L.M. asks from Albany, MN on October 07, 2009
Seeking Advise - Foley,MN
I have a four year old daughter who is bothered by wearing her tennis shoes. She says they hurt. When I ask where she points to the back right above the heel. I thought that it would just take some time to get used to the pressure there as she has worn sandals all summer but we are going on a few weeks and she stills says it hurts. Does anyone have suggestions on what type of shoe I should look into to help with my situation. Also she says her socks bother her; they are to tight, there is something poky in them, and they hurt. They are just basic white socks and when I take them off they do not show any stretch marks on her ankle as if they were too tight. Any help would be great.
A.P. answers from Duluth on October 14, 2009
i have a hard time switching to shoes at the end of the summer, too.
the sock thing... i had a coworker who HAD to wear her socks inside-out because the seam just drove her nuts!!!!
T.W. answers from Minneapolis on October 08, 2009
I agree with what the other moms have said about quality of shoes, that makes a big difference but let me offer another perspective also.
It sounds to me that your daughter has some sensory texture sensitivities. Many kids have this with seams, fabrics etc... I know one mom who's daughter has to wear her socks inside out because the seam at the toe bothers her. I know another boy who will only wear elastic waistband athletic pants, no bluejeans because of how they feel. Sometimes this even carries over into light sensitivity and food texture sensitivities.
I would perhaps look at the root cause of the sensitivity. It could be a nutritional deficiency. I'm a nurse who practices nutrition and lifestyle medicine and when I see kids with sensitivities I usually put them on an Omega 3 fish oil, preferably a cod liver oil. I can recommend a kid friendly brand. I also put them on a 5 strain probiotic.
When kids are sensitive, one of the reasons could be that they are not getting enough essential fats to give that myalin sheeth in the brain enough to insulate the nerves. So to them, it sort of feels raw or like they are on their last nerve ya know? Think PMS just about texture all the time, that would be tough wouldn't it?
The probiotic strengthens their gut to aid their bodies in getting rid of toxins. Some kids are sensitive because they carry a significant toxic load. Some kids have a harder time detoxing on a daily basis and that sort of turns the volume up on everything too.
Another thing you might consider doing is reducing the sugar in her diet and reducing the amount of wheat she eats. Both of those things can really impact behaviors and feelings.
Hope that helps, let me know if I can help in any way.
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R.S. answers from Des Moines on October 08, 2009
I have been reading these mamasource posts long enough to tell you that the responses you have so far telling you that you are not alone are the tip of the iceberg. It seems that this is a fairly common problem--the sensitivity issue. I remember my aunt dealing with it with my cousin. I hope some of the suggestions here will help you deal with it. I just want to add something from my experience that may seem a bit far-out to you (it did to me), but I can absolutely attest that it works.
Cranial Sacral Therapy works with adjusting the structures of the cranium to allow the many, many nerve pathways involved there to be freed up to work correctly. At least I think it's something like that. All I truly know is that when the therapist had adjusted my 9-month-old baby she was able to sleep peacefully for the first time ever in her entire life. So I had her adjust my 2-yr-old. That little girl almost overnight exchanged her whiny, clingy, frequently screaming attitudes in for inquisitive, focused exploration and happy family interaction. I am inclined to believe that a lot of the time our children are oversensitive because they already have sensory overload from the discomfort that they constantly live in. If this interests you, you may want to look at this website www.cranialmethods.com
D.K. answers from Sioux City on October 08, 2009
She sounds like one of my kids. I buy their shoes a size to big and turn their socks wrong side out. Their little feet are used to being pretty free in the summer and they have a hard time adjusting back to tennis shoes. The seam along the toes on the socks makes them all crazy. I wish they made seamless socks!
C.S. answers from Minneapolis on October 08, 2009
I feel for you. My son has always had very sensitive feet so I've had to be careful on the shoes I've purchased for him. I have to admit that there is a difference between the higher priced shoes and the less expensive ones. Until this year, we have always had to purchase all leather shoes for him. Also, we had to be extra careful on how high the back of the shoe hit his achilles tendon or it would hurt. It will be hard in the beginning because you'll really need to experiment and try on lots of shoes. She may not even know which ones are best ones and you might have errors but the good thing is that once you find a brand (or brands) that work with her type of foot, then you can keep going back to that one each time you need new shoes. I would really recommend that you try a place that specializes in fitting children. Also try to find someone who is more experienced. Stride Rite is also a great place.
M.G. answers from La Crosse on October 08, 2009
Have you tried a podiatrist? It seems her feet hurt her. They might be super sensitive. Buy well cushioned shoes. My daughter broke her clavicle and I had no idea. I thought it was nothing. I found out years later, wish I had listened to her. From that time on, I vowed I would be at the doctor's office every time they complained of pain. That might have been extreme, but you never know.
D.K. answers from Omaha on October 09, 2009
They are a bit expensive but I buy all tennis shoes from Stride Rite. They measure the feet for the perfect fit. Of course both of my girls have wide feet so it is hard to find shoes anywhere but Stride Rite.
C.L. answers from Minneapolis on October 08, 2009
I agree with the others that it sounds like sensory issues. Is she this way with her clothing too? Does she have issues with food textures, etc.? You might want to consult an occupational therapist to have her evaluated. Another issue could be a medical condition with the heel itself. Does her heel ever hurt when she is barefoot or just with the shoes? There is a fairly common heel condition that kids develop while growing (it's called "Sever's Disease" although it's not a disease) and that might be another explanation if it's also happening while barefoot or if it's a new development. They grow out of it, but it can cause discomfort off and on over time. In the meantime, I have two boys with sensory issues, and I have issues with socks myself. It is really hard to find 100% cotton socks, but that is what I try to do. Both New Balance and Stride Rite make wide tennis shoes which might relieve some pressure on her heel. Stride Rite will size her feet for you too.
One more thing--be careful with the Crocs. My boys and I love them too, but there are a few things to watch out for. They are VERY slippery when wet. They become like ice skates. I have a pulled hamstring right now from slipping on wet Crocs. Also, there is possible litigation developing from kids wearing Crocs getting their feet caught in moving escalators. We use our Crocs as slippers or something quick to put on to get the mail, etc., but not as regular shoes.
A.L. answers from Minneapolis on October 08, 2009
Gap kids has nice thick girls socks that really cushion the feet. Nike Air shoes from kids foot locker have good arch support and a cusion at the back. Schuler shoes locations have foot doctors there once a week that could evaluate her feet and give you suggestions too. The service is free. Call your nearest locatin to find out when the docs are at that particular store. Stride rite has good shoes for kids too.