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Pregnant AFTER Husband's Vasectomy

Okay, I'm going to reveal some info about my sex life that I wouldn't normally even tell my friends, ha- But I want to see if it is at all possible for me to be pregnant...

My husband had a vasectomy almost 2 years ago when I was pregnant with my fourth. We are VERY lucky in the fact that I have gotten pregnant on the first try EVERY time. First day of trying (while knowing I was ovulating, of course...) boom, I'm pregnant! So I KNOW how fertile we are. Having said that, The vasectomy has been great for our sex life. There's a lot more freedom, if you know what I mean. However, we have always had VERY frequent "intimate" times. I don't need to say how many times a week, but from what I've gathered, it is WAY more than the average married couple... (especially considering we have four kids). Having said that as well, I would figure that IF I was going to be pregnant after my husband had the vasectomy, it would have totally already happened- like 400 times ago- not exaggerating on the number (okay, I mentioned a number, but really, I'm trying to make a point here).

Soooo, wouldn't you say that given our very blessed fertile selves, the vasectomy, and how frequent we are intimate, that I'm NOT pregnant right now?

Yes, yes, I skipped my last period and I've been feeling nauseous- that is where this is coming from...

By the way, although we had the vasectomy, there's no way I would ever consider NOT having the baby (if there is one)- just to make things clear. And also, we are like permanent newlyweds, there is nothing "wrong" with us...

What can I do next?

So What Happened?™

WOW- it is amazing how many vasectomy babies are out there! I did say however, that IF I got pregnant afterward, it MUST be God's will! Took the home test, it's negative... I'll wait it out for a while for another one. Thanks for all the responses- and also thank you for the comments about my husband and I. We've known each other for 14 years, and married for over 7 years... Yes, it IS a good thing that was are so "loving", and many of you were right when you assumed all else is great, too. We as a married couple and family are so very happy and work together so nicely, and it IS fabulous bringing up children in a great environment, as we are trying our best to do.

Also, I'm turning 29 soon so there is no possibility of pre-menopause... but I know my hormones are messed up from something (I'm also moody for no reason), so I've made myself an appointment. Thanks again for the responses and kind words!

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There is no birth control that is 100% effective. Not even tubal ligation or vasectomy. Take a test. Good luck!

Sounds like you are a very lucky woman. Why keep sweating this? In the time you took to write this post, you could have taken a pregnancy test. Take a test and find out. Best wishes either way!

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We too have vasectomy babies 2 of them in fact! When I was pregnant with number 7 my husband had a vasectomy. My #7 child was about 18 months old when we found out that I was pregnant. Having 9 kids we too have a very active sex life when DH is not deployed with the army somewhere, we are still newlyweds after 17 years of marriage. Well #9 was born while he has been away in Afghanistan and he is coming home at the end of the month. Not sure at this point what we are going to do to not have more children. But we have come to the conclusion God has his will in all things! We would not have it any different way. Hope you the best.

A. Mom of 9
17,15,14,13,11,9,7,6,3, and 5 months. :)

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I am somewhat late responding to this having seen this the first time today. I am glad you are talking about God's will and seeing the possibility of new life as a gift.
My husband and I also had a vasectomy back in 2002. Unfortunately it was not the right decision. It seemed to be the right idea at the time and the consequences of it were not fully realized for years to come...about four years later. I know I am against the "cultural" tide here in giving this perspective but it is so important to let others know the other side to all of this. My husband and I do share a great love for each other. Our sexual love is only a part of our whole selves. I used to think that having the vasectomy was the greatest gift but now I realize that in holding back I had completly left God out of the picture.
When we were considering having the vasectomy only one of our friends discouraged it. After spending more time in prayer, doing spiritual reading and going through a trial, I realized that is was harmful. It cut ourselves off from fully relating to each other as true gifts of ourselves.
We have now both undergone strong spiritual conversions and share in all aspects of our lives. We are in renewal and more in love with each other everyday. We realize that our love has required sacrifice. My husband has since gone through a reversal surgery (which was extremely complicated and not without risks). We sought the help of a group called "One More Soul" who found a physician who would do this for a fraction of the cost.
Our chances of the surgery being successful were only 50%. We were blessed with another child and he has been another true "joy" in our lives.
I no longer see children as financial liablities and see theirs and every life as a gift from our creator.
One secular book I have read that spoke to me was "The Traveler's Gift" by Andy Andrews. It mentions how fear ruling our lives prevents God's plan for us. It really spoke to me.
Another book I would recommend is "Amazing Grace for Married Couples" (It is a compilation of short stories and testimonies of 12 couples who have experienced a conversion in their lives, hearts and marriages)
One More Soul.com offers a CD talk by Janet Smith which was helpful in gaining an understanding of the effects of sterilization as well.
My husband now speaks at men's groups in our church to give testimony to our experience and discourage others from having vasectomies.
We are now fully enjoying a sacramental marriage...mind, body and soul.
I wish you and your family all the best. Thank you for allowing me to give another perspective on all of this.
God Bless!

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I have read alot of these comments and I am a little shocked. I had one very bad pregnancy and ended up with HELLP syndrome with my first. My second was a risk but well worth it. I had decided that if anything went wrong again then I should have MY tubes tied. I just thought I would mention this is as possibility ladies for those that think it is the man's place. I found in my decision that if my body was at risk then no husbands tubal is 100%. I had the tubal done after a c-section with no problems and it was just fine. Please if this helps one woman with a fear of complications of pregnancy, please think about reversing the role of protection. It can be the woman having the procedure just as well. I realize this does not match the original comment, but hope it helps. By the way my husband and I too have a great life together after 12 yrs. I am very grateful for my tubal. It is 5 yrs now and no extra surprises!! We can always adopt later or be foster parents. Thanks for posting

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Let me begin by saying that yes it is possible that you are pregnant. I do have a short story that might help. I had a friend that her husband had a vasectomy and she was on 2 (I'm not joking) types of birth control because they were also very fertile. They also used another protection during intercourse and she also had her tubes tied. Guess what? She got pregnant. No Joke. It is possible that the tubes became untied and pregnancy happens. I'm glad you are willing to have another and my advice to you is to ask your doctor.
On the other hand, how old are you (If you don't mind)? Depending on your age, I've also heard that pre-menopause can feel like pregnancy. Just a thought, so I'd definitely say talk to your doctor. Hope this helps.

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i don't have any advice. i just wanted to tell you that you remind me of my husband and i. we have been together since 1994 (junior year of highschool) and have 4 kids. we are debating him getting a vasectomy. you have just showed me that it is not a given... i learn something new everyday :)

ps... there are still a select few of us couples that are in the honeymoon stage (after all of these years). dont get me wrong, there are still the occasional fights but on the other end of the spectrum it is great. i LOVE having a couple glasses of wine and random amazing nights!

do you guys go back to highschool? just curious...

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M. B:

You are SOOO RIGHT!! There is NOTHING wrong with your marriage!! You are setting such a great example for your children!! How great to show your children that a marriage means happiness, closeness and attraction! YOU GO!!!

Now, on to your issue - you didn't state your age - without knowing that, I can venture to say it's possible you could be experiencing menopausal symptoms.

OR, it's entirely possible that your husband's vasectomy "healed" itself. Our bodies have remarkable healing powers and since his is used so regularly - it's entirely possible that the vas deferens reconnected after the procedure.

Take a home pregnancy chef to verify this. If it's negative, set up an appointment with your OB/GYN to see if you are starting menopause.

I love that fact that you are permanent newlyweds!! That is SOOO GREAT!!!

Best regards!

C.

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Is it likely to become pregnant if the vasectomy was 15 years ago?

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Well if you are pregnant post-vasectomy, welcome to the club!! That's how I had my 3rd child. I got pregnant a year after my husband's vasectomy. It seemed to take that long for the Vas to heal itself inside my husband and get up and running again. So, it may simply have taken that long for your hubby's equipment to get going again. However, it is pretty rare to become pregnant after a V, so it may simply be your hormones are off.

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my midwife told us that if we got a vasectomy to have my husband tested every two years because they tubes can fuse back together. She had assisted in 3 post-vasectomy deliveries. So, just make sure he gets tested and that will put your mind at ease. :)

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Yup, its even more plausible after a period of time ESPECIALLY if he's not done his regular check ups. The tubes can grow back together OR he can even grow a third one. Both my girls are post vasectomy babies - my ex husband had had one over 4 years before we got together (and we were together over a year before I got pregnant the first time.) He had grown a third tube, and upon testing, he had a count of 10 - yes 10. So my advice is to make regular check ups. :}

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Gggggggggggiiiiiiiiirrrrrrrrrlllllllllllll - I'm just jealous of how much lovin' you & hubby are gettin' in! Heck, we only have one son & I can count on ONE hand the times we...ok - never mind.

Unfortunately, I don't have experience with vasectomy & what can/cannot possibly happen - but I have heard stories that they can sometimes reverse themselves (?).

If that's the case and you're pregnant, who ever paid for the vasectomy should be getting some money back! And if you are pregnant, then consider it another blessing - albeit unexpected.

I hope everything works out for you all!

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i do not know what you mean but the average of how many times married couples have sex bc my husband and I have been married 20 years have 4 kids and have sex all the time and in different places. That being said we had a surprise baby and to make sure there was not a repeat we both had it taken care of

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i do not know what you mean but the average of how many times married couples have sex bc my husband and I have been married 20 years have 4 kids and have sex all the time and in different places. That being said we had a surprise baby and to make sure there was not a repeat we both had it taken care of

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i do not know what you mean but the average of how many times married couples have sex bc my husband and I have been married 20 years have 4 kids and have sex all the time and in different places. That being said we had a surprise baby and to make sure there was not a repeat we both had it taken care of

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i do not know what you mean but the average of how many times married couples have sex bc my husband and I have been married 20 years have 4 kids and have sex all the time and in different places. That being said we had a surprise baby and to make sure there was not a repeat we both had it taken care of

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i do not know what you mean but the average of how many times married couples have sex bc my husband and I have been married 20 years have 4 kids and have sex all the time and in different places. That being said we had a surprise baby and to make sure there was not a repeat we both had it taken care of

I've heard of a vasectomy not working. Get a test to be on the safe side to make sure you're taking care of yourself and get your home ready for a 5th child.

He may have to go back to the doctor. Some procedures have failed. When my sister's husband went to have a vasectomy, several other of his freinds who went to the same doctor had to have it done again.

I have a friend who is a post-vasectomy baby, so, it's definitely a possibility! And I think it's GREAT that you have such a wonderful sex life. Congrats either way!

Now why can't my husband's vasectomy reverse itself after 7 years? After reading all of the post, I am hopeful. We were thinking about having him go to get a reversal surgically but the cost is way out of our league. Children are a blessing.

I agree one option is menopause. I was in high school when my mom went through it and they were very concerned as they weren't ready for a baby at that point!

It is always possible. POAS and let us know! :)

My sil was 18 with a newborn and a one year old. Her husband had a vast. and yet she got pg with their third baby. The doctor paid for the medical expenses and he tested and said husband could no longer have a baby.
Well, he had like five cords instead of three or something like that so that is why they got pg again. 19 years old with three kids. Now the kids are in thier forties a year apart. My point is that some men have more cords or whatever they are called than the average man. This time they put him in the hospital to fix him and he almost died. They cut them too short. It was awful when he came home he could barely walk and was on strong medication.
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My sil was 18 with a newborn and a one year old. Her husband had a vast. and yet she got pg with their third baby. The doctor paid for the medical expenses and he tested and said husband could no longer have a baby.
Well, he had like five cords instead of three or something like that so that is why they got pg again. 19 years old with three kids. Now the kids are in thier forties a year apart. My point is that some men have more cords or whatever they are called than the average man. This time they put him in the hospital to fix him and he almost died. They cut them too short. It was awful when he came home he could barely walk and was on strong medication.
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If you think you might be prengant, why don't you just take a home pregnancy test?

Sounds like you are a very lucky woman. Why keep sweating this? In the time you took to write this post, you could have taken a pregnancy test. Take a test and find out. Best wishes either way!

My husband and i just had our 5th child and are now thinking of getting a vasectomy done. After hearing the stories of a lot of women getting pregnant after having this done I'm not so sure. Do you think we should go along with this or consider going another route?

Make sure the Dr. has confirmed husband's sterility after the Vasectomy. They are not instant. It can take 3 months for it to take effect. The body stores some of the semen and the Dr. will check samples to make sure that they are not fertile. If you have sex any time without protection before your Dr. has confirmed than getting pregnant is just as likely as any other time. This is a big misconception.

It's definately possible, I know someone who got pregnant after her husband had a vasectomy 7 years later. I would take a test and then go to the doctor. Congratulations if so, your marriage sounds wonderful and bringing another child up in such a home is good for everybody (if that be the case). God bless

yep...it happened to my sister and her husband. they thought they were done having kids after his vasectomy. he never went back in for follow up testing and lo and behold they had their 3rd child. best of luck.

Lucky you! You don't mention how old you are, but you could be peri-menopausal. (I've heard of couples getting after a vasectomy but don't know how long afterward or any other details.) Good luck!

You could be both my dad and sister as well as my twin cousins are post vasectomy babies. My sister was 2 years later but my cousi s came as a great surprise 10 years later! Good luck!!

I just want to back up what another poster said...being 29 does NOT mean it is impossible for you to be going through perimenopause. Sure it is unlikely, but not impossible. I'm glad you are seeing the doctor to make sure. It is also just possible that your hormones are changing.

I do think it's wonderful how loving you guys are. :) My husband and I have been together 15 years and married 13 and our 4th child is due in August. We are much more affectionate and intimate than anybody else we know. We feel blessed by it.

I am curious though...did your husband go back for a followup several months after the procedure? I know someone who was very upset with her husband when she found out he never went back...I think it was 6 months after to make sure the procedure took.

Best of luck and congrats again on finding your soul mate. :)

Girl I would be shakin in my boots right now if I were you ;) I have 3 kids ages 18, 10 and 2, and me and my husband have been married for 19 years. We have always "played" alot, but since his vascectomy 2 years ago it has been a million times better. I think its because the fear of another pregnancy is no longer there. Yes the doctor told us that it was not 100% but we just figured that they have to tell you that so that you wont sue them if you get pregnant.

Well since yall have had a vascectomy, I'm assuming that means you dont want another pregnancy. Please get back to the board to give us the update as I see your original comment was written back in January. Thanks.

My husband's coworker has a son many years younger than the middle child - a vasectomy that reversed itself. It doesn't usually happen, but it's not unheard of. I'd get a test and see if this is a very determined baby or just the flu. And I'd go back to his urologist and demand a redo!

make sure they check your thyroid and Vitamin D. Good luck.

Yes you can still get pregnant. I have a friend with two kids after a vasectomy.

Baby number four of mine was post vasectomy. I was told not to have anymore children because of the terrible preeclampsia I had with pregnancies 2 and 3. Anyway, my in-laws were horrible and my mother wasn't much better. Thank goodness everything all worked out in the end! When we called the vasectomy doctor to ask what their policy was in this situation, they said it had never happened, but offered another vasectomy for free. It's all good, though, because none of us can imagine our lives without our little boy! :)

Your story sounds a lot similar to mine. My husband had his vasectomy after his second child (with his ex-wife of course) and that was 17 years ago. Our sex life is....whew!!!! I have my period every month and it has never been irregular. I am now almost 2 weeks late and I'm thinking that I may be pregnant, but I don't have any of the symptoms. I am 33 years old and I read a little about the peri-menopause, but I didn't consider that to be the problem. I don't want to take a home pregnancy test because I know it's going to be negative and I'm secretly hoping I'm pregnant, but my husband is not. I think I'm going to wait until the end of the month before I go to the doctor. Good luck and congratulations if you are pregnant.

For fear of getting flamed, let me just say on behalf of those who have struggled for years with fertility issues, you could have just said that you have four kids and conceived without any trouble. (A few others flaunted their uber-fertile selves, too. Thanks). Yes, I - and MANY other women who read these boards - may still be sensitive, even though we finally have children....all after a 17 year struggle and $150,000...all out of pocket.

To your question of perimenopause, yes, it's very possible. There are many women who turn to fertility treatments in an attempt to conceive due to perimenopause. Just because you had your children easily doesn't mean you couldn't suffer from secondary infertility or early menopause.

I hope you figure out what you really want. And like others said, your husband needs to do follow up appointments after a vasectomy. Nothing is certain.

It is possible that you could be pregnant. I got pregnant almost 4 years after my husband had his vasectomy and we also did it a lot in those 4 years. Yes it is his child. The dr. that did his vasectomy asked him how well he knew his wife and maybe I was cheating on him. My husband knows me well enough to know I wouldn't do that, he was about ready to punch that dr. Everyone says that he was brought into this world for a reason. He is now almost 8 years old, and a healthy boy. Good luck to you.

Since you are not pregnant, I just wanted to say you should get checked for peri-menopause. I have a friend who, after having her first baby, quickly had a second because she was already in peri-menopause at the age of 25(thought she was pregnant and went to the OB to find out menopause was starting) and was through menopause by the time she was 32. So that is rare but also a possibility.

There is no birth control that is 100% effective. Not even tubal ligation or vasectomy. Take a test. Good luck!

If he gave his specimans after the procedure and they came up negative, then you can't be preggo. I would go see your dr.
Congrats on your great sex life..it's a huge part of married life!

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