S.M. asks from McKinney, TX on October 14, 2009
Seeking Advice on Birthday Party Etiquette
My daughter is having her birthday party at a skating place. The parties last for 2 hours. I'd like the kids to have as much time as possible for skating and cake/pizza. Is it bad manners not to open the gifts at the party? Thanks.
I guess I should add that this is a small town skating rink. They are only open for 2 hour periods on Friday, Saturday and Sunday. So, the party will only be 2 hours because the place is only open for that amount of time. The kids will not be able to continue skating after the party is over. Thanks for all the responses so far. :)
A.M. answers from Dallas on October 15, 2009
I usually have birthday parties for my daughter @ the jumping places like "Let's Jump" or "Jump for Fun" and because they get limited jump time I request that they have less time in the "party" room so they can have more time in the jump area. Because of that there's usually no time left for opening the gifts so I just explain that to the parents @ the party and everyone seems very understanding. Plus, it makes it so much easier to get everything home that's still in bags and not all torn up and open.
M.C. answers from Dallas on October 15, 2009
I have been to parties at Skatetown where they open presents there and where they don't. IMO, the guests are a little disappointed when they don't get to see their friend open the special gift they picked out for them. They also like to see all the cool stuff the b-day person received. They're young, so they'll get over it if you decide to open at home but I think young kids enjoy that part of the party. Plus, it lets the b-day girl be the center of attention for a bit longer.
Have fun either way!
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K.D. answers from Dallas on October 15, 2009
I heard lots of parents complain about gifts not being open. I understand whay some dont and it makes sense but I just dont like it.
Just my opinion but I consider it rude if my gift isnt acknowledged.
G.W. answers from Dallas on October 14, 2009
This question has been asked on here many many times and always gets about half yes/half no. Me, personally, I think it is bad manners to not open the gifts. Just tell the kiddos when you start opening that if they prefer they can go back out on the floor but I bet most will stick around to see what your daughter got. Skating wears them out anyway so they may not be out there as long as you think plus they don't have to leave after the two hours is up, they can continue to skate as long as they want. I think it's better to play it on the safe side and open the gifts rather than leave someone feeling offended that they didn't get to see the gift they spent money and time on being opened by the birthday girl. Have a wonderful party...we were just at a skating party last weekend! (and the girl opened her gifts there!)
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J.C. answers from Amarillo on October 15, 2009
We didn't open gifts at my daughter's party this year. We just put a note in the invitation saying that the gifts would not be opened at the party due to time restraints, but please include a mailing address so we can send out Thank You notes. It was weird since this is the first time I've EVER done this, but it worked so much better. She was able to open gifts (for the next week) at her pace and enjoy every gift as she opened it. I made sure that Thank You notes did go out. I wrote thema and she signed her name.
I think the important part is doing was is best for you and your child. Someone will always disagree, but if it's in your child's best interest, that's what matters most.
D.M. answers from Dallas on October 15, 2009
Not sure how they do it now but when my daughter was young and had a skating party, it included the party room for 30 min plenty of time for cake punch & gifts
they usually open them so fast they don't use the whole 30 min so its gets them back on the floor in plenty of time to skate some more
R.K. answers from Dallas on October 14, 2009
No it isn't rude at all. In fact I think it is polite and better modern ettiquite to open later. It isn't really fun for the other kids, just the one receiving. It is pretty old school to open at the party. No one will think anything of it. Just me sure to send a thank you note so they will know your child is enjoying what they got her.
H.M. answers from Dallas on October 15, 2009
I know there are more and more that are starting to open their gifts later. But I know when my kids go to a party they want to see the person open it as they usually are the ones that have picked out the gift themselves for that child. I have had skating parties and two hours of skating for 5 year olds is way too long. They will want the break. Maybe if you are going to give your child gifts don't open those at the party. What ever you decide to do I am sure it will be fine! Good luck and God bless!
S.M. answers from Dallas on October 15, 2009
Of coures not! I would take a picture of your daughter opening each gift at home, or wearing the gift, or playing with the gift to include in the thank you note. If you just can't take pictures to include, then you just need to make sure you send a thank you note that mentions specifily what the child received. I will mention that when my son had his party at the rink, the "party table" was reserved for 1 hour for cake/ice cream & presents, but the kids could stay for as long as they wanted.
C.M. answers from Dallas on October 15, 2009
While it seems to be in vogue to leave the presents unopened, I find this very offensive and inconsiderate. If people can bother to go purchase a present and show up for the party, certainly the recipient can be gracious enough to acknowledge the gift by opening it. Maybe the gifts could be opened as each child arrives rather than taking time away later in the party.
E.C. answers from Dallas on October 14, 2009
I love parties where the gifts are not opened! You don't have anyone comparing who spent what, or kids screaming & not getting that it's not theirs, it's the birthday kids. Just my thought - my preschool age kids would much rather run & play than have to sit still & watch gifts opened. Hope you guys have a great party!