C.J. asks from Indianapolis, IN on July 29, 2010
Precocious Puberty - Indianapolis,IN
I am seeking advice from any one whom has a daughter with precocious puberty. I don't have a definite diagnosis yet, but we are going Friday for blood tests and a had xray.
My daughter is only 5, but measured 4'1", 66.5lbs. Growing out of size 8 pants and 10/12 shirts. Size 2 shoe.
She does have body odor, rapid growth, acne (small pimples on her face) and "breast buds". - all symptoms.
I felt like her doctor was somewhat discouraging about this whole thing and explained that not all types of precocious puberty can be treated. Perhaps that's just matter of fact, but it was a hard hit on my heart.
My girl was so upset when she started understanding that maybe something is wrong with her or that she's not okay. It's so difficult explaining this to a five year old. I'm hoping to start treating it before she starts her period because I cannot imagine explaining that to her now - not that it has to be about sex and babies, but how do you explain to a five or six year old that they are going to bleed for a few days because they are female?
I am just looking for help on how to cope with this as a momma and how to talk to my daughter about it. I just hope she doesn't have any problems socially or feelings of awkwardness when she starts school this fall.
Any helpful advice is more than welcome and much appreciated!!! Thanks!
R.S. answers from Terre Haute on July 30, 2010
Regardless of her condition start talking with her about becoming a woman. It is a natural thing though be it early. My daughter knew at an early age what pads and tampons were and about having a period once a month. She thinks nothing of it.
This is a crutial time for you to instill in her confidence about herself. Although she is maturing so quickly and she may have a condition, there is nothing wrong with her. This sends a message to her she is "not good enough" - instead she may have a medical issue. - it is all in the wording and the way you handle it. Try not to freak out about it in front of her. she is scared too and looks to you for re-assurance. My daughter is much older almost 10 and I worry she is developing so quickly too, but either way it is something we deal with and pray about. We have to re-assure them each step of the way---even if we are re-assuring ourselves as well.
Sounds like you know not to give her too much information - be brief and factual. I started by having my daughter get the pads for me when I was on my period. When she asked what it was for I said oh when your a women you have a period once a month. - very matter of fact and non-emotional -
Hope this helps. You have every right to be considered and I hope you can find help for her.
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D.H. answers from Indianapolis on July 29, 2010
Take a deep breath........she is going to know how upset you are, thus making her scared even more. Get her looked at.......take it one step at a time. Do some research, which I am sure you have........if this is what she has, then sit her down and explain to her slowly and carefully what is going on..........tell her it could be worse, and give her other examples of really, really bad things.....
http://kidshealth.org/parent/medical/sexual/precocious.html This is what I got when I Googled it........and it appears that there are things that can be done, check it out.....
I will say a prayer for you and your daughter.....hang in there and take care.
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S.M. answers from Cincinnati on July 30, 2010
I just went through something similar just a couple of weeks ago! The only thing my daughter has is a little bit of pubic hair and that is it. But first they did a bone age. Where they took an x-ray of her hand and compared it with other 5 year old hands. At first they told me she had a bone age of an 8 year old. So they had us take her to an endocrinologist. He looked at the x-ray again and said she is more like a 7 year old. So they took a blood test to check for testosterone and a couple of other things but they all came back normal. They told me if it where any worse they would give her medication to stop the puberty from advancing any more. They may do that with your daughter.
I also told them that I was early and she might be taking after me. I used to be one of the tallest in my class up until about sixth grade and now I am only 5'3", go figure! I was the only one in 4th grade that had to wear a bra!! I started my period when I was in 5th grade (10 years old) so I made sure they knew that as well. I know it might be hard for your daughter especially since she has more "symptoms" but I would still try to tell her what is going on with her. I know it will be hard for her to understand being she is only 5 but I would try anyway. Good Luck.
K.F. answers from New York on July 29, 2010
Begin by undoing the damage done already. We all are different. Your daughter is upset because of how her differences have been framed. Growing up I was very thin, my uncle called me Big Slim and my sister was Little Slim. In a family full of big legged girls to be the only two with legs like sparrows does something negative to you when framed negatively. My mom however always told us we had her legs which we did and she was always showing them off even though she is only 4' 10" tall. Fast forward to now and all my big legged cousins are wishing they had my long lean legs. Please frame her story in a positve light.
When you are confident she can learn to be confident too. Some things are taught and others are caught. How confident are you with her situation? You don't want her to catch your angst. A very good friend of mine's daughter blossomed too early but her mom was right there with her all they way. She is now 16, 5' 11" and a typical teenager. Time passes so very fast. As long as you are her advocate with the help from the other women in your circle she will be fine.
I would definitely recommend consulting another doctor as mandatory and not optional immediately. The sooner you know definitively the better prepared you will be and then your daughter can benefit from this too. FYI - my son had armpit stink at 5.
J.F. answers from Toledo on July 29, 2010
I don't think she's all that abnormal personally. My daughter is 6 and just a little bigger than your daughter. Same height, about 5 lbs heavier, same clothing size except we're in a size 3 shoe. My daughter also wears deodorant and it can sometimes be obvious when she doesn't. She also has occasional small pimples on her face...usually when she's been sweaty for a while. I would say the only difference between them is the breast buds. Are you sure that is what they are? It could just be fatty tissue.
D.F. answers from Boston on July 29, 2010
Check out this site, I just looked it up because I have never heard of this. I hope it helps you.