Heya... Scanned through, to see if anyone from my age bracket had replied first...
So... I had my son when I was 23 a couple years after discharging from the USMC... and in the past 6 years I have yet to meet a single mum in their 20's. Most of my friends with children are in their 40's (children born betwen 38 & 45), but I DO know 2 in their mid 30's, one in their 50's, and one in their 60's. It's not like I'm a hermit, or anything, it's just the growing trend. There wasn't a single parent of a child in my son's preschool OR kindergarden class who was under 35, and most were in their forties/fifties.
Having children later, just plain makes sense. Typically a person in their 30's/40's is in a better place financially, educationally, emotionally, & career-wise then someone in their 20's. Heck, a person has had an extra 10-20 years of living, under their belts. It's hard NOT to be in a better place. <grinning> My husband and I were PLANNING on waiting four more years from NOW to have our first child. Since our son is 6, you can see how well that plan went.
One thing about this trend though, most mum's in their 40's snub younger mums. I have no real idea why. Mostly, I've learned to keep my age a secret (29, for real), until I've become friends with someone. <laughing> Everyone I know says that they're more tired then they were in their 20's... but then, they didn't have kids then. And they weren't running on 3 hours of sleep a night for 2 years, because they were studying for finals, or working at nights at a crappy job, and taking care of the baby in the daytime. They went to school and worked crappy jobs when they were young, and NO ONE was dependent on them. They didn't have to buy 80 dollars worth of diapers & 200 dollars of formula on their tiny entry-level position job. They just had to meet their friends for drinks & pizza.
Having kids is exhausting at any age. But ooooh boy. So. So. So. Much. Fun. :) :) :)
So put your hands on your hips, look around you... and see how far you've come.If you're in a better place then you were when you were in your 20's, breathe a sigh of relief. If you're in a better place then in your thirties... then throw your arms up and laugh. You'll be fantastic.