Returning to Work Nerves!

Hi N., I was scared to returning to work. My nerves where shot. Then I said that I wasn't going to go back to work so I looked for something at home. so that my daughter wouldn't be away from both of her parents all day long that is a lot for 1 child to take in and with you husband being gone 50% of the time it is even harder for not only them but you too. So if you interested in staying home let me know.

Good Luck
A.
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I think any time you change something in your daily life you're going to get nervous.
I went back to work 6 weeks after my daughter was born with the expectations that I would be working from home 2 days a week right off the bat. Unfortunately it took 2 months to get everything set up for me to do that. It took me a couple of weeks to get adjusted to being back at work. It was hard, but with time, it got better.
Give yourself some time. Once you get back into the swing of things with working and getting adjusted to your new schedule, I think you'll be fine. If not, that's ok too. At least you're giving it a shot!
Good luck!

Mommy guilt. My mom worked a lot when I was a kid, and I asked her how she did it without feeling bad. She said "I reminded myself that dads are away from their kids all the time, that people expect that and think its normal, and kids still really love their dads." I found that helpful. Good luck with the adjustment! I'm sure everyone will do great!

I'm in total agreement with Sheree S.

Good luck!

I went back to work when my daughter was 3 months. I cried the first two nights as I drove into work. It was so hard for me. I was used to being there for her every move. She is 6 months now and aside from getting no sleep (I work at night) I have adjusted. I actually like my time at work to do other things other than changing poopy diapers. I can use a different part of my brain rather than my mom brain that I use during the day. Everyone will adjust. It may take some time. You will probably learn to appreciate the time you have with the girls more after not seeing them all the time. You are also lucky that one of your daughters is 7. If there is something she doesn't like about the nanny, she is old enough to tell you. Good luck...just breath!

Hi N.! I actually teach a course in Women's Psychology and most of the research suggests that the factors that matter most in children's adjustment to mom's working is the quality of childcare (which it sounds like you have arranged) and mom's own happiness and satisfaction (which it sounds like your job can bring). Chances are if you feel good and enjoy your work outside the home, your children will benefit...this is especially beneficial for young girls to have mom's as role models in the workplace.

I also have read and recommend a great book that addresses these issues called "The Birth of a Mother" by Daniel N. Stern & Nadia Bruschweiler-Stern