Proper Etiquette for Second Baby?

I think a 2nd shower is tacky. With some exceptions like a huge gap in age difference, or going from a boy to a girl or twins etc.

Call it a "Sprinkle" to just add the few things you need.

I don't understand how some people buy brand new "everythings" for every baby that's really loading up our garbage dumps.

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Maybe you could just have a friends shower. My sister in law just had a brunch with her friends, my mother-in-law and our other sister in law for her second shower. And my sister ended up having a shower for each of her three kids, #1 b.c it was #1, two years later #2 b/c it was boy, #3 b/c it had been 5 years since #2, but once again except for the first one it was mostly just friends and my mom and I no extented family.

I am actually hosting a second shower for one of my good friends in January, it has been over 5 years since she had her first baby so we are inviting her extented family too.

If you don't think that your extented family would approve then do it with out them, just have a simple get together with your friends.

In mine and my friends' opinions, every baby should be celebrated. If you don't really need anything, you could have a diaper shower or something like that. I don't think it's inappropriate at all! One of my friends is expecting her 4th boy, and I plan on offering to throw her a shower, even if it ends up being more about having fun and celebrating than providing necessities.

I am due with my second baby and my SIL is throwing me a "baby lunch" but we aren't registering anywhere. I'm going to meet up with some girl friends and celebrate the baby. I am assuming if people want to buy us things for the baby they will do so at Christmas time, or even gift cards so we can get what we need.

Who cares what your in-laws think. We're having our second girl in January. Our other daughter is 3 1/2. My friend is throwing me a diaper shower. Cause heaven know's we'll need em. Inviting about 10-12 people. That's a lot of diapers and it would help a great deal. Find a theme that you need. If you are using formula, then have a formula shower. If you're nursing, then have a breast pad shower. LOL - My friend did that and used every last one of those breast pads. Celebrate this baby like your other baby. These little beings are miracles. Mine tried to come at 21 weeks. I'm 35 weeks now and would love to have my girfriends celebrate that with me.

Also, maybe they can write notes to you saying how they can help you out. For example, "My gift to you will be to stop by and let you get 2 hours of sleep".

Trust me -second showers are not a waste. Every new baby needs SOMETHING.

Let us know how it goes!

A.,

Throw etiquette out the window for baby showers! If someone is willing to throw one for you than go ahead and enjoy!!! My friends and I threw a baby shower for a 5th baby and more than 30 people came who were willing to show baby and mom that they were loved.
If people are stingy enough to not want to shower a new life with gifts then they can stay home. Congrats on your new baby!

Dont call it a shower, call it a celebration for the new baby's birth. Perhaps have it after the baby is born and make it more of a reason to come see the baby and visit with everyone. Yes, you dont need a full on shower, but every baby deserves a celebration.

I'm due with #2 in March too! Congrats!

I'm having a Mother Blessing instead (these are also erroneously called Blessingway ceremonies, which are like calling any time you eat bread with wine "communion" - I'm just telling you this so you know what to google). I have a registry if people ask, but the party is about supporting me - eating good food, doing henna on my belly, making a labor/nursing necklace, coming up with birth affirmations and sharing stories of birth and mothering with friends. There won't be gifts at the party. I just looked through some other threads here asking this question and it seems no one's brought this up as an alternative. so.

I threw one for a friend a few years ago and it was really meaningful.