Seeking Moms Who Have a Dificult Teenager in the Modesto Area

Hi C.,
Im a mother of five girls ages 19, 17, 14, 13 and 7. my 19 year old put a few grays in my hair. She's been to juvenile hall and to the CYA in Camarillo for three years. She just got out in late December and now she is backsliding. Yes, I have been through a lot but you just got to keep dusting urself off and keep walken forward. I'm feelen what ur going through believe me. She has ADHD and depression. Feel free to contact me.

Well my name is M. & I am a mother of three BEAUTIFUL girls & one BOY on the way :)none of my kids have it but I had it growing up I was diagnosed w/ bi-polar & ADHD they said it was from severe trama I had a very hard life growing up I was put in the system when I was about 11yrs old the only thing I can tell you is don't give up she will get better w/ time I did I live a nice life now but it took alot of talk & venting to strangers ( counslers )there is something that happend that shes not talking about & for me it was the same way I didn't get better untill I finely told my bad secrets to someone
but like I said she'll get better have faith & let her know every day just how much you love her & just how important she is to the family thats what my social worker tim did & we are still very close he is the only parent I have anyways I don't know if any of what I said helped well I hope you have a great day keep faith & I'll keep you in my Prayers :)

~~~ M.

we undestand your point our son is terrible when he is abset and he even have to go to see a doctor, they recomend us pills we are not good for have our children under the influence of medication the point be patiente, he is 14 and tall 6.1
Iam 5.1 and he yells me in my face and still a talk to him andask him his trouble, he is easy overreactive a bi-polar, he hits our doors and we content him, my point he is our son and not medication gonna help hiim and nobody other teen if he dont have someone to listen when we want to talk, he even call the police against me, and the police came and talk to him and me and he start to get the point am not his enemy, help her to be at sports or any other activity, our son is in drumline, marching band and plays futboll and also beisbol
but please is just my opinion
Mary

My ex-husband has bi-polar disorder. At times it got down right scary. I went to counceling and was told to read the book "The Bi-polar Child". I can't remember the author, but I am sure amazon.com has it. I haven't picked it up yet, but it is suppose to have warning signs and recommendations on how to handle it. Hope that helps.

I have no idea what its like to be the mother of a bi-polar child but I do know what its like to be a bi-polar teen. Watch her, not to the extent that youre hovering but she needs to be medicated and on the right meds and you may be able to help her determine if shes on the right one and believe her when she says they make her feel ill the right one wont. she may not know how to tell you what shes going through but listen and dont asume that because youve been sad that you know what shes going through Its a deep dark nothing hole and its painful. good luck and make special time for your other kids or they will hate her for taking all the attention(my sis still thinks I faked it for attention).

I do not have a child with bi-ploar but I worked at a group home for the mentally ill for years and I now work with developementally disabled adults where some consumers have bi polar. It is very unusual for a child to be diaginosed with bi polar, usually they go through puberty and then they are dignosed. read as much as you can on the matter because it is very serious and life long. there are many sites on the internet, there are a million books on bi-polar in the library and support groups in many areas. Be informed and be ready for whatever is going to come your way because it changes day to day. It is very hard on a person going through all the highs and lows, I would imagine it is even harder for a child that has no control over their life or the situation.
Good luck to you!