Seeking Advice for First Time Trying to Get Pregnant

I used the ovulation sticks. They are like pregnancy test but tell you when you are about to ovulate. They worked for me. I tried myself for one month, used the sticks the second and got pregnant that month. They are not very expensive or difficult to use. Good Luck :)

The one thing I will tell you that will probably be the hardest to achieve it not to worry about it too much. It can become an obsession and then I almost think the obsession with it holds people back.

Enjoy your new status as Mrs. Enjoy your step-son and see life through his eyes. It will bring you a joy that is refreshing.

As for nosy people asking WHEN, tell them you are to newly married to have extra people in the bedroom and they'll know when you start wearing a t-shirt that says "I'm knocked up"! Or if that's too blunt for you, turn it around on them and ask "why did you want to know" with a sweet smile. Just find some way to let them know they are being TOO nosy right now. Don't let outside influences put more stress on you.

Good luck. It will happen for you when it is meant to, that I truly believe.

CONGRATULATIONS by the way,
C. B

K.,

First I want to say good luck! Have you gone to a doctor and him check you out, just so you know that you everything is working ok? I have been trying to get pregnant for 3 years and finally a year ago, I went to the Fertility Center and found out that I wasn't ovulating on my own. Hopefully you don't have that problem, but I'd at least get checked out. Can't hurt.

Let me know what happens!

V.

My advice would be to R-E-L-A-X! I know how excited you are to have a little one but it will happen when it's time. I went gung ho right away when I first started trying, I mean ovulation sticks, basal body temp, and would get let down every single month! The moment my husband and I essentially "stopped trying" and just made love to one another for enjoyment not trying, I got pregnant! So relax, have fun, and when it is meant to be, it will be :)

Go to this website, it will give you helpful information on trying to get pregnant, such as sign that your body gives you when your ovulating, etc... it will even give you due dates if you conceive during a certain time, as well as tell you your most fertile days. I am trying to get pregnant as well and have found this information very helpful

http://www.babycenter.com

Girlfriend: First of all, stop putting so much pressure on yourself (and later on your husband) it could strain your new marriage and the pressure/stress could actually inhibit you from getting pregnant.

Secondly, go see a good OBGYN and rule out any physical hurdles you may have so later your are not beating your head against the wall wondering why you're not getting pregnant when you're doing everything that you're supposed to do. I am not a doctor but sometimes previous surguries could possibly create scar tissue that make it harder (not impossible) to get pregnant. Make sure that there is nothing physically wrong with you so you know all you need to do is practice practice practice! I'm sure your hubby will enjoy all the practice!

Best of luck!

K.,

I wanted to get pregnant when I was 37 years old and I was really scared that my time was running short. I used the method of charting my basal body temperature and we ended up pregnant within 3 months. I now have a happy, healthly 16wk old little girl. I agree with others that you can't let it stress you out...but, if you want to do the temperature thing, there are lots of good books and websites out there that instruct you on how to use this method.

Good luck!

Hi,
You could start charting your temps and checking cervical mucus. You can also use ovulation prediction kits to try and pin point when you ovulate. This website has a lot of helpful advice:
http://www.webwomb.com/

I know how frustrating it can be when you want to get pregnant. It seems to me like it's so easy for everyone else that isnt even trying. ;)

I worked for a huge Ins Co for 10 years and my advise to all of the infertility patients was to let the husband handle any and all insurance and money issues!!! The stress alone can be preventing you from getting pregnant. You are still very young and have plenty of time to get pregnant. You will only be newlyweds once. RELAX!!! I have personal friends who have went thru treatment unsucessfully. Then gave up and decided to enjoy life, then got pregnant. Others who have adopted after years of attempting and before they could sign the adoptions papers she was pregnant. Whatever you decide to do, try to relax and think of your blessings.

I think that stress has a really negative effect on being able to conceive. I know many people who spent so much time "trying" to get pregnant, and usually got pregnant when they weren't so focused on it. I would definitely recommend using all the great tools that have been offered to you by the other members, but also just relax and don't stress about it too much. Maybe take a vacation, etc. ... have a fun time with your hubby without this looming "goal" in mind, and you just might get the surprise you've been wanting! ;) Best wishes to you -- I hope you're pregnant in no time! ;)

I am going to be 31 on October 14th. We tried for a year before getting pregnant. While we were trying I went to the doctor and they said that they like people to wait a year before starting fertility treatments. We had our first appointment with the specialist and found out a week before the appointment. Hang in there, I know what it's like to watch everyone around you getting pregnant in the first month (or like several stories I got about it happening on the honeymoon!) People don't know how painful it can be when they keep asking about a baby and you are trying. Good luck and best wishes, you will be in my prayers.

Have you been tested for PolyCystic Ovarian Syndrome? It sounds like you may have some of the symtoms. I was diagnosed in 2002, but had had it longer than that. When I went on the treatment it took two years but I now have a beautiful daughter who is a true Gift from God! You will have to go to a fertility center to get diagnosed, you don't have to do the fertility treatments, I didn't. I just treated the PolyCystic and took Prometrium to start my cycle each month. The first time I had a natural cycle I got pregnant. It took time but it was worth it.
Also, ignore all the busy bodies that keep asking you when you are going to have one. I know it is tough, but it wasn't until I decided that I was OK with what ever happened that I got pregnant. Also, if it does turn you you have a condition that keeps you from getting pregnant, you can share this information with these people and ask them to keep you in their prayers.
Some of the symtoms of PolyCystic Ovarian Syndrome are: Ovarian Cysts, Dark facial hair, inability to ovulate, inability to loose weight, High Trigliceriedes, Hight Cholesterol, High Blood Pressure, amoung others. You can have some of the they symtoms or all.
Hope this helps, I know how hard it is, Faith in God helps a lot too.

I had trouble getting pregnant with my first son and had to take medication. I am now pregnant with my 2nd child and was worried that it would take a long time. I went to my webmd website and they have an ovulation calendar. I used it and tried for 2 weeks and got pregnant. It will also tell you what days to try for a certain gender. It was very helpful.

www.webmd.com