M.D. asks from Kingston, NY on February 19, 2007
J.H. answers from Binghamton on February 20, 2007
I M. I have 3 kids myself, I wouldn't know how to do it with 6 kids. I am forever cleaning my house. I always make my older kids kids clean there own rooms. They pick up there own stuff from the kitchen and the livingroom and put it in there rooms, and then they clean their rooms. That system works pretty good for me.
i hope i helped
good luck with the new baby
A.M. answers from New York on February 20, 2007
Wow! 5 kids. I have 2 little ones, and I still can't get organized. My suggestion to you is that if you have not asked your kids to help around the house, then start. My eldest is 2 1/2 and I have her trained already to put her clothes and her baby brother's clothes in the hamper. She knows to put her toys away too. Little kids, maybe not your 12 year old, usually like to help mommy around the house. It makes them feel good about themselves when they know they have helped mommy. My mother-in-law gets some of her grandkids to dust for her and gives them a dollar or 2. The eldest one is 7. You should not have to do this all by yourself, even if you are a stay at home mom. Also, cleanliness is not everything. I don't mean to leave your house a filthy mess, but you also need to take time for your kids and yourself. Maybe just limit the days you need to clean. Like laundry on Mondays and Fridays, and vacuuming and dusting on Tuesdays. The dishes get done maybe twice a day rather than breakfast, lunch and dinner.
Hope this helps.
A. from Yonkers. I am 35yrs old and work full time. I leave my house at 8am and don't get home until 7pm. So I know what it feels like not to have time for yourself except take care of the kids and do house chores.
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L.P. answers from Hartford on February 20, 2007
When I read this I get a strong feeling that you are expecting way too much from yourself. You really can't care for 6 children, work outside of the home and keep your house clean all at the same time. That is too much for one person. So, my advice is to enlist the other person in the house responsible for the making-of-the-children. If he can make them, he can supervise them, too. Then you can clean your house in zones...just keep the clan out of the zone you are cleaning. Also, you could enlist the children to help. Kids can "help" as soon as they can walk.
Or reverse it. You watch the kids while he cleans.
I've just learned to accept the fact that my house is "lived in". I have two children of my own with me full time, and I run a home daycare. So, I've got lots of kid with me all day...even though they are not all mine. With all those kids, I'm always cleaning something (or someone). Theres no way to avoid that I'm going to spend a majority of my time cleaning - and that my house is going to tend to be messy and disorganized. I don't always like it but that's the choice that I made when I decided to have all of these kids running around all day.
Just take is slow, enlist help, remember that having a clean house isn't the most important thing in the world and take time to enjoy your children. Good luck.
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D.K. answers from Burlington on February 20, 2007
I give you credit you have a lot to keep track off and a lot of responsiblity. One way I have been able to keep a clean and organized home is I have my son pick up after himself and that gives him experience on responsibility. And as far as keeping clean well I do the same I make it a habit of cleaning up right after I have finished something that way it's not staring me in the face till I get it done, so it's cleaned and picked up end of story. What a great feeling not having messes look at me in the face. And for cleaning the bathroom and cleaning the floors and the laundry, I take a weekend day and and for example while the laundry is going I am cleaning the bathroom and I do my floors at night, its faster and you don't have to worry about your floors getting dirty.
The trick of having the children clean up after themselves I learned from my mother and it works great. After all keeping a home clean and healthy is the responsibility of the whole family not just the MOM. Deligate it's all about team work.
I hope gives you some ideas. Good Luck
M.L. answers from New York on February 22, 2007
I agree with one of the other posts - we used to set the stove timer for 5 minutes (or 10 or 15 depending on how much time we had) and everyone had to clean until they heard it ding. The kids got competitive with each other after awhile - trying to clean more than their siblings. It makes cleaning fun (if that's even possible). Granted, it doesn't wash the kitchen floor, but it does help with clutter.
But I have to tell you...don't make a clean house your purpose in life. Seriously, it really doesn't make all that much difference. Play with the kids. Take walks with your husband. THEY are what is important, not the house. Trust me on this one...my screaming and yelling at every member of my family who didn't clean up - well, it almost broke up my marriage. So don't forget to take time away from cleaning to just enjoy your family.
C.D. answers from New York on February 20, 2007
Hi! No it never ends. I have four kids and I work from home. The only thing that works it to do small projects everyday. I clean one shelf a day in my fridge. So my fridge is always clean. I spend 15 min organizing one area of my house, and for laundry I just keep doing it that is thea worst thing. But I found that taking 15 - 20 min organizing areas that are bad really helps just make sure you do it everyday.
Mom to Danielle, Nicole, Amanda & Joe-Joe
V.S. answers from New York on February 20, 2007
Good Morning M.,
Its great that you have older children, they can help out a great deal!!! Try and make it a fun task, which includes having some responsibiltites., make it a paying job or simply a chore that needs to get done, expalin to the children that everyone needs to chip in as a family ans that ytou can use all the help you can get!!! doing little things urself a day can also take some of the load off ur back as well. Example if ur children go out on a play date with friends, or even ask dad to take them out on a stroll for a couple just to catch up on household, then u can do as much as you can. my suggestion is trying not to let thinngs pile ona daily basis that wld make anyone frustrated and exhausted. Let me know how it turns out. hope this helps!! Good luck!! V.
K.L. answers from New London on February 20, 2007
N.K. answers from New York on February 19, 2007
5 kids and 1 on deck? Wow, you've got your hands full. I have 2 girls (2 & 4 years), plus 1 husband (so that makes 3 kids all together) :). I work full time while my girls are in daycare. I also feel that all I do is clean, clean and then clean some more. I'm constantly responding to "mommy, come play with us" with "not now baby, mommy has to clean the _____ (insert room here). My husband says I clean too much but I don't want my family to live in dust. I don't have any advice, just sending a ((((you're not alone)))) hug. Looking forward to the responses other moms send in. Take care.