A.L. asks from Palm Bay, FL on March 21, 2007
Rewarding Good Grades
My nine year son is currently in third grade. He had a rough start in his 'School Career', struggling through kindergarten, failing first grade, ect. Well, he is now an Honor roll student! All A's and B's and he has recieved several different teacher awards. We have always given the kids money for there grades, but I don't feel that shows how very proud of him we are. Does anyone have any other suggestions? I really want him to feel the same pride in his self that we feel for him.
So What Happened?™
We had a long talk with all three of the kids and decided to use the grades as a way to focus on some goals. We just bought a house and they all want bedrooms theme decorated to the tee. So we agreed to start the basics (sheets and comforters) and they have to earn the rest piece by piece. In addition, I will create special pages in their scrapbooks for those glowing report cards and frame all awards. I also liked the idea of individual lunches or dinners, but decided to leave that as a suprise. Thank you for all the ideas!
M.D. answers from Orlando on March 27, 2007
A.S. answers from Miami on May 09, 2007
My Son is six in kinder , He has come home with good grades a couple of times , I personally don't like to give them money , but that is my opinion . We surprise him taking him to his favorite place ( wannado city , dave & Busters , Children meuseum ,his all time favorite MONKEY JUNGLE )We try to choose activities that the whole family would enjoy !!!!!
E.P. answers from Melbourne on March 22, 2007
I have two boys, 12 and 9, who always do well in school. While a lot of their friend's parents give money for good grades, we choose to do something as a family to celebrate. Like go bowling, go out to dinner or the movies. It is their special day and we all spend time together celebrating their acheivements. They are so proud when we tell the waiter or waitress why we are all out together. We just believe that money is such an easy thing, where as putting in that time as a family really shows how proud you are of their hard work. By the way, how great for your son!! Have fun!
K.H. answers from Fort Myers on March 21, 2007
i see you have more children, so give them each your undivided attention with a lunch out, just the two(or three) of you!!!
My daughters LOVE IT! When they have a great report card, especially if the grades go UP, I will take them one at a time out for a lunch at a decent restaurant( applebees,perkins,etc) They are just kids they think its fancy and sooosooosoo special! Congrats to you and the kids!
T.T. answers from Miami on March 22, 2007
Rather than just giving him money ask him what he would like or if you know what he is really into, and that would make his day do that. My 7 year old son is also an honor roll student and has been since kindergarten, so trying to reward him every quarter become a challenge. so we paid attention to what he liked or seem to be into at the time and rewarded him with that. At this age their interest change so often it just became easier to reward because it seemed from year to year he was into something else. My absolute favorite is to take your child to lunch just you him and your husband and listen to him i have three children also and alot of times our oldest get saddled with helping with their siblings and we do not pay as much attention to them as we should so if you make a date with just him i think he would be over the moon and it will say to him daddy and i appreciate all your hard work that you do in school and at home with your brother and sister, remember we all just want to be validated even children. i hope this helps.
S.J. answers from Melbourne on March 24, 2007
You could throw him a surprise party with a "we are so proud of your accomplishments" cake. invite the whole family!!!!! Tell him that as long as he tries his best that is all that matters. Some kids are slower to get school, but once they get it they soar!! Money is a good reward but praise and encouragement should always be number one.
C.T. answers from Boca Raton on March 22, 2007
As i was reading the other responses all i read was money money money.... If it works for you then continue.. but have you ever done something special with the child's reward brought home from school.. Have them decorate a frame and hang it in a special place in the house.. in their room or hallways so whenever someone comes over its displayed. Have fun with it. That banana split sounded good too.. ;)
H.G. answers from Fort Myers on March 23, 2007
I would say ask him what he wants for doing so good in school!! and if he wants money give him money let him decide i think it will it will make him feel good about what a great job hes doing if he decides!! i'm so glad hes doing such a good job now!! H.
M.D. answers from Orlando on March 27, 2007
I always find that sking the child what they would like as reward helps with motivation(within in reason). I have a 15 year old and it seems to work. This year since he has worked very hard to keep his grades up we are giving him the birthday of his dreams....a paintball party.