Pregnancy Complications

C.,
I just wanted to say that I'm sorry for your loss. I lost a pregnancy in May (I, too am convinced it was a girl.) My husband and I are trying again and I'm hoping and praying for a healthy pregnancy and the birth of a healthy baby in 2008! I'm 26, so I'm not sure about all of the statistics on miscarriage in your 40's, but one of my co-workers miscarried her first pregnancy at 37, got pregnant with a healthy baby girl a month later, miscarried again 2 years later, and had another healthy baby girl in May of this year at the age of 41. After I had my miscarriage, she told me to just keep trying because, if she had given up, she would've missed out on her second daughter. Faith will carry you through, even on the really rough days....
Good luck!
J.

Hi C.
I am sorry to hear of your loss.I am 45yrs old with a two
year old little boy.I to had (2) miscarridges in a
row.The third pregnancy went to term with no problems.
He was delivered by C-section,because I had twins
20
years earlier that were also delivered by C-section
Have faith!!If it is Gods will you will become pregnant
again.My son has been a true blessing for me.
take care of yourself and Merry Christmas
M.

My sister (now 50) had a miscarriage when she was around your same age (after having given birth to 6 children!). She subsequently had 4 more healthy pregnancies, giving birth to the last child (we hope) at age 48. So, it certainly is possible, especially since you have had a previously successful pregnancy. Statistically, miscarriages are more frequent as you age.

I'm so sorry for your lose (my heart just sank as I was reading it). I misscarried my first pregnancy, but was able to get pregnant three months later. I was in my late 30's. However, I do believe that God puts the desire of children in our hearts to start with. So you should pray without ceasing. As long as your Dr's say you are healthly, you should try again once your body has healed. On a side note, a close family memeber was 45 when she discovered her was pregnant again! 9 years after her last son. I don't think 41 is that old. God bless. D.

My mother had a miscarriage and then IMMEDIATELY got pregnant with my little brother...she was pregnant for 12 months straight almost. She was 40 when she had my brother. She had a perfectly healthy pregnancy and delivery. It's entirely possible! Good for you for not letting it break you. I say if you want another child, go for it!

C., you know what you want and I see that you have a great deal of faith- it is time to put that into action. Our God is great and can do anything (BUT YOU HAVE TO ASK)- it doesn't matter what people (here or even doctors say) as long as YOU have prayed about it and have faith in our GOD. Nothing else matters.

~B.

Hi Caille,
I wouldn't say necessarily the miscarriage was caused from your age. There's a number of factors that can cause a miscarrige.
I had my first healthy child at 18, miscarried at 20, had another healthy baby at 22, miscarried again at 23 and now at 24 I'm 6 mnths pregnant with healthy baby # 3.
(All of my miscarriages were aso around 7-8 weeks).

So I was fairly young to miscarry and have still gone on to have healthy babies.
I wish you the best of luck but definitely try again if that's what you and your Husband both want.
Take Care
~N.~

Hi C.!
I am so sorry about your miscarriage. I know how hard it is myself. It is wonderful that you have pulled back up and are trying again. I had an eptopic pregnacy and then a miscarriage at about 8 weeks as well. We kept on trying and now I have a beautiful one year old daughter. I had no pregnancy complications nor delivery problems. She is very healthy. I think miscarriage is just our bodies way of telling us that something just wasn't quite right. I am only 33 but age doesn't always matter with these types of things.
Keep trying - kids are such a blessing and worth everything. Forty is the new thirty! :)
Good Luck.

First of all, please accept my condolences for your loss. I can't even imagine how you must be feeling right now, but it's good that you are not giving up. I once had a school teacher that was in her 40's, and to her surprise, she became pregnant and delivered a healthy baby boy. You will probably be considered high risk, but I had a high risk pregnancy at age 18, another one when I was 23, and now I'm 31 and having a VERY healthy pregnancy. Therefore, it can go either way at any age. Hopefully you have a good doctor that you can talk to openly, and discuss any fears that you may have.

C.,
Be of good cheer!!!

I got pregnant and had a quick miscarriage after only 6 weeks. The doctor was amazed that I even knew it happened. I got pregnant 2 months later with my beautiful, youngest daughter, Elise. I was 39!

C....Im not sure the success rate of births after miscarriages, but I have two friends who have had miscarriages and both are both currently pregnant, so far so good. Their OBs are watching closely, but they haven't had any issues. They are ages 35 & 30. Im sorry for the loss you suffered, but will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and hope that God will once again bless you with another child.

I, too, am sorry for your loss. I had two miscarriages, one at 17 weeks and one at 6 weeks before I had either of my children - the first at 42 and the second at almost 44....there are many miscarriages in the first trimester, especially 6-8 weeks ...... your age is probably not a factor.......my then hubby did not even want to try again but I HAD to as I am sure you understand......take care of your self......

C,
I got pregnant with my first child when I was 40. I too had a miscarriage the first go round. After giving my body a chance to get back to normal, we tried again and I delivered a healthy whopping 8lbs 7oz baby girl at the age of 41. Keep the faith!

I want to first say I know personally how you are feeling and am terribly sorry for your loss.You have had lots of wonderful advice here from some very compassionate ladies. It is normal to go over the "what did I do wrong" and "maybe its something wrong with me" That is how we process grief, through a combination of bargaining, anger and guilt before we finally come to terms with it all. It is okay, however you are feeling, just let it flow thru.
Some things you need to know, yes it is more difficult after 40 as you have heard. My DIL lost 2 then had my adorable grandson. All after 40 w/o FT. WOW ! they are doing great.
It is more normal than most people know to have early miscarriages. About 1 in 4 and many women just aren't totally aware of it, or simply don't discuss it.
My point is keep doing what you feel is best to work thru the grief and then if you want to keep trying hooray for you, and if you decide not then hooray for you also for coming to terms with yourself and your life. You can't make a wrong decision so go with your heart. I recently counseled with a couple that have a genetic problem that resulted in 3 losses, one as late as 32 weeks, who have delivered a healthy son. They just believed that was right for them.
sincerely,
K. @ The Nestingplace

First off I am sorry for your loss. Is it possible for a healthy pregnancy after your loss. YES!!! My sister in law went through the same thing. That the age of 43 she had her 3rd child. I will be praying for you!

C.,

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your tiny baby girl. My heart goes to you and your family.
It is very likely that you will have no problem conceiving after a miscarriage. Sometimes it takes a little longer to conceive after 35 to 40 something...but certainly your body has proven that you are beautifully fertile. I love your comment on faith. You may want to talk to your doctor about using progesterone to help you. I also have heard that red clover is helpful in these situations...but do some further research into that. My cousin had three miscarriages and now is the happy mother of healthy one year old twins! Close your eyes and open your heart!
Marianne

hello friend,

i had a miscarriage in feb of this year and i will soon be forty, the doctors told me not to try again to have another one for a while but me and my husband tried again, and we gto preggie right after the miscarriage about the same time you are talking you are more fertial that you were before you got preggie so i wish you the best good luck, the doctors considered me a high risk cause of my age but i tell you i just had my baby boy and he is oerfect in everyway. my preggie was perfect nothing was wrong the doctors just took extra care so i didnt lose this one, i had great doctors everything about this preggie was perfect i am thinking of having another in the near futrue for my husband we are going to try for a little girl but if we get another boy so be it the one i have is the perfect little package he doesnt cry to much is good natured i think it had to do with me not being to stressed out and all and just taking care of my body and just taking that extra care not to lose him but it was worth it and i hope you will be able to experiance then same joy that i have keep your faith strong if it is meant to be it will happen.

God bless

T.

The doctors can't always tell for sure. I was in my early 30's when they told me that I would not be able to have any more children so we quit all birth control. I now have a 19 year old girl and 16 year old boy. When I was 37, I had a miscarriage. 18 months later my youngest son was born. I did have to go on bed rest for several weeks before he was born because of bouts of premature labor but he was born smart and healthy.