I'm a speech therapist and mother of a 19 month old boy. I work with kids with Autism in a middle school, and am a Early Intervention therapist. First and foremost - as a mother myself I know how hard it is with a typically developing child so Kudos to you and all your hard work! As a therapist I've seen how much more exhausting it can be with a child with special needs. For what it's worth - please believe me that there will be great strides in your children's lives. Although there are plateaus and times where you feel there are not any changes - know that there will be! Seeing kids as infants/toddlers and then in 6th-8th grade, I get the pleasure of seeing and experiencing moments with parents throughout the ages and saying, "I never thought we'd get this far" - or "You should have seen him when he was little - he's a totally different child!" It's hard to think that far ahead - but please keep the faith and know that it will happen! As for resources, here are some websites that you can check out and find a local group (I'm not sure where you live). I'm sure your situation, although unique and worth individual attention, is similar to other moms out there (re: spouse denial, working, dealing with therapists, wondering how to work with your daughter, and most importantly finding some time for yourself). You can also ask the therapists that do come to the home to incorporate you daughter in the last 10-15 min. of therapy. As a family focus therapist I feel that it's the family that makes the changes - we're just the facilitator and teachers on ways you can work with your son. Never forget that you are the expert of your children - we're the expert in the field but you know what fits your family the best. So, if it's 10-15 min. less for your son but your daughter is involved - she then becomes the therapist after they leave and everyone benefits! I hope this litte note helps in some small way. Keep the faith - change is inevitable (even if it's in baby steps). J.