. Your son would get what he needs there for sure. Their website is www.annarboracademy.org.
I hope this helps. Be patient and read up on the Individual with Disabilities Education Act and Asperger's Syndrome. Your other kids are bound to learn so much from him as well.
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N.W. answers from Detroit on August 01, 2006
I actually just read an article on this...I think it was in Cookie magazine I'll check tonight and will email it to you if I find it. From what I remember the illness is a derivative of autism-- but allows people to be much higher funcationing with some different or what we might consider odd personality traits. From the article I read-- it is often misdiagnosed in small children. I would recommend getting a second opinion.
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M. answers from Detroit on August 02, 2006
I work at an elementary school in Ypsilanti and we had two children (brothers) both with Aspergers Syndrome. This is a type of autism, and both children were very functional in school in a normal classroom setting. I would like to get some info from their mom, who took classes on Asp. Syn., so that I can share accurate info.with you. Please don't worry, these were bright children who just had a different way of learning. I will contact you as soon as I hear from her.
B.W. answers from Detroit on August 03, 2006
I have found that this type of treatment is very safe and comforting to the child involved.
At the very least this type of treatment would not hurt your son. I have seen it work wonders with many children. I use it on my own 3 children.
If you have any questions you may contact me.
M. answers from Saginaw on August 03, 2006
I have a daughter with aspbergers. Dont loose hope there is a lot you can do. My daughter is now 7 and is very functional among piers her own age. One thing you need to do is check with your school system it does not matter if they are as young as one you need to get an evaluation in Michigan they re called IEP's. That can tap into services such as speech therapy and other things. It does not matter what your income is. There are many other thearapys you can do at home that help (touch and play helped my daughter) Things like picture cues can help too. If you go on line and type in Aspergers there are many help ful things. I want to give you more info and you are welcome to email any time. ____@____.com. I have a new born baby on my lap so if this was a little mis typed thats why I will touch base and get you more info hang in there........ M.
K.R. answers from Detroit on August 01, 2006
Try this site. Copy and paste it into your URL address bar or browser. I glanced at it really quick and I thought it was rather informative in a lamen's-terms sort of way.
Good Luck and God bless,
C.P. answers from Cincinnati on August 01, 2006
HI, I don't know much about Asbergers, but my MIL does. She even wrote her thesis on the subject. She is very kind, and friendly and would be happy to help you. Let her know that C. gave you her email address if you do decide to email her.
Her email is ____@____.com
The best of luck to you and your family.
G.T. answers from Toledo on August 01, 2006
I think (not sure tho) some of the girls on my board have some experience with this..
You have to register then post an intro and then C&P the newbie questions into a new post in the newbie room.