Second Pregnancy - Rio Rancho,NM

No one can tell you what the outcome of this pregnancy will be, but I can say that I got pregnant shortly after a similar miscarriage and carried the baby successfully to term. I was like you are...a little bit of a kicked puppy about it, afraid of getting too excited. But looking back, I wish I would have had a little more faith and actually enjoyed those early weeks rather than waste them wallowing in fear. I know it feels like a risk to start thinking this pregnancy is going to be the real deal, but another miscarriage would be devastating either way, so what do you really have to lose by thinking positively?

Trust me, when you hold that baby in your arms, you'll kick yourself for ever doubting. :-)

Oh, and yes you're totally imagining the pooch. Or, if there is one, it's probably related to bloating more than anything else.

Go to your dr and have them do a blood test for the HCG levels and perhaps an ultra sound. That will determine if it is just a chemical pregnancy and whether or not the embryo is implanted well. If you are at risk for miscarriage there are some medications they can give you to reduce your risks and just take it easy and see what happens. It is ultimately in God's hands but I wish you the best, I dealt with the exact same thing my last go round and the 2nd one took just fine and my daughter will be 2 this September!

I can't answer your first question, but I hope this pregnancy goes well for you. With my second, I was very sick from the moment I got pg, and was wearing maternity clothes from about the 6th week because they didn't press on my stomach and make me feel worse. But I know they should have been a lot looser than they were that early! I felt like I was showing before the first month was over! The muscles there just aren't what they used to be so you show sooner. Good luck!

I have learned through my seven pregnancies - 3 of which produce beautiful babies.......

In 1992 I had found out I was pregnant. Told everyone and was ecstatic. I later miscarried and was at 10 weeks. Everyone including myself was devastated. I then swore if I got pregnant again I would not tell anyone until I knew it was going to stick.

I went through another miscarriage in 1993 (4 weeks) not too long after the first one occurred. I started training my brain that I would not worry about miscarriages anymore, as I (a prolife and very strong mommy instinct) needed to back off and have faith. (only God knew if each baby was to be born and I needed to trust him)

I then became pregnant soon after that one. Although, this time I started to notice signs that it may go long term. I noticed that if I take the test when I started getting nausea it was positive on the test... (this worked for me everytime) I told the dr about the previous pregnancies and was yelled at for not giving my body a break. I then said can we see if there is a heart beat. I know if I hear the heart beat than this baby would be ok. She was ok and was born healthy.(1993) I looked at the dr and said it looks like I have to get pregnant right after a miscarriage to go full term. He thought I was nuts.

I again got pregnant in 1995. Again before the 10 week I miscarried.

I then again got pregnant right after and went through getting yelled at by the dr's. I had asked again to hear the heart beat and sure enough that baby was born.(1996)

This time I got pregnant was much different although, the tests still were done after nausea started and it came out positive. This pregnancy continued until a baby was born(1999)

Then in 2000 I found out I was pregnant again. Although, this one would end in miscarriage.

I can totally understand your anxiety. I had 3 miscarriages last year. My first at around 12 weeks, my second at 8 and my third at 7 weeks. When I got pregnant this past April I was a ball of nerves which is totally a normal reaction when you've suffered a loss. In my case, after 3 miscarriages my doctor did several genetic and other tests and we found that I was severely deficient in folic acid so it's a miracle that I had my daughter in the first place (3 years ago). So at 6 weeks this time, my OB sent me to have an early viability ultrasound. Perhaps that's an option for you? It helped give me some peace of mind knowing that they baby (or peanut at that point) was there and that the heart rate was where it should be.

Unfortunately miscarriages are far more common than people think. If you've only had one, it doesn't mean you'll have another one. Of course it doesn't mean you won't. Just try and relax. If you get past the 6 weeks that's a very good sign. If you don't, that could be a sign of other issues. Generally when women suffer multiple miscarriages they carry each pregnancy a little longer each time. Since mine were shorter and shorter that was of great concern. I would recommend that if you're doctor will do it (and even if insurance won't pay for it) ask him/her to test your MTHFR gene. Mutations on this gene are a very common cause of miscarriage and the fixes are usually very each such as taking extra folic acid or taking baby aspirin when you're pregnant. Look at your family history as well (on mom’s, dad’s and your husband’s side as well). Did your mother, grandmother, sisters, aunts etc. suffer from miscarriages? I know that with the MTHFR mutations that they are inherited. And in my case the genetic counselor told me that since I have two mutations on that genet that I probably inherited one from each parent. I know it’s all a lot to think about and I’m not trying to scare or overwhelm you. However, knowing what’s wrong with me and that a simple blood test had the ability to prevent all of the loss I had last year, I like to try and inform more people about my problem because I’d never really heard or understood anything about it. Good luck!