L.N. asks from Saint Joseph, MI on December 16, 2008
Preemie
My friend just delivered a 2lb preemie. The baby was due in March, but mom developed a critical syndrome so the docs had to deliver. She is getting great care and so is baby...although he will be in the NICU for several months. Mom has been discharged home and is having trouble bouncing back not only from the C-sec., but from the life-threatening syndrome that caused this whole mess. Grandma (a nurse) and Grandpa are there helping, cooking, cleaning, and hubby is a blessing (so I am told :)) and there are no other children.
My question is; in her shoes, what would you most like to receive as a gift? I know she'll need preemie 'stuff' but having 9+lb babies myself, I have no idea WHAT preemie stuff she'll need. Im sure the needs of a preemie are different but I know nothing about having one. My understanding is that he is doing well, and is expected to come home without tubes, monitors, etc. (Of course things can change but we're praying for the best). Im not close enough to deliver meals to her, but was hoping to put together a variety of things for both her and baby. Suggestions?
~L.
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B.B. answers from Grand Rapids on December 16, 2008
My niece had a baby girl at 23-1/2 weeks and she was 1lb 4oz
in August and may be coming home this week. They ended up buying her some clothes at Build-a-Bear because the preemie ones were too big.
For Mom, books (if she likes to read),meal gift cards.
Don't know where the baby was born, but if that hospital provides rooms where parents can stay a night or so is a great idea too. Spectrum has the Renucci House.
http://www.spectrum-health.org/cs/Satellite?c=eHA_Content...
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B.B. answers from Grand Rapids on December 16, 2008
My niece had a baby girl at 23-1/2 weeks and she was 1lb 4oz
in August and may be coming home this week. They ended up buying her some clothes at Build-a-Bear because the preemie ones were too big.
For Mom, books (if she likes to read),meal gift cards.
Don't know where the baby was born, but if that hospital provides rooms where parents can stay a night or so is a great idea too. Spectrum has the Renucci House.
http://www.spectrum-health.org/cs/Satellite?c=eHA_Content...
M.T. answers from Detroit on December 16, 2008
Blanket sleepers are always good. The ones that do not have legs on the bottom, instead it just looks like a bag and zips up. I had 3 preemies. My triplets were born at 33w5d and came home from the hospital (all 3) at 9 days old.
C.L. answers from Detroit on December 16, 2008
J.L. answers from Detroit on December 17, 2008
Hi L..
I had a preemie, but she was almost 6 lbs (not 2lbs, so not quite the same). She was in the NICU for 8 days. And what I appreciated was that people were just treating her like a normal full term baby (made me start thinking she was "normal" too). Just get her what you would get her even if her baby was not born premature. Yeah, she may need preemie clothes, but that's the extent of special things. She just wants to get back to normal and move forward and probably not dwell on the fact her baby was premature. Just wash your hands really well when you visit and ask her before you touch the baby, she may be nervous about others touching her baby. Hope I helped.
J.G. answers from Detroit on December 16, 2008
Coupons for pizza, a restaurant food delivery service, a house cleaner, etc. You could also do frozen meals that she could pull out of the freezer and bake. Anything that will make her life easier or provide a service that she won't have to do herself.
C.G. answers from Detroit on December 18, 2008
Hi L.~
I had a 24 wkr (1 lb 10 oz) and I needed preemie clothes when he came home for the first time (and they did allow him to wear some the last couple of weeks in NICU). I also really appreciated the Angel Care Monitor my dad bought for us when he did come home. I was so nervous about him sleeping in that big crib all by himself in his own room...the Angel Care Monitor has a sensor on it for breathing. Just a thought, I know they can be pricey but I know it was a big relief for me. I also received gift cards for groceries (Kroger was awesome), restaurant gift cards and gas cards so I could get what we needed. I hope the baby is doing well and gets to come home in a little while. My prayers for the little one and your friend.
J.T. answers from Grand Rapids on December 17, 2008
Hi L. -
My daughter was born at 28 weeks and was 3lb, 3oz. We did need preemie clothes, but were limited in what she could wear while she was in the hospital due to the monitors, IV's, etc. The layette type bag sleepers (open at the end) were usually OK to wear, or you can find special NICU 'approved' clothes from shops online. We needed a few when she came home (4lb 9 oz), and newborn clothes. Most of what we had received as gifts were 0-3 and larger and were WAY too big.
As far as needing 'different' things, as long as they don't go home on oxygen, monitors, or other special equipment they don't really need anything different than normal babies. The best thing that I had that was a big help was the baby bath tub that I had - it was from The First Years called Sure Comfort Infant to Toddler tub. It had a sling that attaches to the tub that cradles babies so they don't slip and tip over like they would reclined in the tub itself. It was great!
Other than that, just normal baby stuff. Toys, books, etc. If you want to do something for mom, I agree with some of the other gals - gift cards for places to eat near the hospital - esp. if she is staying nearby and they don't live close enough to go home at night. Gift certificates for places that deliver or have take out. Places like Main Dish Kitchen (http://maindishkitchen.com/locationhome.asp) allow you to pick up 'home made' food for dinner that night or to put in the freezer to have when they want it. I know you said that you weren't close enough to deliver meals, but what about doing some up ahead and freezing and taking to her. Would she have freezer room for them? I had some people do that for me for #2 and it was nice. Days that I was just too tired to cook I could pull one out and dinner was done.
Sorry this is so long, but I hope it helps. Feel free to contact me off list if you would like.
J.
K.G. answers from Detroit on December 16, 2008
My nephew was a 26 week preemie. To be honest the baby may not need any preemie clothes. The hospital will want the baby to use thier things until he is off most of the tubes and such. My sister-in-law really needed gas cards. She and her husband were making daily trips to the hospital...30 min each way. Resterant GC are also a great help. I also gave my SIL a journal that she said was very helpful.
I will say a prayer for them.
BLessins, K.
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