R.W. asks from Herndon, VA on December 20, 2009
Pregnancy and Weight Gain
I am 14 weeks pregnant with baby #3, and I am dreading what I am afraid will be the inevitable weight gain that comes with my pregnancies. A little background is that I was a fit 125 lbs when I got pregnant with #1. I put on 50 lbs with that pregnancy. I lost most of it by the time I got pregnant with #2, and put on 45-50 lbs that pregnancy. I would REALLY like to not put on so much weight this time (although I'm not off to a very good start so far). I don't eat much junk food at all, or sweets (maybe once a week). We eat pretty healthy. I don't work out diligently, but I'm known to go to the gym (the babysitting ladies know my kids names). I guess what I would like to know is if there is anyone out there who has similarly put on a lot of weight with one pregnancy (or two), and figured out a way to not do it again. The pregnancies themselves have been very different, one a girl, one a boy, so the only similarity is that I put on a ton of weight.
I know some people put on a little, some put on more, but 50 lbs each pregnancy is a lot and it takes me forever to get it off (even though I breastfeed for over a year each time - it doesn't help me lose weight!). I obviously love my children, but my self-esteem suffers a lot from it so I thought I would ask! Any similar experiences of maybe how to make this pregnancy different would be so appreciated!
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K.H. answers from Washington DC on December 20, 2009
I also have 3 kids , with my first I gained 45lbs , my own fault , I literally ate what I wanted and when , at the end I had a 9lb 4oz boy. With #2 I gained 28lbs , I didn't limit what I ate but I was a bit more careful than with the first , plus I also went off of chocolate which was one of the main culprits of my weight gain with #1 , at the end of that I had an 8lb girl. With #3 I had lot's of nausea/sickness until week 16 , for 5 wks I lived on bread & toast as that was all I could keep down , plus I only got to week 34 when she was delivered (long story short ruptured appendix) , at that point I had gained 25lbs , so well on my way to gaining a similar amount to pregnancy #2 if not a little more , and she weighed 6lbs. I didn't go to the gym during any of my pregnancy's. So what I am trying to say is that you cannot really control how much you gain , all you can do is make healthy choices especially with snacks , try and do some exercise , even if it is a short walk , you need to keep in mind that the weight gained isn't fat , it's the weight of the baby , the extra water/blood also.
Try and enjoy your pregnancy without worrying too much
L.S. answers from Grand Forks on December 21, 2009
I also am pregnant with number 3. I gained 55 with my daughter (first baby) and 45 with my son (second baby) I have actually lost 5 pounds (im only 6 weeks) with this one, eventhough i have been eating much more. How big were your babies? That can make a difference on how much your gaining. My kids were 10 and 9 pounds! I lost all the weight right away from my daughter, but I still had about 10 pounds on me from my second when I got pregnant with my third. Its harder each time to lose the weight, but if u eat right and exercise you should be fine. Self esteem is touchy and when your used to being trim and fit, it can be very difficult. I also was fit before i got pregnant. I just look at my children and my body image doesnt matter anymore.
E.K. answers from Washington DC on December 22, 2009
Well, here's how mine went. With #1 gained 50-60 lbs, lost 40 of it before #2. With #2, overall, I gained 10 lbs. With #3, I gained about 15 lbs. #1 was 38 weeks, #2 34wks, and #3 was 36 weeks. I would just try to stay as active as possible and get in at least a 30 minute walk daily and do some strength training (other than lifting the the other 2) at least 2 times a week. Have fun and enjoy all of the fun that your kids bring you in the snow.
M.K. answers from Washington DC on December 21, 2009
I don't think that 45lbs is too much to gain, especially since you do it eating healthfully and you do exercise. This must be what your body needs to do to grow healthy babies and keep you healthy also. The fact that it takes you a long time to get it off also says that once you are done childbearing and you take the last of the weight off, it will be more likely to stay off when you are older. Talk to your ob, or even a nutritionist who specializes in pregnancy nutrition just to reassure yourself, but to me, you sound as if you are doing wonderfully.
A.F. answers from Washington DC on December 21, 2009
Doctors say putting on 30 pounds when pregnant is healthy. Your correct to say that 50 is a bit much. Perhaps this time with two kids to care for and keep you going you won't put on as much. Stay as active as you can. Maybe you can think of a fun active sport to do with your children. Perhaps this is just the way your body works. Breastfeeding burns 500 calories a day and it gives your baby the best nutrition. I'm glad you choose to do so.
T.K. answers from Washington DC on December 21, 2009
The same thing happened to me. I was 128lbs before #! and gained 42 then gained 50 with #2. I tried hard with the second to not gain too much weight and as you can see, it didn't work! My wise midwife explained it to me this way. "If you are truly eating sensibly then your body has a predetermined weight it needs to make a baby." I think she's right because both time I lost all the weight and without a lot of trouble. Maybe this is your situation too!
S.P. answers from Washington DC on December 21, 2009
Ugh, baby weight! I totally understand where you are coming from. I gained 55 or 60 lbs w/ #1. Was NOT going to do that again w/ #2! A while after #1 was born & the weight was not coming off easily I got myself a gym membership & started going 3-5 times a week. I lost 20lbs of fat w/ 5 more to lose to get back to my prebaby weight when I became prego w/ #2. So, I kept going to the gym. Everyone said things to me like "oh, you'll be so busy w/ number 1 that it'll be hard to gain any weight" - WRONG! I set the goal of 25-30 lbs, a healthy weight gain for a pregnant woman, tried to focus on gaining a certain amount a week/meeting short term goals/less weight in the beginning & more each week towards the end. I went to the gym M/W/F for about 1 & 1/2 hrs at first, then 45min-1hr at the end. Stopped doing weight training/anything that could strain muscles or restrict oxygen to a certain area. Mainly did cardio (eliptical or treadmill.) Made sure to keep my heartrate at a healthy level. Exercising at a proper rate is actually beneficial, not stressful, for the baby b/c it increases oxygen flow in the body. I continued going until 4 days before #2 was born. It was GREAT! I had loads more energy which def. helped w/ #1. Plus it gave me a nice little break from #1 on those days, too. I was in better shape after the baby was born & managed the post-partem better. I was an inspiration to all the other women at the gym which was super for my self-esteem. Baby loved it - he'd always sleep b/c of all the rythym of the workout. Labor was good, too, had #2 in 10 minutes after I arrived at the hospital! Not exaggerating. One thing I did not do was count calories - with either pregnancy. Ate (healthily for the most part) what I wanted until I was full. If I was hungry again in an hour I ate again! A couple of delicious things that I ate most days:
Oatmeal(not instant) made w/ milk instead of water, add walnuts, flax seeds, blackberries & the best part... some dark chocolate chips for the sweet tooth. Yum. And filling & super healthy.
Eggs. All kinds. Mix some veggies in & some cheese, put some wheat germ in or on - delish & healthy, again.
Quinoa - a COMPLETE protien, yummy nutty flavor. Treat it like a grain/rice. Really good w/ cheese melted in & some sauteed veggies. Find it in the healthfood section.
So, I ended up gaining exactly 30lbs! Highkick! Both babies were healthy & average weights, #1 7lbs 12oz, #2 8lbs,6oz.
Good luck! You can do it!
L.C. answers from Washington DC on December 21, 2009
Congrats on #3!
It sounds like you already live a healthy lifestyle and you know what you need to do after your pregnancy to lose the weight. Every woman is different, as is every pregnancy. I know it sucks being "pregnant fat" but that is a fact of life, it happens. To everyone (that gets pregnant). It sounds like your body just needs to gain more weight when you are pregnant. You can either accept that as your normal and then work your butt off again after your baby is born, or try really hard not to gain as much this time. Walk or work out a little more, try yoga...it did wonders for my 3rd pregnancy!!!, and really watch your caloric intake. You only really need an extra 500 calories a day when you are pregnant.
During my 3rd pregnancy I did all those things and I didn't gain as much as my first 2. I maintained my workout routine through my whole pregnancy, with modifications as I got bigger in the belly. I really loved the yoga, and it helps you breathe more efficiently during labor too! My yoga instructor helped me modify poses and I did the research myself on safe pregnancy poses for each trimester.
I felt healthier and looked better with my 3rd and after she was born I continued my routine and within 8 months I had lost all of my pregnancy weight AND more!
Just remember that you are a mommy and the weight that you gain is for your baby. If you have been able to lose the pregnancy weight then you'll be able to do it again. Enjoy being pregnant and getting all that attention, and don't stress over the weight gain so much.