Preschool/playschool Should I Take Dd Out?

Pull her out. Isn't "play"school supposed to be fun for her? What's fun at that age is being with mom.

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If it were me I would pull her . . . your instincts are correct imho.

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I wouldn't make her go. I would give her the control to go and play with her friends, if she doesn't want to just stay home that day. then the next time give her the option again, if she still doesn't want to go dont' push it just say okay. If she fine with not going for a few times, then I would figure she isn't getting anything out of it and you might as well stop until next year. Also the days she is typically"suppose" to go, don't do anything extremely fun, of course don't ignore her and still play but nothing so great that being with mom is so much more fun then socializing with her friends etc. that is my 2 cents. Hope whatever you decide works out for both of you.

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If she was just clingy when you try to leave her there and then was fine --I'd say it is just normal kid behavior. The whole crying as you get dressed and fussing the whole way there is different IMO. Try to observe her without her knowing you are there. That will be your best indication of what is really going on.

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I would try to secretly observe her. If she is truly having fun, leave her in.
If she is looking sad and not really interacting, I would pull her out. So not
worth it. There is always next year when she is older and a bit more
mature. Good luck.

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I would try to secretly observe her. If she is truly having fun, leave her in.
If she is looking sad and not really interacting, I would pull her out. So not
worth it. There is always next year when she is older and a bit more
mature. Good luck.

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I taught a 2 year old class for many years, and honestly, the kids on the 2 day/week schedule always had problems adjusting. The everyday, all day kids did the best in the long run. I think it's the lack of a predictable routine - think how hard it would be for you to go to work for only 2 days a week, 2 hours a day. Now, if you went to work every other day, or everyday, it is easier to adjust your schedule and mindset, plus it's easier to make friends.

First of all, I would spy on her to make sure she is having fun. If so, add a day so that she goes every other day. There are usually several other kids on this schedule, so she will be able to make friends and bond with the teachers, plus the routine is more predictable for her.

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She is pulling the typical "mommy dont leave me" show for you. Every kid has their set backs but if she gets out of control while at Preschool then its time to take her out. Is she happy when you pick her up? There is a difference between being tired and cranky to go and hating her preschool.
My friends 4 year old does the same thing it's just a show. My 2 daughters do it on occasion simply because its been a rough week.

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My daughter started preschool at 2 1/2. She liked it at first, but by Christmas was refusing to go and crying when we were getting ready. I decided to hang out and volunteer at her preschool to see what she does during that time. I also spoke to some of the other moms, and they were having the same problem with their kids. Long story short, it only took a few days of hanging out there to realize what the problem was. There was one little girl (who was going through a lot at home) who wasn't playing nicely. The teachers weren't seeing it, but this girl kept taking toys away from the other kids and pushing them around. None of the kids were crying or telling on her, but they were clearly intimidated. I had a meeting with the teachers to discuss our problem, and they made the little girl a teacher's buddy. From then on, my daughter loved school again.

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I have twin boys, they are 4 1/2 now but I started them at daycare 3 yrs ago and one of them still "plays me". I too, have thought about pulling them, but I know they are fine "happy" once I leave them. Their teachers say they are well behaved boys. I talk with the teacher all the time about things that they say and do at home but not at school. One of my boys always says "I quit", "I'm tired". But their teacher says he never says that at school. I know they are playing me when it comes to the tears. I actually started a "No Crying Chart" at home. Each day they go to school/daycare and they don't cry when I drop them off then they get a sticker. After their chart is filled. (12 stickers), then they get to go to the store and pick out a small reward. One boy (the easy going one) has not missed a day, whereas my other son has missed about 5 days of getting a sticker. Not too bad considering we have been doing this for about 6months. Sometimes bribery is not the best solution but it sure makes me feel better when they are not crying. I have also learned with my one son that if I take him to his class and they are all sitting calmly ready to read a book or getting ready for snack then he feels uncomfortable. He doesn't like it when we walk in and all eyes are on them. So I try to take them when it is free play time that way most of the kids are occupied playing with toys or puzzles or whatever. Hang in there momma. Like I tell myself, its only got to get better.

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As a two year old "teacher"/guider I can tell you this is normal. This is what we call "the mommy show" and it's very pitiful. I would honestly talk to her teacher. The saying "this too shall pass" is a very common one in my classroom, to my parents, and even to the children.
Honestly, pulling her now, I think you will do damage. She'll begin to understand "if I act this way, mummy will do what I want her to"... and that's not great. I'd talk to her teacher. If you trust her teacher (and you should or you shouldn't have your child in that class) then listen to what he or she has to say and go with it.

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I would pull her out and perhaps look for a different pre-school. I started my son in preschool when he turned 3 (even though he turned after the cut-off they let him in). It was the same preschool that the boys I nannied for went to and my son had been begging to go. After a month or so of going to this preschool he didn't want to go any more. I pushed it for another month, but finally I pulled him out and put him into a co-op run through the community college. He loved it and never didn't want to go to that school. Some schools are just not necessarily the right fit for every child, even if they are great schools.

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If you are having reservations, your daughter can sense that and her behavior regarding "school" may be influenced by what she is sensing. Even though you have another child and she gets that socialization, it is not the same a with a group of kids her age. Could part of the problem be the timing of the class (if so, could you swap to afternoons or vice versa) ? Is there something she really enjoys that she's missing when you take her to school? I never had this problem w/ my daughter. Some times she doesn't want to get up but she is always fine to go to school (or anywhere else).

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If you are looking for her to be happy when you leave her, you may have a long wait. My daughter was a crier. We started at age 2. Every day for 6 months she cried going in. For the next 2 years she clung to me like crazy and didn't want to go but went. Finally when she was almost 5 she was kind of happy to be in school. It really wasn't until Kindergarten until she was truly happy to go. My son, by contrast, started at age 2 and couldn't wait to go. A little boy that was in his 2 yo class cried every day that year, but his mom persisted. He clung every day of his 3 year old year. Finally this year in the 4s he is happy to go. If she is fine when you leave, I would leave her alone. She will eventually adjust. I will add, that sometimes they feed off of your emotions. If you get upset, so will she. Talk up how great school is, tell her what a big girl she is and how proud you are of her. When she clings and cries, give her a quick kiss, tell her mommy will be back soon and to have fun, and leave quickly. The more you dawdle, the worse it will be for both of you. You can also ask if there is something that is upsetting her. I found out once that there was a boy that was teasing my daughter. Once they were separated, everything was fine. Another time, her favorite teacher had moved rooms without us knowing it. Good luck, this will pass.

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if she is reacting like that something has happened there to make her not want to go. i would take her out and maybe do a mommy and me class with her. but also she is at that age where she realizes that your going to leave her. i think you should follow your instincts on what you want to do. pulling her out now is a risk you will take in putting her in the 3 year olds class.

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I agree with margie. I think my kids (2 and 4) are doing better on 4 days a week than they did with our initial 2 days a week last year. We used to have many more days of melt downs on separation than we do now. On those rare occasions, I try to stay a few more minutes getting them engaged with toys or friends. Sometimes I just start playing or talking with one of their friends so the focus isn't on my kids and they see me having fun with their friends. They always join in, and when I say I'm ready to go, it isn't such a big deal anymore.

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Life has its ups and downs. This is frustrating, but I would hang in there. My DS is now 4 1/2 and he still has a few days where he drags his feet, but at 3 definitely had a few months where he hated to see me leave. If you can observe her and see that she is doing fine (and I know fine might not be good enough, but it is new to her so she has to learn what it is like to be happy w/o mom), then I would let her stay - especially if you have to change schools. Seems like it would be starting all over again if she had to make new friends. It is probably harder on you than her :-)