J.F. asks from Aurora, CO on February 06, 2008
Seeking Help with Weening
Please help!!! I am searching for good advice about weening my 13 month old from Breastfeeding. Every time I think I am making progress I go backwards. I had cut out all day time feedings. WHich is great when we are out and about. But recently she got a cold and wants to feed all of the time. The unfortunate part is that she won't take a bottle and will only drink water out of sippy cup. Any advice would be helpful.
C.E. answers from Phoenix on February 07, 2008
I have three kids soon to be 16,7 and 4 I breastfed all 3. My oldest was the hardest to ween. You have to say this is the day and just be strong and don't give in. With my oldest son I had to go as far as putting band aides over it and tell him mommy has an owie. It took a while for him to realize that he wasn't going to have it anymore but it worked. good luck.
S.B. answers from Phoenix on February 07, 2008
From everything I have read, if you can go from breastfeeding right to a sippy cup, you are doing great. If she doesn't want the bottle, don't give it to her. You'll just have something else to wean her from later on. Good luck.
A.H. answers from Phoenix on February 07, 2008
I am currently weaning my 14 month old son. It has been a tad tricky because loves to nurse. I am down to 2-3 times per day. A couple of weeks ago he had a cold and all he wanted to do was nurse. While it wasn't great for slowing the milk supply it wasn't that big of a deal when his cold was over. He was back to eating normal food and didn't seem to need to nurse as much. He doesn't take a bottle either and is very content drinking water out of his sippy. I am not a big fan of giving milk to my babies so in my opinion, water is just fine. Just take one day at a time and let her signal to you as she is ready to finish up. I am hoping to be done sometime this month!! :) Good luck to you.
D.J. answers from Phoenix on February 07, 2008
Why are you trying to wean? Long-term breastfeeding is great for kiddos and you alike. Our 20-month-old loves to nurse and I encourage it because I know it is healthy and illness-preventing and also comforting when he is upset or sick, and it's also convenient for travel. The World Health Organization recommends nursing for a MINIMUM of two years. Give it a try!
K.R. answers from Denver on February 07, 2008
Just to back up a bit, why are you weaning your daughter? If it's because she's a year and you SHOULD wean then, consider waiting a while. Your sweet baby will be weaned before she goes to college, I promise!
If not, weaning is a process, sometimes easy (you're busy), and sometimes hard (she's sick and wants to comfort). Forward and backward sounds like a typical weaning pattern to me, so don't beat yourself up. If she nurses while she's sick, no worries. When she's better, try again.
Be sure that you're giving her lots of emotional encouragement and cuddling--sometimes when our children are weaning we avoid a lot of contact so they don't get ideas, if you know what I mean. My children both love this mole I have on my arm, and during the weaning time I'd make time to snuggle them and they'd rub my mole. If you have some similar comforting aspect (they play with your hair, they rub your tummy, you hold their feet, etc), try to continue with that. It may help a lot.
As for the bottle/cup thing, I personally think it's great she won't take a bottle. You won't have to wean her from one. Encourage her! If you're worried that she's not getting enough to drink, offer her frozen juice bars, at least while she's sick. Give her soup, etc.
Meanwhile, take care of yourself. Weaning is an emotional time for you, too. Honor the process, and hang in there!
A.H. answers from Phoenix on February 06, 2008
Well I weaned my daughter late she was actually 20 mos when we were done but I did it slowly. I started with day time feedings. Then I worked on those harder night time feedings she was more attached to. Now it fine he doesn't take a bottle but will he take juice or milk out of a sippy cup?? I weaned my daughter from the bottle at 12mos but since she loved breast feeding she really did not like it. GOOD LUCK!!
L.H. answers from Phoenix on February 07, 2008
Once I weened my son I decided that milk or a bottle were not good for him, so I basically give him water. He gets all of his nutrition from food and he has never been sick besides a stuffy nose. (I weened him at a year as well). The best thing is to not let her see you unclothed and just distract her when she usually nurses. Just make sure she is full when she goes to bed. Good luck! Oh, and don't forget that you will get a little engorged when you finally stop. Cabbage works!
K.V. answers from Phoenix on February 08, 2008
I just weened my 13 mo old, and she as the same way, NEVER took a bottle. I just had to be persisitant and offer her a the sippy cup w/ milk. It took about 3 weeks, and some whinnig from her, and now we are all done with the boobie. I think the thing that helped me the most was making sure we still had plenty of cuddle time that way she still felt close. Good luck and hang in there, I promise it does get easier.
M.P. answers from Phoenix on February 07, 2008
Keep it up. Weaning is not an easy process! My little boy did the same thing. He wouldn't take any milk from a sippy until I had completely stopped breastfeeding. I would always double check with your doctor first, but I think your girl will be just fine without milk for a little while if she's getting other milk products--like cheese or yogurt.
Good luck! Just keep with it and it will happen!
J.B. answers from Reno on February 06, 2008
Go out of town without the wee little one for 3 or 4 days and let them dry out!!!There is no turning back if they dont work any more....