C.V. asks from Whippany, NJ on January 25, 2008
Pre-school for a 2 1/2 Year Old - Whippany,NJ
Is it beneficial for a child to attend a 1 day a week preschool program at age 2 1/2 vs. going the following year? I would like my daughter to get something out of it and the duration of the program is only 2 1/2 hours long.....They say for it's good for independence and socialization. She is right now an only child and isn't around many other children. I find it hard to "cutthe chord" and leave her somewhere else...any thoughts?
M.B. answers from New York on February 28, 2008
I found it to be very difficult to attend 1 day a week. My son was upset everytime I dropped him off. The next year when he went three days, he loved it and had no problem adjusting to the schedule and new friends. I did not send my daughter to the 1 day class because of this. She is doing great this year in her three day class. She was never away from me until that first day of school!!! Good luck
C.R. answers from New York on January 26, 2008
I have a 26 month old daughter who is also an only child and who also stays home with me. I have yet to put her into a daycare but have thought about it just as you have, my thoughts are I would assume it is probably helpful for them to build some social skills as well as a feeling for independence. It will be hard for me to let go but eventually we all have to. Hope it helps just to know that there is another mommy out there who feels the same.
K.C. answers from Syracuse on January 26, 2008
C., As a previous nursery school teacher/assistant, I would first ask you if your daughter has any other type of social interaction with other children, like play dates etc..? I have seen where children are academically ready depending on the interaction that parents have with their child. However, one area that parents need help in preparing a child for pre-school and regular school is the socialization piece. Being that this is a once a week program, she is an only child, this would be a great benefit for her and you. A child can learn most anything academically, but socialization comes with interaction with other children and other adults. Being able to adjust to various personalities and situation such as sharing, seat time and structure will help them adapt to to pre-school programs much easier. I have three children. All of which attended a nursery and pre-school program. They did great, and it was a less stressful situation as they entered kindergarten. They were able to concentrate on the academic portion of kindergarten, while enjoying the socialization piece. Separation bothered me more than them, which is what your hope should be.
A.B. answers from Syracuse on January 26, 2008
personally i think 2.5 is too young for pre-k
here you have to be 3 or 4 for pre-k in like a private setting. most churches do pre-k here. my first never did pre-k. i was home with her all the time and she was so smart and i had been doing daycare since she was 1.5 yrs so the interaction withother children she got that
my 2nd child was 4 weeks premature, had differences from her big sis and had to have speech intervention. still had the same intereaction with the dc kids but she had a thick cord so to speak ;o) attached to me like glue. we did pre-k with her at the reg school but you had to be 4 to participate. now shes in Kindergarten and i see how much it has helped her to grow
JMO but i think if you are considering a pre-k for the 2.5 yr old i would maybe re-consider maybe doing a play-date once a week with another mom and child(ren). you can still be there for your child but he/she is still getting the interaction with other kids you want. my youngest was 2 last august and yes she is attached too and my dc is pretty slow now so she doesnt get the interaction i would like but shes good with other kids and does reasonably ok when i am away from her and i would consider pre-k for her just for more interaction when she gets to be 4 yrs old. shes 2x as smart as my oldest was at this age so learning is not a factor for me for pre-k. some kids need both learning and interaction.
hope this helped and i didnt seem babbling
C.A. answers from Rochester on January 26, 2008
My daughter started about 2 months after she turned 2. She attends 2 days a week because most places I know won't do less than 2. At the time she was also the only child in the home. Since then we have had her brother. It has been wonderful for my daughter because she does like to play with other kids, plus they offer her some structured learning on different themes each month. She enjoys her time there and she is excited when I pick her up. I think it helps her to understand that even when I go away for a little while I will come back. Not to mention it gives mommy a little time. Just enough to run some errands, clean a little or just relax before you get back into constant mommy mode.
Do what you think will be most beneficial for your daughter. YES it will be hard to drop her off the first time, but it gets easier for both of you once you have a routine. Make sure you interview different schools and check every reference possible. Talk to other moms. This can be a very positive experience for you both when you are ready to take that step.
Good Luck. Whatever you do will be right for you.
N.R. answers from Albany on January 26, 2008
At our libraries there are different toddler play groups that are good for socialization and interaction with other children of similiar ages. You don't drop them off but interact with them and other moms or dads of other toddlers. It seems hectic the first few times of going but I enjoyed it while my little ones were not quite ready for a pre-school program.
K.B. answers from New York on January 28, 2008
I say cut the cord! But one day a week for 2 1/2 hours is not a lot of time. The more interaction she has with other little ones, the more prepared she will be for her transition into Kindergarten.
J.M. answers from Buffalo on January 26, 2008
I sat with the same question about six months ago. I have 2.5 year old twins that my husband and I decided to enroll in a 2-year old co-oping program at a local church. I enrolled them knowing that if I ever felt that it wasn't good for them, or us, I could pull them out. Another big plus was that this was a co-oping program where I'm in the classroom with them 1-2 times per month (each of the parents take turns). What can I say - they love it! Not only is it a time for socialization with other kids their age, but they learn! Every time we leave school they have a different project they've made to take home. They learn songs, colors, counting, sharing, problem solving, conflict resolution, etc.
Overall, it's been harder for me to let go than for them to make the transition! Ultimately, it's your decision! If you decide to enroll your daughter, make sure it's in a program that won't penalize you (monetarily) if you should decide that the program isn't for you!
H.C. answers from New York on January 26, 2008
It is totally a decision for you and your daughter. If you really feel she is ready to be alone and you feel you are ready to let her go for a few hours then try it out. It also depends on the kind of enrichment you feel you can offer her, the circle of friends she has already, the time spent with other kids. Myself, I started with the Rockland Parent Child Center mommy and baby playgroup and both my kids got used to being in that environment with me there from the time they were babies. It made the transition to Nursery School pretty seamless as many of the kids from that environment continued on together. I also kept "the cord" intact until I felt we were both ready to let go for a bit. Both my kids are extremely independant and yet their paths to Nursery School were unique to who they were. If you are anywhere near Nyack, I suggest you start with RPCC, you'll gain a lot of insight and it's a great transition.
M.K. answers from New York on January 26, 2008
I think in the case of your daughter being an only child, it is important,
Something she might enjoy, are, sticky fingers, and science classes for toddlers,
We have one around my area, and the parents sit in with the kids,
this way she gets what she needs, and so do you.
try local children and toddlers classes, in your town and nearby towns,
OURS is at the Childrens museum in Bristol CT