Rough Times

I totally understand you. When I was pregnant with my son my daughter was 1 year old. and she and I have alway had this clos bond. we are very affectionate in our family so she was always in my lap. well when I was pregnant I couldnt stand anyone touching me at all I had to move in with my mom becuase there dad was getting on my nerves(were not together anymore) well I just let my daughter sit on me and be close to me because I figured she's gonna rebel when the baby comes if I start pushing her away now and then baby will come and she'll take her anger out on the baby. they don't understand all they know is mommy loved them until baby got here. I say let him be with you. it might be annoying but it's only your hormones and he might take it out on the baby by hurting him/her when born.

As for your depression. I think your just not getting any grown up attention and your starting to feel isolated. get out and meet people. go to a mommy and me class or a free class at the hospital for pregnant mommies learing how to teach the toddler abouth the new baby. they have those and there are other mom's there and it's more of a social group that way you don't feel so alone. call "babies are beutiful". they can give you the listing of the classes.

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I hope this helped and I hope that either way your situation gets better...I'm sure it will. It's just a matter of time. Just remember, no matter how bad things stink, they won't stay like that forever...Situations like this, only make you stronger and wiser.

Take Care,

Any kind of move is hard especially when you are in the middle of a transition period with your family anyways. I think you would benefit from a MOPS group(mothers of preschoolers) they would be able to give you that adult interaction you desperately need (we all do regardless if we admit or not) great tips on parenting and help with meals and stuff once the baby comes. I would go to mops.com and look for a group in your area. Hope this helps and hang in there it will get better.

You know with my daughter I had to explain to her that she couldnt jump all over me because I had a baby in my tummy and if she did then she would hurt the baby. Have you tried doing stuff with him like coloring or taking him to OMSI or some place like that? Well I am not sure if I was much of help. Well good luck.

You need to reach out and interact with some peers....i'll be your friend. I went thru a tough ppd and reaching out helped me thru it. Sounds simple enough, but it really does help. The son climbing all over you part sucks, but I had a 1 yr old and a two year old climbing all over me when I was pregnant, and as much as it sux, they really don't know any better. My husband is a restraunt manager and works ling shifts too,,,be productive...be healthy and try to stay sane...

Getting involved in some mom's group would do you and your son wonders. Churches generally offer them. Also, your son probably needs lots of TLC b/c daddy is always away, and with the new baby coming, he is probably beginning to feel he is losing his place in the family. You must make him feel important and not left out, esp. when the baby comes. Try hugging and kissing him a lot in the morning when he first wakes up. Maybe if you give him physical attention first, he will back off a little. Have him help you get things ready for baby. Kids that age love to help.

Be careful, b/c you are at risk for postpartum depression. This is something you really should talk to your doctor about, for the sake of yourself and your family. Try to find friends, I know it's hard, but you have to get plugged in to community. Being alone is only going to make things worse. My prayers are with you. I hope things get better. Good for you for reaching out to other moms here on the net. Now find some that are able to give you a hug. Being a mom is definetly not easy, but probably the most important responsibility we have in life.

I know what u mean girl.. We just move out here to San Diego and I feel so lost and I get depressed all the time and it makes me and my husband fight.. Its hard but just gotta old together and try to find something to occupy ur time.. Im here if u ever need to talk.. just send me a message back and we can chat.. i wish u lucky girl take care..

The most important thing for you to get is interaction with someone/something. I know the towns in Wyoming are probably pretty small but there has to be some place in town or near you that has some type of club, a craft club or anything. Being alone in a house, pregnant with a small child for any length of time can cause some major depression problems, I went through it when my children were small, they are now 14 and 19. Even if you can find someone to chat with online, you need some emotional support. I am in Idaho, far but not across the country and if you need, you can always reach me by email, ____@____.com, I would be happy to chat and spend some time just listening. I am a 40 year young, widow and my husband of 20+ yrs passed away 5 years ago and I have kept busy with different groups. You might try it. Good luck!