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Seeking Advice or "Proof" Why Toddlers Should Not Watch TV, Videos, Etc.

My gut tells me that it just isn't right or healthy for my 16 mo daughter to watch any TV, videos, or computer games at all. However, I'd really like to back up my gut instinct with some specific reasons and research results. All I can find on the Internet so far is how it is more beneficial for a child to learn from interaction with people versus electronics. But what if she gets plenty of interaction and learning with people and the TV/video time is simply for periodic enjoyment? Is it really just content that comes into play or is there really a specific "reason" why young children should not watch TV, videos, etc. I went to a Waldorf school as a child and TV viewing was very much discouraged, but it was never explained why. While I could just forbid the viewing, I'd rather have "proof" to bring to family and friends that might watch my daughter about why not to allow TV/video viewing. I welcome views and opinions from all you moms out there in Mampedialand as well as any research results you may have found. Thanks in advance!

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I don't get the TV/computer issues at all, as long as everything is in moderation - as long as that's not all they do, I see no problem. I also grew up in front of the TV, am social, always did exceptionally well at school... my daughter's (6 today) the same way ... and even though at her last appointment her new doctor said to limit TV and computer and no TV in her room (she has one), she said "just keep doing what you're doing!" She mentioned she had never met with a child my daughter's age with her vocabulary. Yup ... TV and computer will stay on in my house.

Again, as long as the TV/computer isn't the only thing they do all day, I see no problem with it.

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My kids watch TV. Not all the time, but it is allowed for entertainment time just as us adults use it, and they are fine, it has not "dumbed them down" as one mom put it. They are normal, healthy, active kids, with great imaginations, that just happen to enjoy watching Sponge bob from time to time. I think some moms just really need to relax a little.

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Jane Healy wrote a great book ENDANGERED MINDS
http://www.amazon.com/Endangered-Minds-Children-Think-Abo...

That book pretty much convinced me NOT to have any TV before the age of 2 (3 ideal - even later better).

The AAP based their recommendation on No TV under the Age of 2 on Healy's research and writings.
http://www.edtechnot.com/nothealy.html

She has a chapter on why Sesame Street is bad for the developing brain. No hard science, but she interviews a lot of brain researchers and what they say is good enough for me. She refuses to have an internet page (so frustrating) to help parents get more info, but oh well.

That would be a good start for you.

Alice March has also written about the cons of TV.
http://theattentionfactor.com/

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I honestly don't get all the 'hype' and BS out there about limited or no TV watching. We grew up watching TV all the time. I can't remember a time I didn't have a TV in my room. I can't remember a time we didn't have a TV on while we were growing up. One of my siblings is a surgeon, the other one has a PhD in Education. I am almost finished with my own PhD program. My son watches TV whenever he wants and always has made straight A's. We are all pretty darm smart. There is no proof that TV 'dumbed' any of us down in any way!!! Make education the number one, top priority in your family and it really won't matter how much TV they watch ???

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My husband and I grew up on TV.. We are total losers, we have no friends have never worked,we lie, we cheat.
No I am just kidding...

We did grow up watching a lot of junky TV and my husband worked in the industry for almost 20 years. Most people we know think we are ok. Our daughter has some doubts.. but I guess most kids do.. hee, hee.

I studied Early Childhood development and of course, children need human contact, physical activities, books, puzzles, but there are times, when the TV can be a parents little helper and the best part is that YOU control it. Especially now with remote controls.

Our daughter used to unwind from school with some TV so I could get dinner made when we arrived home. We have a 10x10 kitchen so I could not always have her in there "helping".

Our daughter is a National Merit Scholar. Has always had a passion for reading, but sometimes, she loves "flopping out" and watching a silly show. Moderation is the key.

The computer is now a fact of life. Since 5th grade she has had a computer because that is how her projects, reports and homework was mostly performed or used as a tool for lots of communications and research.. She has a laptop that is her" baby", she calls it "Albi". In College it goes everywhere with her, because they take notes on them.

So follow your mommy heart and brain. Know your child and do your best.
No regrets!

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There is nothing detrimental about a TV - it's a tool for learning.
Just like anything, you have to choose what you feed your brain, and what you feed the brains of your children. I prefer to choose carefully what I would like them to learn, and make it something they look forward to - not something they do all the time. There are some great educational programs for your daughter's age - she will learn and absorb - and it's good stuff. As she gets older, she will have a few favorites that can be used as rewards for other characteristics you'd like to instill in her, such as "after she picks up her toys". A few choice DVD's are perfect. As she gets older, a visit to the library to borrow a good DVD is a privilege. Use it for positive, and she can learn way more than you can w/o it!

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There is a relatively new book out called "Nuture Shock" that has a really nice chapter reviewing studies about the effects of TV watching. It just reinforced my decision to hold off on TV as long as possible.

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Dear K.,

I'm no expert, and I think a lot of studies are going on about this topic, so the "proof" you want might not be definitive as yet. But there are indications. I met a child psychologist at a party and we got to talking about the high incidence of ADD and ADHD. He believes that it is related to the high number of hours kids spend in front of "non-natural" input. His point is that the natural world operates at a very slow pace--outdoors there is scenery (mostly static), people (slow moving), and animals (also slow moving). The indoor world for the most part is also slow (think of how a classroom can be, or a bedroom), you can practically remember the entire space in detail just by closing your eyes. Now, compare that to the electronic world (TV, videos, computers). Everything moves at a very fast pace, screens are changing every few seconds or quicker. It isn't what our brains are naturally wired for and the input barrage is huge. He thinks that is what is leading to the disconnect in the brains of young children. I would tend to agree, although I'm just a mom who wants to practice common sense and "moderation". I hope that helps you to bring some balance into your children's world.

All the best,
L.

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Google "Campaign for a Commercial-Free Childhood" or TRUCE (Teachers Resisting Unhealthy Children's Entertainment); these are both valuable resources I have guided my preschool families to. (one more at end of this post.)

I can say, from years of experience as a preschool teacher and nanny, that media greatly influences children's play--and not for the better, in my opinion. I ask the parents to refrain from sending the children to school in 'character' clothing or bags, lunchboxes, toys etc. I have discovered that, when we even have a soundtrack playing, the lunchtime conversation goes from imaginative, interesting topics and recollections to a pretty dumbed-down recounting of the story of the movie. The kids at some preschools I worked at would wear their Ninja turtlesPower Rangers/Pokeman or Disney Princess apparel and then want to play out these extremely limited and prescripted roles. Much of this play is either violent or sexually coy, and brings out the worst in our children.

For me, the worst of it is that much of television is one-way and non-interactive. (Not computer interactive, but human-interactive). My only exception is Mr. Rogers, who addresses his viewers as "television neighbors" and asks open-ended questions about feelings, doing 'right' and discusses options for dealing with hard situations. (We do watch this with our son, side by side, and have a limited library of these dvds.)

Also concerning is that institutions like Sesame Street have commercialized their characters to become *marketing messengers*. I'm still furious with CTW (Children's Television Workshop) for allowing the mass licensing and merchandising of its characters. This actually CREATES a child consumer who wants items not for their worth or value, but because they experience an emotional connection to the Muppet or character shilling the product. I believe Jim Henson is spinning in his grave at the Disney-esque marketing mess CTW has become.

Children tend to have no lines when it comes to distinguishing fantasy from reality. They don't understand that those things they see on television may not be true. My husband was a kid when the George Reeves "Superman" television show aired--at four or five he *actually ran through a plate glass window*, thinking he's be like Superman. He still has the scars. We adults take for granted our ability to differentiate between fantasy and reality--children don't have this. They don't even understand sarcasm.

Topics are also out of the realm of what is relatable to a child. One example would be "Arthur". Many parents let their toddlers watch this show as it falls under the umbrella of "children's programming", but it models terrible situations: the children are mean to each other, girls are put down, boys are bullies or nerds--there's so much toxic stereotyping in this show. Yes, there's always a resolution, but our young children do not have the critical thinking skills to process this information/situations in ways that are remotely helpful. Instead, they learn how to be rude to each other. This would be suitable for much older children who might relate to this sort of dynamic, and side-by-side viewing would provide parents opportunities to combat negative role-models.

The last thing I'm going to say is this: I've found that children who spend more time with television seem less-cooperative and less able to play in a constructive/imaginative way than those who aren't entertained in this way as often. My son is included in this: even as careful as we are with media, I can tell when we've allowed "too much" television, because he's less cooperative. Perhaps it's because he 'connects' to tv for the entertainment and pseudo attention instead of us, his parents. He begins to get a bit whiny for it, less able to keep himself busy and happy.

And I have to go now, because he's asking for me. But overall, I'd say you are trusting some strong instincts in protecting your child. Also, check out the new movie Play, Again. (You can google Play Again Ground Productions). This is a well-done documentary of the effects of media and it's consequence: children growing up without a connection to nature. Recommended viewing for anyone who cares about raising brighter, more socially and emotionally intelligent citizens. Best wishes, brave woman!:)

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I see nothing wrong with a little tv or videos, actually they can learn some things from it!, as long as the time is limited and screened 1st. I think that alot of people feel that if their kids watch tv it is going to "lead to childhood obesity", well suppose it can, if that is all they do and have a bag of chips while doing so...that is what timers are for, let them have some entertainment besides color crayons and books...just sayin...

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I don't get the TV/computer issues at all, as long as everything is in moderation - as long as that's not all they do, I see no problem. I also grew up in front of the TV, am social, always did exceptionally well at school... my daughter's (6 today) the same way ... and even though at her last appointment her new doctor said to limit TV and computer and no TV in her room (she has one), she said "just keep doing what you're doing!" She mentioned she had never met with a child my daughter's age with her vocabulary. Yup ... TV and computer will stay on in my house.

Again, as long as the TV/computer isn't the only thing they do all day, I see no problem with it.

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