Screaming One Year Old - Eatontown,NJ

Maybe she will grow up to be an opera singer.

One of my kids screamed like that. It was a noise that was so high and loud that the dogs next door would go absolutely nuts when she did it - howling, barking... ugh. My grandmother (who raised 7 children, most of them quite loud) said that I should just LEAVE whenever she started making that noise. So I did. Happy shrieking? I'd walk out of the room as quickly as possible. Tantrum? Put the kid in her room and close the door.

This did two things. One, it saved my hearing. Two, it deprived the little tyrant of her intended audience. Toddlers LOVE an audience. If you take the audience away, they tend to stop with the behavior. It may take a while. Shrieking is kind of something that goes with this age, unfortunately. :( Hang in there.

Well sure, check her ears with the Doc. Then you can rule that out.

Is she the only one that screams/talks that way in the house?
Is she copying anyone?

My kids are older, but when they are loud, I actually tell them "You are being too loud, that is enough, or Mommy will get very irritated."

Try practicing, different tones of voice WITH her.
Teach her how to whisper.
How to talk softer.
How to say things differently, instead of screaming it.
I'm sure you must have done that.

Is her screaming, perhaps just what she has learned will get her attention?

Or tell her, "when you lower your voice, Mommy can hear you better. Try your best...."

Does your Husband expect you to scold her each time she screams everything? That would mean constant scolding. Not practical....
What does your Husband, do about it? It is his "job" too... to handle this. Not only you.

Then again, my late Dad had a naturally loud voice. And I do too. I can't help it... in a sense, because my voice is just naturally this way.
But to my HUSBAND.... (who must've grown up in a library or museum)... he thinks I am always screaming. I am not. Even my kids will tell him "Mommy wasn't screaming..." It is ONLY my Husband who thinks so. So, he has a "problem" with it. But geez, I can't rationally censor every.single.thing.I.say.or.how.I.say.it every single second. Even when I am talking normally, he thinks I am screaming or yelling. Geez. So it is stressful... for me, too.

I really don't know if it's a hearing problem with your daughter , but my son would scream a lot too at that age. I didn't notice or mind it much when we were at home, but when we are outside I used to ask him to not scream because it disturbs people. And one time on our flight back from a vacation, I had a cold and a headache and wanted to sleep , and thats when I realized HOW MUCH he screams. He would scream if he was happy, if he was upset, angry , wanted to hold something, didn't want to eat something.. I am sure it bothered others as well. My mom had then told M. it will get better once he starts talking, he now talks quite a bit and doesn't scream anymore. He is only 2 yrs old and sometimes still talks loudly and scream occassionally, but it did get better once he started to talk. He doesn't have any problem with hearing, but he is just loud.

I think it's unlikely that she has a hearing problem. My son did this too and it drove me absolutely batty! There really isn't a way to stop it, as you've figured out. I did a lot of leaving of places too, or at least took walks on the sidewalk until our food was ready or whatever. In the grocery store was hard b/c well, ya know, I had to get groceries, so I pretty much let him do it but tried to go fast! ;)

Keep telling her that she should use a quieter voice, talk to her quietly, don't give her things she asks for if she's screaming, etc....but even that won't completely work on a 1 year old.

Good luck! It's a hard phase!

We had a little neighbor that used to scream with excitement and also when upset. I thought my ears would bleed.

We just told her, no screaming!

We also never gave into whatever she was screaming about.

We would whisper... And once they were about 2, we explained unless part of you body is falling off, No, screaming.

She would just get so excited.. Her mother had a bad habit of laughing about it, but it always was the beginning of some sort of melt down. Over excited, over tired or overwhelmed...

My 15mo old screams loudly too - like he's "growling" really loud! My 4yr old does it back to him (he also does the screeching back to him if the baby screeches), and we have to tell him to stop because otherwise his brother will just keep doing it. But honestly, I have no idea how to stop it. My youngest will do it while my oldest is in karate class (and there's no door or wall to separate so the whole class hears him). I think it's a phase that they will eventually get out of. But you are no alone!

Have you tried tapping her mouth with your finger and say NO very firmly? If she does it again put her in her room with a baby gate up -- door open. When she stops go and get her right away, smile and tell her what a good girl she is ect. If she screams tap her mouth and say NO and put her back in her room. It will only take a couple of days and she will stop.

Please understand I am not saying to HIT her but a firm tap and a firm no.

Just wanted to tell you that I am with you. My son does this. He is almost 20 months old and words are slowly creeping in so it is getting better. But OMG its though. At the supermarket people stare at me as if I am beating him. At home we have mostly hardwood floors and boy does it echo!!! I understand but don't have much advice for you except hang in there and you are not alone!!

You said "talking screaming." You mean talking painfully loud? If so, have her hearing tested. My nephew had trouble pronouncing certain words and we found out that he was born deaf in one ear. Some universities offer free speach and hearing tests, if you live near one.

Pick one solution and stick with it. :)

We read about this and the screaming is their discovery of "volume". They just haven't found the right setting yet and are experimenting.

You can:
A) let it ride - IGNORING the screaming. We did this and it took about 3 weeks. Actually, once I realized the key of IGNORING, it took about 3 days. That means NO reaction when she screams. Don't offer a distraction, don't pick her up, don't look at her.

B) punish. I've also read of parents giving a quick swat or using one of the other discipline methods.

However - I really feel like I was extending the screaming phase by REACTING. He'd scream, I'd sigh and remind myself it's a phase and then hand him milk or toy. I don't think he was screaming for something specific, but as long as I continued the lottery reward (scream = get something)....he kept screaming.

But at it's core, it's not a hearing thing. It's their discovery of "volume control".

I like Catherine C's ideas. I'd also try only whispering to her. Expose her to the opposite.