Problemed Behavior

You haven't said what the "adult behaviour" is so I'm guessing. How old is your daughter?

Girls tend to be more sexually aware than boys even at a young age. However, they usually don't engage in adult behaviour unless they have experienced it or seen it on TV or somewhere else. Has she been exposed to inappropriate things on TV or the computer?

Maybe she is being sexually abused or approached by someone. I would talk to the teachers about it immediately and change her circumstances. Maybe another child is causing this? Maybe someone in your circle of friends/family? Is your daughter trying to tell you something you missed? It happened to me.

My daughters sometimes engage in inappropriate behaviour - but it's definitely child not adult-like. I tell them it's inappropriate, and also, in the very young you want to "extinguish" the behaviour by not talking about it and not reacting to it, at least until you have had some time to think it over.

I wouldn't punish her, but I would be the detective to find out what happened, then teach her appropriate behaviour to replace the inappropriate behaviour.

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try volunteering in her classroom you will see shat is actually happening and then maybe need to try counseling. she just might be trying to become a little more independent. sometimes with children the world is their stage and she wants to see how you respond

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You don't say what the behavior is... not knowing this makes it difficult to offer any advice. Some things she may get off of tv, she may witness you doing, who knows. There is nothing wrong with having a conversation about what she's doing and who did she see do something like this. It's not inappropriate if no one has told her so and why. And if it's inappropriate for her, then it's really inappropriate for anyone to do in her presence. Kids at this age are trying out all sorts of things, and they need to be questioned about the who, what, where, when, why..... Not an inquisition, but a conversation, not one tinged with anger, but curiosity and concern. Sending her to her room as a punishment maynot be the right thing to do because there is anger not concern and you won't get many answers or establish an ongoing communication. Again, I don't know what the behavior was, so it makes the advice harder. If this is indicative of your conversation with your daughter, she's probably just as confused and doesn't know what to say to you either.

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I was a headstart teacher for 12 years, I would talk to the teacher either at a Home Visit or tell them you have concerns and would like to talk to them ASAP. Pulling your child out of class is a short term fix,you need to explain to her that this behavior is not something she should be doing and why it is not okay. Knowledge is the key, also make sure the teachers and staff are on the same page and watching what is going on in the classroom. I would also ask the teacher's supervisor to be in on the meeting, so that everyone is understanding what is happening.

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If she says it's at school, get down there and talk to her teachers, principal, counselor!!! Is she in day care or after school programs???

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what is the behavior??