My husband and I originally didn't want children. We had so much fun together that we really didn't want our lives to change and be so limited by the responsibilies that came along with having a family. Well, that changed and I was the first to say outloud that I wanted to start a family. He was shocked and it took a little bit for him to come around. I gave him his space and didn't nag him or force him. We have two beautiful boys now (2.5 yrs and 6 months).
In our conversations prior to starting for a family, we both agreed that although we would become "Mom and Dad", we were "T. and Rich" first and we promised that we wouldn't lose sight of that. We didn't. We dedicate our lives to our boys, but at the end of the day we are still husband and wife. Some days, that means cuddling on the couch. Some days, that means I'm on the computer and he's watching sports. Some days, I'm out with the girls or he's out with the guys.
Sure, things change with a new baby in the house. You're too tired for sex as much as before. You're knee deep in bottles and diapers. You're reading stories, giving baths, playing Candyland or peek-a-boo. But, it's important to be able to get past those things and enjoy the things that brought you where you are today.
My husband and I are lucky to have my mom willing to babysit and I have a 16 year old sister available, too. I would suggest just surprising him with a date night (Valentines Day IS just around the corner). Pick a movie that HE'D like. Go to his favorite restaurant. Then, at the end of the night, tell him how much you enjoy spending time with him and that you need to do this more often.
At home, just do little things that show him you are still attracted to him as hubby, not just him as Daddy. What husband doesn't like being hit on by their wife? I always tease Rich when he's doing something basic and tell him how sexy he looks - changing a lightbulb or whatever. It always gets him to laugh. Or, I'll just come up to him and be like, "Hey, what's your name? Wanna come in the other room with me?" Just teasing, but it lets him know that even though Shrek is playing in the back ground...I'm still thinking about him. Lol.