Pregnant Again After Losing a Baby at 25 Weeks Pregnant

I'm sorry for you loss. I lost 3 before my child was born, and I know the uncertainty with each pregnancy.
Keep all appointments and keep in touch with your doctor--don' hesitate to call if you feel odd or uncertain--that's why they're there!
And I really liked the suggestion to get a BP monitor for yourself to use at home. It will most likely put your mind at ease.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. To ease your mind, I would invest in a heart monitor. I know you can get them at Babies R Us. Not sure where else you could get them, but I do know a few women that felt much more at ease being able to check anytime they wanted.

Good luck. Again, I'm very sorry for your loss.

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Absolutely. It's perfectly normal to have fears.Saying that, it isn't healthy for the baby for you to stress. Please try to take these things as they come. Pray your way through the day. Do the best you can to take care of the child and let God handle the rest. Are you on a good prenatal that absorbs? Are you dodging processed foods? Are you walking often? Just do the best you can.

God bless!

M.

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Are you seeing the same doctor or doctor's group? I know after having post-partum pre-eclampsia with my first, they watched me like a hawk with my second pregnancy! I'm sorry you lost that baby, and I think it's perfectly normal for you to be very nervous. You probably will be until you're into 30+ weeks and feel like things might be okay if you went into labor. If you're seeing a different doctor, make sure they know all of the circumstances and make sure you are getting weekly BP monitoring and if it goes up in the slightest that they do a urine protein test.

I second MechanicMama about the baby heart rate monitor. They have many you can buy now, or you can rent a "baby doppler" online. We did that and had the exact type they use at the doctor's office. For whatever reason, my first didn't move a lot and the doctor told me my placenta was in front of my uterus, so I didn't feel much movement. Since they do tell you if you don't feel movement for 24 hours to go to the ER, I was a wreck until the baby doppler! It saved us A LOT of stress and trips to the doctor. Worth every penny to hear that heart beat!

Good luck! I'm sure this time everything is going to be just fine.

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Congrats on your pregnancy. I lost my 1st at 18 weeks then went on the have 3 healthy girls. I know the stress of losing again is there but I would get the heartbeat monitor too. Good luck!

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Nothing to say...except I will add you to my prayer list S.. I know you will do fine. Try not to focus on the past issue. There is enough problems in the future for all of us. God Bless

My mom lost her first baby at about 24 weeks. I was the baby who came next. This was 30 years ago and while she has had 3 successful pregnancies she still talks about the baby she lost and she also talks about the precautions she took while pregnant with me (things that would seem irrational if one hadn't experienced this kind of loss). I know her pregnancy with me was wracked with fear and nervousness. During this pregnancy Mt. St. Helen's erupted and ash fell so my mom sealed up the house with tape and plastic and wouldn't let my dad inside when he came home from work. She said she also spent a lot of free time on the couch with her legs tightly crossed (despite knowing it was pretty irrational). She certainly doesn't dwell on the experience any more, but has shared this with me as I've become a mom and had my own worries. So I think what you're experiencing is very normal and I hope you'll someday get to share what you've learned about loss, recovery, and fear with the child you're carrying.

I'm sorry to hear about losing your sweet little baby. 15 weeks is early still. I remember in the beginning I didn't feel my daughter all of the time. Maybe 2 or 3 times close together, and then nothing for a whole day or two. Staying calm will help your blood pressure. Try not to borrow trouble--this is a new baby and a new pregnancy. Good luck this time around.

I think that 15 weeks is early to feel the baby move, so you're probably fine there. Preeclampsia is scary, and weird because you can have it in one pregnancy and not another. Like the Duggar mom, she's had 19 kids, and only 2 (i think) of her pregnancies had preeclampsia.

I can imagine feeling nervous and paranoid, but try to enjoy the pregnancy as much as you can!

congratulations!!!
i am so sorry for your loss ...get a heart monitos to put your mind in ease and remember the stress is bad for the baby

I am 29weeks and I lost my son at 17weeks. I know how you feel, I write about it a lot. At 15 weeks feelings of movement are not going to be regular, and you won't feel them everyday. I had a great OB and she lets me come in to hear the heartbeat whenever I start to get over anxious (a calm mom is a happy mom). Paranoid is the new normal, and it's okay to feel that way.

Many prayers and thoughts for you!

M.
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I hope for the best for you! i just wanted to tell you to have your vitamin D levels checked since a deficiency ( which many of us have) can cause preeclampsia, but docs rarely look at this. ITs a simple blood test....god luck to you!!!

Of coarse you are nervous. It is heartbreaking to loose a child especially at 25 weeks. All I can say is try to stay positive and calm because your baby feels everything you do. It is my prayer that your child will be delivered healthy and when he/she is suppose to. Do your very best to stay calm. You don't want to have a nervous baby because you stayed nervous the whole time. Much love a dn prayers being sent to you from me.

If you can afford it, find an accupuncturist that specializes in pregnancies. She/he will have assurances both verbally and via accupuncture to help you relax and to help support your pregnancy.

I had a good friend have preeclempsia and delivered her first at 30 wks. They both made it but barely. Her second pregnancy went fine and she went full term with no problems or complications. I think any mom in your shoes would battle some fear, losing a child is so hard. I am so sorry for your loss, hang in there. As far as feeling the baby at 15 weeks, that is amazing!! If you are feeling any movement, it's great. With my first I was like 5 months before I could feel much movement. With my second I could feel him a little at like 16wks, and that was just like flutters. Each pregnancy is so different as everyone says. Also movement in general is so weird. My first would move very sporadically, but a little all day. When he was born he would sleep in spurts and wake up then sleep, wake up etc. My second would go for HOURS with no movement and then just go crazy, like he would wake me up at night he would move so much, and then nothing. When he was born he basically slept around the clock and would wake up and be active for like 15minutes and even now at ten months he needs to sleep after like 3 hours of being awake, but boy is he active when he's up!!! So alot has to do with the type of child growing in there as well:D I would say just do you best to eat well, rest and enjoy your pregnancy. With your history, your doctor will monitor you closely and put you on bed rest immediately should anything seem off. I wish you the best and congrats on your new little one!!

I have had 4 pre-eclamptic pregnancies and with all of them I delivered early but only by a couple weeks (max 3 weeks early). I was on strick bedrest from about 18 weeks on, a little later with my subsequent pregnancies, (up to 27 weeks before bedrest with my 3rd). I was on a reduced sodium diet throughout and when my protiens went up they limited my fluid intake to avoid retention. Everytime I got pregnant I was nervous and spent alot of time on the couch and only did things that I had to do, the rest could wait. Then when I was on bedrest, I had lots of help come in to take care of me and, later on, the little ones so that I could rest.If people want to bring you food ask that it be low sodium. Also with being on bedrest (if you have to do bedrest) watch for muscle atrophy, keep things toned by flexing them without getting up, just flex and hold, then release, repeat often. One thing that I learned the hard way is try to eat according to your activity level. If you aren't moving much you don't need as many calories. Don't starve yourself but also, try not to gain too much because this can also affect your BP.
Your feelings are perfectly normal and I think that this time will be different. You have experience on your side and know what to do differently this time as well as the doctors. It should be smooth sailing now! Focus on getting through this week and it will go by really fast. Every week gets you closer to having a healthy baby in your arms.

Your worries are perfectly normal! At 15 weeks the movements are less noticeable. Don't worry yet....

Hi S.,
I'm so very sorry for your loss. That is such a hard, hard thing to go through. I have not had this happen to me, but I do have a friend who delivered around 25 weeks because of preeclampsia. Her baby did survive, but it was a very long road. She went on to have another baby a couple of years later. That pregnancy went just fine. At around 37 weeks or so, her blood pressure was getting high again, so they delivered her son, who was perfectly fine. One study I read seems to indicate that a high level of exercise can be a culprit in preeclamsia. Be careful that you don't overdo it. My friend is a runner, and continued running and exercising a lot in her first pregnancy. It could have been a factor in the blood pressure thing. (much more work on your heart during pregnancy) Try to relax and enjoy your pregnancy. I know it must be so hard with your loss in your mind. I know that I find great comfort in resting in God's perfect will for my life, knowing that He ordains all things for my good and His glory. I don't always understand how that all works together, but I have such peace about the hard things because of that. If you have a faith in God, perhaps this will help you, too. Blessings to you. Again, I'm so very sorry.
Oh, I forgot to mention this, but you probably already know it: eat lots of protein. Almonds, yogurt, chicken, meat, beans. They are critical for helping your blood pressure stay in control.

S.-
I am so sorry for your loss. I know this might not help. BUt stress and worry will not help. They are more likely to create a bad outcome or at best just destroy your joy in creating new life.
Center and focus on your joy