Pregnancy After Tubaligation

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've had 2 miscarriages and I think it's a very normal emotion to be afraid to have more children, but as you're learning, your emotions to change and unfortunately, it doesn't sound like you got very good advice on this. Your doctor should have advised you to wait a while until you were more emotionally stable so to make sure you wouldn't have any regrets! Now, you have 2 losses to deal with.

I can only say that a reversal would be a great decision and another pregnancy would help you heal. I'm pregnant and I have high risk pregnancies. Everyday can be scary, but I focus on that end result and trust that God is with me through this. Nothing can totally take away the pain of a miscarriage, but it does get easier! I have a good friend who had 3 miscarriages that were physically very difficult. She had to deliver one of them and the last one she lost so much blood they had to do an emergency d & c and give her 2 liters of blood. The good news is she waited a while to get pregnant again and I remember her being so adament that she wasn't going to do it again, but eventually she did and she now has a beautiful baby girl.

If it were me, I would get a reversal and try for another one. You're having a normal feeling.

Good luck with your decision.

Are you a candidate for IVF? I know it is a long, difficult process, but it seems easier than another surgery.

While I don't have any personal experience here, I have heard many stories through my contact with a publication called "Above Rubies". Many women have had wonderful success having babies after a reversal. They even have a book full of people's stories of successful births after reversals. If you go to their website (www.aboverubies.org) and follow the "book/CD store" link to "books" and click on "a change of heart" you can order this book. You may not be thrilled with everything on this website, but you may enjoy that book.

I had a little girl and a little boy who were stillborn. I didn't think I could handle even thinking of trying to have another baby after burying those two little ones. It was incredibly hard. After the little girl died, the doctor said that the chances of another child dying were next to nothing. We got pregnant again and our little boy also passed away. We decided we were done. I don't believe in tubals, Thank God!!! We received the most wonderful surprise of our lives this year. Fortunately I had the right doctors in place and this baby was born healthy. It was the best thing that could have ever happened. I have never heard anyone ever say they wished they wouldn't have had a child. I have heard many say they wish they could have had more. Losing our little ones was heart wrenching. It heart to breath some days, but I know that if we would have been able to keep those babies, we wouldn't have our little Lizzy. Altogether we have six children. I am thankful for each and every one of them. They are all gifts and a feel honored to be their mother.

I know a lady who had a tubaligation and thought she was done having children. When she lost a 4 year old in a car accident, she had so much grief and such a loss that she wished she could have another child. She had a reversal and now is the proud mother of a little girl. While it can't take away the pain and loss of her little boy, she healed holding that little baby. Go for the reversal and I wish you luck.

L.,
I am so sorry for your loss. My husband I suffered two miscarriages at the beginning of your marriage. Then we couldn't get pregnant. I got very sick and had a heart attack when I was 36 and was told not to have a baby. We had tried fertility treatments even so we thought there was no worries. I found out 5 months later that we found out we were pregnant with my angel. I was very ill had a 50% chance of dying. It was very difficult and had an emegency c section. I was told if I got pregnant again I would die. I would give anything to be able to have another baby. I so understand your feelings. In my case I can't because of my health. I hope that if you make that decision it goes well for you. Good luck.

I guess you are asking about chances to get pregnant after tubal ligation.I'd say,it's less then 5%,if the reversal procedure done right,because when they cut them again and reconnect,the scar tissue grow inside and out the tube and there is a big chance of blockage or,worse, tubal pregnancy.
And there is no garantie you can get pregnant after that,only time will tell(and it's another problem-do you have time?It might take forever trying and trying without knowing if it will ever work)
Then ,another problem-the cost involved in reversal.Insurance will not cover this procedure(we are talking around 7-10 grand).
My advise-go for IVF,the same price,but at least you have up to 60% success rates instead of waiting every month and worrying about tubal pregnancy.
Good luck!